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I am living or at least doing an extended stay here in CR and I feel like may be on to something as far as an observation on hooking up to non-pro Ticas.

My theory about CR is the man is considered the real commodity here. Assuming the man can support himself confortably. Many of the Ticas simply can not manage, (even if they are working), or believe they can not manage to their lives both economically and practically.

This dynamic enforces the macho attitude the Tico men may often have here.

I going to perform a test of my theory. The next time I approach an attractive Tica who I am able to make eye contact with, I am going to assume she thinks I am the real prize. Regardless of age difference or other compatible demographics. I am going to let her know, I have selected her and that I willing to entertain the possibility of her companionship. This is a reversal of what I feel is the way things usually go.

Any thoughts on my theory ?

I think it's great.. Generally this doesn't work particularly if the chica is out of your league in the looks department but the sentiment is something I can stand behind %100..

Of course (to me) this could be all irrelavant if the guy cannot speak fluently thus locking him in monger status. I dig the attitude though and if you pull it off, is generally a turn on for women..


Cujo

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Simulation of machista mentality by a gringo... I have used this theory in dating latinas actually I learned it here on CRT . My experience is that confidence is highly regard quality by woman ,um we cant fake it, they know .. But IF you really dont give a damn and KNOW you are a catch then you are in good. Woman want one thing more then anything that is this -http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/44_relationship_expert.html its challenge .. read this article it s pretty good this guy did a study of thousands of woman and found one thing they all looked for in there man .. they always had to chase him .. The guy is an old ,outdated player but his study is spot on if you ask me.

Ever notice when you really chase a woman and try to hard it never works out? then the one you blow off comes running? Its simple psychology ..just simulate blowing off a hottie and she will feel like the fatty you blew off and want you more? who knows lol one thing I can say is that I never let a woman know too much about me ,im always a mystery and a challenge and keeps them on there toes . its happening right know on messenger .. ttyl .

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I think we got off track here. I am suggesting that many Ticas out there are looking for bread winner (period). A financial sponsor for the offspring they already have and would have with me.

I think I can pull this off because I really don't give a dam. I think the realistic chances of meeting someone at this point in my life that I am truly attracted to, and has the other qualities I require (integrity, responsibilty, education, INDEPENDENT) for a meaningful relationship are slim to none. Sorry but I think that train has left the station. I just don't meet many 45+ ladies that are actually attractive to me.

It just somehow seems the only other options are mongering or playing the game as I outlined and making the best of it at least until the miracle Tica comes along.

The other reason I don't give a dam is that I know the affections of these dependent ladies are not founded on anything more that what I can provide financially.

Since I am the potential financial sponsor (i.e. the real commodity) I am doing the interviewing and determining who will pass my scrutiny.

"I don't give a damn" is an excellent approach...
But remember, sometimes you may just get what you ask for.

Your theory is spot-on! Test it in full effect. You will be happy with the results.

Pardon me but I'm confused as to what you expect your outcome to be. It seems that what you're doing or attempting to do is done by many men in the U.S and around the Western world. It's called, PUA (pick-up artist). Essentially, through "not caring" you increase your value to the intended target(the girl). Naturally, this creates a desire in most females to find what is different or unique about you. You're confident, easy going, and possess a devil may care attitude that makes you a "bad boy." In addition, while the female is coming on to you you increase your social dominance through "push-pull" and "neg-hits." Once you've spiked her "interest level" to monumental proportions and you've screwed her brains out, brought her to orgasm 10 times, and had her buy YOU drinks, dinners and various other items that you could care less about(cause after all you're a bad boy ). This process is repeated numerous times and because you know it will succeed you decide to go for the hottest chicas(9's and 10's). Wash, rinse, and repeat.

Am I fairly close here?

To be fair, I don't know you or anything about you. I must say though that an experiment such as yours is highly unnecessary. This is not the U.S. where women are often complete and total bitches. This is CR and the women live "closer to the bone." Your exercise is somewhat futile in that these women will have you just because your a gringo and you've got a few bucks. You're already high-value for goodness sake!

Why would it be important to show your dominance in an environment such as this?

What will you have learned after doing what you want to do? That CR chicks can be had by "telling them who's boss?" Better yet, that they'll do anything for money?

Other than your own ego, what would you be proving to yourself or to the girls?

Is P4P enough or is more validation from unknown sources needed?

If you really don't care then why is it important that you display alpha characteristics to the chicas?

How's your Spanish? Take it from me, that 1 yr in high school or college ain't gonna cut it.

Does non-pro pu*sy taste, smell, or otherwise look any different from a puta's pu*sy?

These questions I just asked should be answered. I don't think your approaching this in the right frame. The confidence that you need to exhibit to do what your doing should not involve asking a forum of mongers who, albeit well intentioned, have no idea as to what game you have in mind. This is a forum of payers not players. To be a successful PUA or "Don Juan" the confidence needed is something that you ARE with continuing improvement, mistakes, trials and successes. You can't fake it. Going to CR on an extended stay to let the ladies know how much of an awesome Don Juan you are so that you can lay claim to getting "free" non-puta sex and prizes is sadly misplaced.

