patwinters wrote:
Hello,
I tried searching for a similar post as this but could not find one. If someone has asked this question in the past I apologize. If there is a topic on this already started please send me the link..
I am in search of any advice that may help me going forward.
A few years ago I married a working girl and brought her back to live with me in the USA(despite all the advice on this site haha) . After a year we had a great baby girl.
Unfortunately, besides the Ch*ld , the last few years have been a disaster. She is constantly upset with me/Ch*ld/dog, Jealous and accuses me of being with other woman (I am not and have not been since the marriage). Every time I am on my phone or computer she thinks i am talking to other woman(keep in mind she is on her phone/tablet all day everyday , even at dinner with my family etc) . All in all just acting crazy. Despite me encouragement she has never learned English, to drive or made any friends. It is almost like she never wanted to be here. During the pregnancy and now she threatens to return to CR and never let me see my Ch*ld again.
I think a divorce is in the future and was wondering if I had any rights as far as my Ch*ld goes.
Can she legally just take her and move back to CR? Can I fight to get custody? She has never worked in her life(besides being an escort). She has no money, uneducated, never had a normal job, broken family, hates her father etc. etc.
I know if she returns to CR with Ch*ld they will live in a crappy roach filled house with her grandmother while she goes out looking for tricks.
I am not even sure if I can raise this Ch*ld alone but I know her best chance for a nice, educated life would be in the US. with me.
thoughts? Advice? Has anybody out there had this happen?
Thanks
I thought this was me writing the situation is so similar. The Spawn of Satan used to threaten me with the same exact thing, only she would be going back to Honduras. The Twins still do not have a passport because of her threats to take them away & I'd never see them again, blah-blah-blah. Although now they probably wouldn't even want to go down there. They are 17 btw. Take the passport & destroy it. Your Ch*ld cannot get another one without your permission. Or put it in a Safe Deposit Box at a bank & don't tell your wife about it. When she finds out the passport is gone & starts bitching, tell her to STFU because the reason you did it was due to her irrational threats.
Do not be held hostage by this irrational control freak. You are in the US, you're an American & she doesn't speak English or drive. The ball is in your court...keep it there. Do some research on The Hague Convention! Start here...
https://travel.state.gov/content/childa ... e-app.htmlThe shift of power & control is 100% in your favor. Please do not let this woman bully you into doing something you don't want to do.
The next time she threatens to leave and take your baby, call her bluff and tell her she is welcome to leave at anytime by herself & you'll gladly pay the plane ticket.
I've been there & done that. It is a dark and seemingly lonely place where you are at right now, but again you have all the power & control and just don't know it!
Good luck my friend, keep us posted.