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Well on here to post to help with my healing process. 47, single white gringo male from the east coast. No K*ds, professional, and have dipped and dabbed in some mongering but am more a romantic/idealist/420 fantasy type of guy. Thought I might have met someone with longer term, out of the box, type of potential but after getting dumped a week ago and reading the boards I'm starting to see things more clearly. I've been in CR 3 times. 1st time for 10 days in 2018, then for 3 months in the beginning of 2021, and now another 3 months starting 8/5. This time I came back for what I thought could be a novia, but man she ended that quickly.

I met a waitress/bartender/server in Puerto Viejo at the main, central restaurant in downtown. I was winding down a 3 month stay at def wanted some companionship but did not and p4p (although one is always). Got a clean shave and rolled up to the bar and met K (26) who was working. From there we spent about 5 days together. Wasn't the most sexual but still worked for me as I was, and still now wanting something more. I spent time with her and her family (Mom, 6 yo son, and 2 younger sisters. We took sights in, ate out, relaxed in the hotel room and it all felt pretty good. No money exchanged, just a gringo footing the bill for activities and meals..

I return to abode on the east coast and we proceed to talk everyday with the intention that I will return. My spanish is not great and her english is ok yet she doesn't make much effort to truly get to know me. Our talks/texts while daily and making me feel connected just appear to have me perpetuating my fantasy. Now in my mind I'm not smitten with this girl, I objevtively think, this won't hurt me, she can't hurt me. Mind you, I'm more comfortable and familiar with being on the losing end of relationships.

I had rationalized in my head that I would send her $50 dollars every few weeks. I heard her stories and am not naive to the dynamic and what I bring to the table. She received these payments graciously and thanked me. About 1 month in she asks if I can get her an electric bike for her commute from home into PV. I look at the prices and realize this is more than I comfortable spending. I decline after researching and say, "let me get settled in and we'll get you one". Time passes, we talk regularly, and I return in early August. Over the prior 4 month I inquire and genuinely feel as if I try to get to know her but learned very little..

So here I am back in Puerto Viejo to see "my amor" as I would regulary express. I thought we we on the same page but she shifted rapidly. The 1st 3 nights I stayed with her in her home with no electricity and 3 houses down from her Mom/siblings. My thinking, let's get into this and see if something more could be here instead of
slow paced, see you a few times per week dating. "I have my friend (period)" she lets me know so I'm not much of a sexual mode but as I have mentioned, no big deal. I'm thinking and feeling out for long term. I had a rental car for the 1st few days. We go look at a place in Punta Cocles that she found but I opted not to rent it for the month. I was not planning on renting a car and it felt a little far from the beach. I should also mention I brought over my 5 month old puppy, Rico. K got to see Rico everyday since I had adopted him and she would say I'm his "Mama" and I will help. K also has dogs and it seemed like a great situation for Rico as I am a 1st time dog owner and it ain't easy.

Well a few things of note that hpn'd the 1st few days were here getting stung and having her face cheeks swell up while on a beach hike. Afterwards, she says, "The sting means that the one who is kissing me will go away"...not a comment that made me feel good obvi. She also shares with me that she wants to go to massage school on a walk one night. Well, fast forward to me renting a place for the week while continuing to look for something longer term. I rent in PV downtown as opposed to some of the other areas and she doesn not approve. Could tell this with her facial expression. So, she distances, says she has other things to do (girls night, not coming over after work, and fewer and fewer txts/calls. I let her know I can see her distancing and ask what's up. Eventually she comes to my place to pick a few things up and I get, "I'm not ready for this, I have work to do on myself from getting hurt". So, she breaks it off. I say I get it and understand, we can be friends. So, I tell her I gotta jump in the shower and get ready for digital/remote work, she leaves..

A few hours later she texts asking for $$ for massage school. I text back, I said I would help when I thought we were together. She texts a little later requesting again, I say, "I'm insulted that you're asking me". She says "no importa". The next day I accidentely dial her and hang up, she texts and asks whattsup and I say it was an accident. That night she sends a picture of me from when we first got together. I don't respond...

I saw her so at the beach yesterday, he and I were in the ocean with pup. She arrived, waved and left with him. I strolled into town last night and saw her working and grooving away..

So, in retrospect I truly believe that I was too much for her and she realized that I wasn't spending like she wanted. I also came to learn that she has another man in town, is very much into her bisexuality and has a girlfriend. All the while apparently heart broken from her domestic violence relationship with someone who I would not want to cross paths with if you know what I mean...

This stings and I'm still in the sting because the reality phucking sucks...I thought this was not a p4p and could be more. Moving on for me will mean leaving Puerto Viejo this Saturday. I have a rental car and plan to set up shop in the Santa Ana/Escazu area for a few weeks. So I came for mi amor, and she ended it rather swiftly...

Read this thread…it also has a link to the famous Roll Tide saga that everyone should read

viewtopic.php?f=2&t=52979

One born every minute…….

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I am NOT a Cien Boy!!

Go spend one week in Medellin and you will be high 5ing yourself she broke it off!

CostaReeker

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Don't try to understand 'em, just rope 'em down and brand 'em...

Yes but a paisa who knows her stuff would have done a better job sucking the money out this dude!

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Why settle for just one woman when you can enjoy them all?

I find it quite interesting that a waitress, who has seen, handled, and learned from thousands of different tourists, gringos, and locals at her job, could cause such an emotional reaction, and a lengthy, love smitten detailed trip report from the OP's first post

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Having too much fun. 8)

Emotional reactions and being smitten are not uncommon. Some don't write about it, but good on you for doing so. And whether it is possible to find true love remains an open question, the bigger question is whether it even exists. I think it is a thing that does not exist anywhere except in the imagination, and all of our relationships are combinations of various elements. So you may be able to find something that works, but it probably won't look anything like what our imaginary "true love" scenario might be.

PR is alive and posting
Bring on the emojis
Regards, 911 Driver

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The happy hour is a device either for getting rid of social obligations hurriedly en masse or for making overtures toward more serious social relationships, as in the etiquette of whoring.- Brooks Atkinson

She really did you a favor by dumping you like she did. As Phoenix Rising stated earlier, a more seasoned woman would have recognized your state and milked you for significant cash before finally cutting you loose. She let you go relatively unscathed. Take that as a plus and move on remembering that falling in love with pros or even semi-pros is usually not a good idea.

If you have to stay in country, get yourself a room at the Sportsmens or Castillo and have a good time. There are plenty of women there to enjoy to get over your "heartbreak" and there aren't many there you will mistake for someone to turn into a long-term novia.

Invoke the Vegas Bob cure!

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Why settle for just one woman when you can enjoy them all?

[quote="Phoenix Rising"]Invoke the Vegas Bob cure![/quote

Rico47 the Vegas Bob cure is to go out and phuck 5 different girls and if you still have feelings for the girl then go out and repeat with 5 more then you will be cured

Yes take five chicas, repeat as needed, then call if you have any further symptoms.

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" Omit no happy hour that may give furtherance to our expedition."

Five a day or all at once? One option might cure you, the other kill you.

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If you let the devil ride, he's gonna want to drive

Yes that's a lot of Viagra. No one said that there wouldn't be any side effects, especially a money hemorrhage.

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" Omit no happy hour that may give furtherance to our expedition."