budmon44 wrote:
They say a smart man learns from his mistakes, but a wise man learns from the mistakes of others. I was hoping to pick the more experienced members' brains a bit since my goal is to one day become wise.
Just saw on the news a 65 year old man repeatedly shot and killed his 59 year old wife. The report stated it stemmed from an argument where his wife complained to him about leaving the coffeemaker on. They followed it up by (of course) noting what a sweet woman she is and how she liked to help people.
So I'm sitting here thinking to myself. "Wow....this dude just finally snapped after decades of nagging. I know it!"
Then I started thinking of some of my married friends and my life and how we are headed down the same path. I'm sure some of you know....the daily nagging, the constant complaining, but never hear the words 'sorry', 'thankyou', or 'I appreciate that.'
And all of this occurs behind closed doors. IE Dr Jekyll in public, but Mr. Hyde in private. Which results in people telling you how lucky you are, but you quietly know the real truth.
Luckily I'm not stuck since I'm still in my 30s and have time to get out and start anew.
Everytime I come back to CR it is like heaven. Just to not here bitching and complaining about trivial things daily.
Then like clockwork, upon returning the bitching starts again (usually day 2).
Divorce has been on my mind almost daily for years now, but something deep inside is stopping me from doing it. Maybe fear of having an 'empty' life or regretting making such a big choice.
Can some of you please give me advice on this matter. I'm in a spot where I can save up comfortably and retire to Central or South America in the future. I know it's ultimately up to me, but would really appreciate your thoughts and opinions about this crossroads in my life.
you know how i feel... and have chosen Freedom