I have my own definition of what makes an American ugly - everyone has their own definition based on upbringing, culture, gender, how much one has traveled and more.
For me - it is simply the act of causing a scene that is negative in nature (like a mean, loud, angry scene, not a happy drunk having a good time and not hurting anyone). I cut people a break depending on the environment in which the scene occured.
Sometimes, Americans have a right to stand up to being mistreated and when they do this, it looks ugly, but it is my opinion that there is justified ugly and unjustified ugly and when judging from afar, most people never know what is transpiring so I just let people be people and mind my own business and I don't assume that it is the American who is in the wrong every time.
Now, as for us judging Americans who are not mongers, I just don't think that is fair. I don't think it is fair, because if they knew what I was doing in CR, they'd most likely consider me the evil one for what many in the USA think is taking advantage of the poor, uneducated and blah, blah, blah.
Like Zippy said, if you live in a glass house, best not to throw stones. I simply feel that I live in a glass house so, for me, just for me, I feel that I shouldn't be so eager to judge others when my behavior isn't above reproach.
I monger, but it isn't something I aspire to do day in and day out. I'm more an M-man than an LAL kind of guy though I do tire of being an M-man so I have to switch back to LAL every now and again. In the states, I find a GF and then after I'm with her for a while I start to think about what I'm missing by being with her so I usually do something to screw up the relationship so I can get back to single and then find another GF.... over and over again. Historically, I can hang with a GF for at least a year and usually 2 years maximum and then I'm single for a year. So, if you are still reading this (haha), you can tell that I'm not a hardcore monger.
Bottom line, if anyone truly feels like their behavior as a monger is okay in the eyes of non-mongers then fine by me - I'm actually envious. I feel guilty about it, because I can't talk to anyone else about it except for other mongers (maybe something to do with my upbringing, culture, etc, etc).
Okay, I've explained too much! This is the last time I'll respond to this post so flame away (not that I thought El C flamed me).
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