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IMHO you have two extremes that many of the Colombian girls encounter; the nicey-nicey Gringo who goes way overboard in being nice, generous and helpful (sometimes as a result of his own insecurity) at one and and then the macho-prick Colombiano/Latino who treats them like dog dirt on the other end of the spectrum. There is of course a whole bunch of in-between.
I feel the most effective practice if you are looking for something long-term with a Colombiana is to take parts of both sides of the equation and put them together. Have the nice and easygoing qualities of many Gringo's, but don't do it out of weakness, neediness or insecurity. Also, while you are being nice and easygoing etc., be dominant in a polite way. Take charge, make the rules and enforce them. If she doesn't like it too bad. That said, be very fair in how you make and enforce the rules, kind of a benevolent Dictator. Be sharp and let her know in no uncertain terms that while she may be sharp- you are sharper. The power roles need to be clearly defined, and if you don't define them, she will. If she defines them it will almost always not be to your benefit as she will have already lost respect for you for not being man enough to take charge and define those rules in the first place. Once they lose respect for you as a man, they will often act out and become more and more unruly as they are being both spiteful because your lack of manliness is unpleasant for them and also to try to goad you into acting more masculine.
I think it's also very important to pre-qualify any girls you are going to get into a long-term emotional relationship. Be very wary of their socio/economic standing. If possible get a a girl with some or a lot of her own money and/or family money. Try to find someone educated or with a career. If you go on the lower socio/economic spectrum, because of the closeness of family etc., you will likely wind up being the go to person for every family emergency that involves money- whether they are real emergencies or not- and also for quite a bit of the extended family and pets. If you do wind up with a lower socio/economic girl, its best to let them know very early and very clearly that your funds are limited, that you have a bunch of obligations etc an can't be a human wallet- also that you are well aware of many foolish Gringos who get taken advantage of and that that type of behavior makes you sick.
Truly excellent post CasaV. Colombianas, especially the hot ones are sharks. If you have one small drop of blood, the sharks will come and eat you alive. Just the way it is in Colombia.
I have told the story of a guy who dated the tia of a good chica friend. He brought a girl from Bogota to SoFla. He was a wealthy construction company/land developer. Brought the "ex' puta to the states. Married her. Soon came her "tio." Long story short, this was her novio. She tried to divorce and marry the novio. Story was uncovered in time to have her deported for fraudulent marriage. Still cost his old ass a TON of money and heart break. I am currently in favor of keeping visa requirements for Colombian nationals strict and virtually unattainable. Can anyone make a case to the contrary?
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