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I met a woman at the Castillo my last trip and we hit it off pretty well on a personal level. My second time reaching out to her she invited me out to a bar in her city about 20 - 30 mins away to hang with her brother and cousin which I politely declined but I wonder if going would be something that's "against the rules" of engagement and not getting caught up in a sticky situation while overseas?

Where? Unusual for a working girl to want you involved in her personal life. No "rules", just common sense would suggest it's not a good idea. If she wants you in her personal life it would almost certainly be for ongoing money support. Which works best if she can have you thinking there is something more.

Why would you want to hang out w her brother and cousin the second time you see a working girl? Chances are you are going to meet her chulo and his buddy looking to size you up. Do you speak Spanish so that you can at least pick up on what they may be saying to each other? Absolutely a case of common sense.
If you're traveling by yourself without a wing to at least give you a different pov on the situation that also leaves you very vulnerable to whatever her intentions are. You're probably a very nice person and from the moment these ladies meet you they are reading your every move as to how to play you for the most money. With rare exceptions that's all it is. If you feel as though you've made a real connection then enjoy but develop some spidey sense.

If one of these girls wants "more" from you, they will let you add them to their personal social media accounts, and ones that are verifiable. Not the account created last week under a stage name full of naked pictures.

Also, they will not mind you messaging them for non business purposes.

To this very day, I have never met a sex worker that is still on exceptionally good terms with me multiple years later. That being said, I do talk to several girls who are on mediocre terms with me now. But there is a difference between being on good terms with someone, and being on so / so terms with someone. A close friend is someone who is going to answer the phone in the middle of the night no matter what, and assist you with a problem. An acquaintance is someone you chat with from time to time, but you know they will never be completely reliable, unlike the people in your life that place very high importance on you.

To me, it will be insane to go to tica bar with her family only met her once. Ask yourself this questions are you from San Jose? At least know that area well. Can you speak Perfect Spanish? Are you about 10 years from this woman? If not no way in hell, I would do it.

So many replies I'll try to answer everything all at once.

My Spanish is very "elementary" I can definitely catch on to conversations between two others. The first time we hung out we spent at least 2 hours waiting for housekeeping to change my sheets before our romp and during that time we spoke about family her showing me photos of her parents, son, gay brother, cousins and group of friends (alive and those that have passed) and me telling her about mine as well, she even went as far as making a joke that she wanted to see her future mother in law . We did become friends on FB too, not sure if it's her real one because nothing is for certain but she has plenty photos of her Ch*ld and other family members on it and is active. She didn't hit me with an extra charge for hanging with me for those 3-4 hours even went and got smoothies together out in Barrio China and when we went our separate ways I asked her how much she wanted and she pretty much said however much I was comfortable giving her (not much more than a cien).

I did send her a message when I got back home asking about some songs she had shown me and she said she wanted to message me after I had went home but felt it was "inappropriate", her words. I'm not looking to be a western union papi or anything like that but It would be nice to have a point of contact so to speak that I can reach out to in the future when I am in town just to kick it. I'm only 29 and she's a year younger than I.

Lastly, when we were done hanging out the second time I did offer to get her an uber since it was getting dark and the place she wanted to be dropped off at was the same bar she invited me to hours previously.

Walk away

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A cynical Monger would probably recall all the great Putas he has known and say there was nothing real about it, just actresses. That Mongering only provides the illusion of attachment, a world we want to believe in, where we possess all these women who love us. But, the reality is, it's just a cash transaction. All an illusion.

Homer Simpson in a recent episode when to the home of a bartender when he thought something more was going on between them, but Homer just got Maced in the face, he screamed "please don't tell me that our transaction was just TRANSACTIONAL".

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Many of us have had long term friendships and often more with working girls. These can be real, meaningful and rewarding. They can also be manipulative, painful, and dangerous. The red flag here is after a couple of sessions on her home turf. Decline and hang with her on a "date" in San Jose if you wish to have a bit more.

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I wouldn't recommend going to an unfamiliar area where you're the sole Gringo! If you do, plan on being the guy who pays for everyone! All Gringos are Millionaires to Ticos in Ticoland. If she wants to see you so badly, she'll come to you! DON'T UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF THE pu*sy!!!

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There is a you tube video where an american man talks with a very attractive chica from MEDELLIN. He agrees meet her at the same place the next day and she shows up with a cute little dog. He asks her to go to his room for some fun. She agrees but needs to drop off the dog at her place. When they arrive at her place she goes into another room and 3 unfriendly guys come down the stairs and the american man ends up in the hospital. You are spending time with her so make sure it is on your turf. Even though you are a young guy don't take that chance.

Yes, I'm familiar with many of the horror stories of the infamous Medellin, thanks for the 2 cents

You’re a young guy and only a year older than her so Maybe there’s a connection but take your time. Meet her where you stay or close by for a meal or movie etc. after a few times then possibly meet the family. Many years ago, there was a really fine gal working at the hotel in Manuel Antonio where I was staying. Not a working gal but worked as a receptionist and waitress. I was younger but still older than she was but didn’t make a move even though I knew her married friend another pretty waitress and we all went out with others a couple times.When I returned a few months later, she was gone. She had met an American her age and they fell in love or something. Anyway, all I’m saying is it is possible but more so with a non working girl. The Pretty Woman thing is only in the movies. For sure see her again but not in her town and family so soon. Good luck though. One last thing. Families, including moms, are often part of the scam to get your money…

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The ones that make you feel they are " different" or "special" and that make you feel you "clicked" with them are merely the most well seasoned and experienced professionals and quickly learn how to WORK you. However, at the end of the day and the end of your stay, it will never be anything more than Work for them. Once you are gone, they will be right back to Work