Shit, let me try this again. Just got timed out.
RoadMN - yeah, the experiences you have do tend to harden you. That's a good thing.
LAdiablo - No worries. I wasn't trying to sound angry, so sorry if it came across that way. If I'm angry at anyone, it's me for being a dumbass.
I probably could see her again if I wanted. After all, just like you guys, I have money and she wants/needs it. But I doubt it would be the same. The GFE was great. I can't imagine, after seeing that my "perception" of her was wrong, that I would be able to enjoy the GFE in the same way. If I ever see her again and feel the urge, I'll just take her for an hour or so and do the deed. Maybe pound it a little extra hard. But no spending hours with her, buying her drinks (and for a little thing, she sure can drink a lot). Just money for service.
And you are right, this is not really being burned. Maybe I just touched my finger on a hot stove. All I really lost was time. But on a short trip, losing a whole day is a lot to lose. But, again, it was my fault for believing the lies (probably because I hadn't caught her in one before) and waiting for her to call and come over. Why they'd rather lie than be honest, I still don't quite understand (although others have tried to explain it from a cultural perspective). What am I going to do to her if she's honest and tells me...I don't really like you that much...or I can get more money elsewhere....or I can't stand to spend another day with you....or I'd rather sleep after collecting money from you for two days. Nothing. Rather, I would have at least respected her for telling me. But that's too logical right?
Lennydo - thanks for reminding me about the Rolltide posts. I remember reading them a while back. I need to re-read. In fact, I've been reading a lot of posts in other sections of the board (particularly this one), just to remind myself of the experiences of others. I obviously failed a grade and need to get some tutoring to get back on track! I need to go back and refresh on those Rolltide posts.
I wrote several of the reply posts while I was sitting in the airport waiting for a flight (not at the SJO airport - I left Monday). As I boarded the plane and sat down, I kind of reviewed the posts and replies in my mind and just had to start chuckling to myself. How ridiculous!
I have been doing this for about 10 years now, I guess. I've been going to SJO twice per year (3 times so far this year) for about 4 years. My trips are usually for about 4-5 days. I've almost always had good experiences before (and the few bad experiences were just bad performers and nothing more). Maybe it's because I always stuck to the gameplan and did ST sessions. I never took chicas out to dinner or paid for their drinks for hours. Unless it's a girl with good English who has some education, what's the point? I never did a TLN (until the favorite). I never looked at one for a possible "wife up." And it was OK. But as many times as I've been in SJO, I'm still not quite comfortable with the workings of the scene.....meaning the girls' mentality and behavior. And I'm not connected to any locals (ticos) either. I feel at home in SJO in one way, but off my game in another way. And because of that, I made a mistake of using the wrong head to make a decision on a trip. I started going to SJO because of the convenience factor. Cheap, direct and short flights from home. Ready-made action. Lower quality chicas and higher prices, but that's the trade-off.
You see that my handle is CL. That's for good reason. I love Colombia. That was the place I first began mongering years back - in Medellin and Cartagena. I still go to Colombia quite a bit, but for other reasons, so my mongering there has tailed off almost totally. I have a soft spot for Medellin - the weather, the city, and, of course, the hot, cheap and skilled chicas. I never had problems with any chicas in Colombia. Of course, there were little things like being a bit late, but that's about it. I think part of the reason was that I managed to get myself connected to locals, both gringo and, more importantly, Colombianos. The locals (Colombianos) I knew had my back if I needed it. If some girl caused me a problem and I wanted to send a message, the guys were more than willing to send a message for me. They knew how to control a barrio girl (the ticos don't seem to quite get that). Really never had to do it, but it was nice knowing it was available.
The problem with the girls in SJO is that they are not accountable. They screw over gringos left and right and what can we do about it? Some guys are good at kicking a chica out of their room if the performance is not as promised - good for them. Maybe we can make a report and warn guys about a bad chica on CRT (but how many really pay attention). But we, as gringos, really have no way to punish poor performance or bad behavior. Not saying all chicas would learn lessons quickly, but with time they might....at least some of them. And we'd (or at least I'd) feel better knowing that they didn't get away scott free (I believe in teaching lessons...but that's another story). Guess the best we can do is to keep reminding ourselves that it is our money and we are buying a service and that we need to do the best we can, when we have them in our control (i.e., before the money is exchanged), to keep control and get what we pay for. I'll need to re-read this post next time I'm heading to SJO, I guess.