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Author:  patwinters [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 12:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
Hello,
I tried searching for a similar post as this but could not find one. If someone has asked this question in the past I apologize. If there is a topic on this already started please send me the link..

I am in search of any advice that may help me going forward.

A few years ago I married a working girl and brought her back to live with me in the USA(despite all the advice on this site haha) . After a year we had a great baby girl.

Unfortunately, besides the Ch*ld , the last few years have been a disaster. She is constantly upset with me/Ch*ld/dog, Jealous and accuses me of being with other woman (I am not and have not been since the marriage). Every time I am on my phone or computer she thinks i am talking to other woman(keep in mind she is on her phone/tablet all day everyday , even at dinner with my family etc) . All in all just acting crazy. Despite me encouragement she has never learned English, to drive or made any friends. It is almost like she never wanted to be here. During the pregnancy and now she threatens to return to CR and never let me see my Ch*ld again.

I think a divorce is in the future and was wondering if I had any rights as far as my Ch*ld goes.
Can she legally just take her and move back to CR? Can I fight to get custody? She has never worked in her life(besides being an escort). She has no money, uneducated, never had a normal job, broken family, hates her father etc. etc.

I know if she returns to CR with Ch*ld they will live in a crappy roach filled house with her grandmother while she goes out looking for tricks.

I am not even sure if I can raise this Ch*ld alone but I know her best chance for a nice, educated life would be in the US. with me.

thoughts? Advice? Has anybody out there had this happen?

Thanks
Author:  BashfulDwarf [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 1:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
Talk to an attorney.
Author:  Orange [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 4:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
FYI-I'm not an attorney. But I know that she can't just take the Ch*ld and move back to CR. It's called international parental kidnapping.

Does the Ch*ld have a passport? If not, she would have to apply for the passport. If the Ch*ld was born in the US, she will need you to get the passport. You both must be there to apply for one. (There have been cases of one parent forging the other's signature on an affidavit stating that the other parent can't attend.) But if she's a typical CR hooker, she wouldn't be able to find the passport agency, much less finding and completing the form correctly with the necessary supporting docs. If there's no passport, I wouldn't sweat it.

If the baby already has a passport, there could be a problem if she has the money for the airfare. She can take the baby out of the country. I can't speak to the legality of it. I know for a fact that when there's a divorce and court order for shared custody or visitation, she would be breaking the court order by doing this. When you are still married, I assume you have the same rights to see your Ch*ld so I assume it's illegal but talk to a lawyer. Costa Rica is in the Hague Convention for such Ch*ld abduction cases, but I don't know whether they would extradite her or return the baby to you or what. See above post, talk to a lawyer for legal advice.
Author:  patwinters [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 6:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
Thanks for the advice Orange,

Yes, the baby does have a passport. I am worried that she will take the K*D and passport and skip town to CR. Once she is down there I am sure it would be much more difficult to get her back. I doubt she would have the intelligence or cash to buy a ticket and get to the Airport but someone could always help her.

Sounds like at a minimum I should take the passport away.(Even though I know the wife would flip out after I did that)

I posted this as I was just curious if any one else out there had something similar happen and what the result was.

I will contact a Lawyer.

Thanks
Author:  BashfulDwarf [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 7:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
Yes, contact a lawyer and don't tell them you first requested advice from a whoremongers forum. :mrgreen:

You as the USA parent can block the Ch*ld's passport by making a call to the appropriate office in your state. My ex pulled that on me. I require a certified letter from her granting me permission to travel with my daughter.
Author:  rwelker66 [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 7:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
This may sound a little harsh but send her back to the CR on the next flight out! Life is too short to be miserable!!
Author:  Hank [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 10:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
if she thinks you are talking or communicating with other chicas when you are on the computer it's a good bet she thinks that because that is what she is doing on her tablet. My ex was always accusing me of lying and being with other women because that was what she was doing every chance she got :idea: :idea:
Author:  OldScout [ Thu Jan 21, 2016 10:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
No the staff

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Author:  costareeker [ Fri Jan 22, 2016 12:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
patwinters wrote:
Hello,
I tried searching for a similar post as this but could not find one. If someone has asked this question in the past I apologize. If there is a topic on this already started please send me the link..

I am in search of any advice that may help me going forward.

A few years ago I married a working girl and brought her back to live with me in the USA(despite all the advice on this site haha) . After a year we had a great baby girl.

Unfortunately, besides the Ch*ld , the last few years have been a disaster. She is constantly upset with me/Ch*ld/dog, Jealous and accuses me of being with other woman (I am not and have not been since the marriage). Every time I am on my phone or computer she thinks i am talking to other woman(keep in mind she is on her phone/tablet all day everyday , even at dinner with my family etc) . All in all just acting crazy. Despite me encouragement she has never learned English, to drive or made any friends. It is almost like she never wanted to be here. During the pregnancy and now she threatens to return to CR and never let me see my Ch*ld again.

I think a divorce is in the future and was wondering if I had any rights as far as my Ch*ld goes.
Can she legally just take her and move back to CR? Can I fight to get custody? She has never worked in her life(besides being an escort). She has no money, uneducated, never had a normal job, broken family, hates her father etc. etc.

I know if she returns to CR with Ch*ld they will live in a crappy roach filled house with her grandmother while she goes out looking for tricks.

I am not even sure if I can raise this Ch*ld alone but I know her best chance for a nice, educated life would be in the US. with me.

thoughts? Advice? Has anybody out there had this happen?

Thanks

I thought this was me writing the situation is so similar. The Spawn of Satan used to threaten me with the same exact thing, only she would be going back to Honduras. The Twins still do not have a passport because of her threats to take them away & I'd never see them again, blah-blah-blah. Although now they probably wouldn't even want to go down there. They are 17 btw. Take the passport & destroy it. Your Ch*ld cannot get another one without your permission. Or put it in a Safe Deposit Box at a bank & don't tell your wife about it. When she finds out the passport is gone & starts bitching, tell her to STFU because the reason you did it was due to her irrational threats.

Do not be held hostage by this irrational control freak. You are in the US, you're an American & she doesn't speak English or drive. The ball is in your court...keep it there. Do some research on The Hague Convention! Start here... https://travel.state.gov/content/childa ... e-app.html

The shift of power & control is 100% in your favor. Please do not let this woman bully you into doing something you don't want to do.

The next time she threatens to leave and take your baby, call her bluff and tell her she is welcome to leave at anytime by herself & you'll gladly pay the plane ticket.

I've been there & done that. It is a dark and seemingly lonely place where you are at right now, but again you have all the power & control and just don't know it!

Good luck my friend, keep us posted.
Author:  CaptainCohiba [ Fri Mar 04, 2016 11:18 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
costareeker wrote:
patwinters wrote:
Take the passport & destroy it. Your Ch*ld cannot get another one without your permission. Or put it in a Safe Deposit Box at a bank & don't tell your wife about it.

Great advice. Do that now. It is good insurance and will give you peace of mind. One parent can't take a minor out of the country without written permission from the other anyway.

Your baby was born here and you want to fight for her on your turf here in the US. If you are 100% certain you can't work it out, filing for divorce has its advantages because it gives that county's court jurisdiction and during the process neither of you can attempt to move wit the baby.

And yes, consult with an attorney asap. And you will lose something financially as well but no price on peace of mind.
Author:  Ilv4play [ Fri Mar 04, 2016 1:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
With K*ds involved if you really care about the K*ds future and want to be a part of their lives, HIRE the best attorney you CANNOT afford.
Author:  Topdoggie [ Sat Jul 16, 2016 4:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice on Divorce w/Ch*ld living in the US
In order for her to board a flight she needs both parents signatures period. As mentioned earlier, their are rules in order to protect against this. However, you need an international attorney not a regular one here. They are all easy to refer you as they get 20% on the referral...

But I agree with the gents here... Cut your losses bro. Let her go and simply send money... If she has not found friends or tried to adapt here, you said it yourself..

Best advice - it's ok to make a mistake bro, but continuing to make the mistake only makes it worse. 2 things, the jealousy is part of the culture - period. It's not going away. Have a come to Jesus meeting and resolve. If not, cut bait bro. As I was told years ago here... Trying to domesticate these girls is like turning Godzilla into a house pet... No offense to your lady bud, but don't continue to make the mistake. One final try then send her home. You might see her change her tune a day before the flight leaves bro....
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