I'm not trying to pick on you or any of that. This is just one mans opinion here. Believe me, I once thought as you did. I even did what you intend to do with some success in my area. Nevertheless, I encourage your experiment for the simple reason that if I told you otherwise my advice would go unheeded, you'd question my PUA/Game/credentials, and you'd do what you thought best regardless.

Good luck.

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Yo, I'm off on a Jett/relaxed to the monger set/
Got the chica pro-flo headed out the doe/
Got cien dollar bills-n-bags for my Del Rey shags/
Scoping out Tica heels wit the flaca feels/
No novia para me cause its extra fee, not "free"/
Gonna get a Pura Vida meeta not a gringa skeeza/
Dis is how it goes wit hoes in Santa Joe's/
No need for the true player/just a true payer
Ya dig?

Just learn how to dance and you will need no other skills.

haha This triggered a memory from early last week. Thought about you Cujo. Was sitting downtown and witnessed something funny. Gringo spoke fluent Spanish, but he was a geek. Had no game whatsoever. He was working this girl and the faces she was making before making her getaway was priceless. I think if guys are going to step out of p4p they have to have the second characteristic you always mention too, and that is "game". A geek is still a geek and a guy is still inept with women regardless of his language. Think about it. If you were horrible with women in your native language, why would you be better in a second language, even if fluent. Moral of the story is ya still gotta work on more than Spanish if you wanna play at the non pay level.

No, but that sounds more like a self confession. The OP just wanted to put some machismo in his game and I encouraged that. Not the extreme chauvinism kind but just enough to increase personal virility and to put more bravado in the step. The result it's given me is that it helps separate the good from the bad, new favoritas from duds, the ones that go the extra mile vs. the ones that ask for tips before the session starts, ones you could actually call in an emergency vs. ones that will laugh at you, ones that will steal from you vs. ones that will make your bed, etc. etc. etc. I'd hope the same result for anybody, including the OP.

If you are in a hooker establishment, it won't matter either way, she is only looking at your wallet. However, outside of that, Ticas (chicas) like men who are men. They like muscles. They like power and yes they like the financial security that comes with money.

Are they like gingas? Hell NO!!! Ticas like being women, whereas, gringas want to become MEN. They are proud of their bodies and show it off. They do not like weak men. They don't really care about intellectual things, at least I haven't met any.

Thus, you're approach would work, if you have the things to back it up.... muscles, power, money and good looks will help!

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Jersey Gringo, here in Florida we call it Running Dog Theory. Have you ever noticed that when a dog gets loose, a woman will chase the dog all over the yard. A man will just go get some food and call the dog. For some reason a woman just has to chase after what she can't get to come to her by calling. Don't try to understand it. Just accept it as Running Dog Theory. It seems to be more true than not, even in the US.

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This is a very interesting discussion to me because I am now living down here and trying to play on this kind of level.

I have had some good experience in the states with a related game and was able to hone it over a period of time and get a system that works for me. Some background. There are tons of college chicks in the states that will Phuck you for money. Most of the time without a condom, if you so choose :0) . They certainly do not consider themselves to be whores and they do not want to you consider them that way either. I have played this game off and on for the last few years and its pretty simple really if you have some time and money. At the end of the day its pretty much a GFE and that is what I am in to. Anyway, they are in school and always have more expenses than what they can cover plus they want clothes, make up, jewelry, etc. It is still QUITE amazing to me how these young (19-22) hot girls can be turned so quickly and easily. They are hot but poor college girls that can be turned into what we might think of as semi pros are at least Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby which is a phrase I have not heard much in CR. Anyway when playing THIS game I found that you look at how hot they are first, and there are plenty of 7s, 8s, 9s, and occasionally even a 10 in most areas of the US. (You can also combine this game with travel.) Then, how sophisticated are they? City girl, country girl, etc. Then assess their financial situation, private or public school, student loans, car or no car, job or no job, etc. In doing so you can quickly get a read on what their overall situation is. Then and only then, if you want them, you show confidence, maybe a little romance, and you are NICE (they really seem to appreciate the NICE part) to them in doing so and then you cut right to the heart of it and exceed their financial expectations just a bit, whatever those might be. The key word being exceed. It becomes a pleasant surprise to them and you will see it in their reaction right away, if successful. Now they have the mentality of this arrangement being even better than what they thought it was going to be. 9 times out of 10 you will have them in your room, house, whatever on the first meeting and they will be taking your pants off and you will be phucking their brains out and overnight. You now own them. They will be happy to continue this arrangement on a daily, weekly or monthly basis. Of course it goes with out saying you to need also be reasonably attractive to them, successful with a good story and some examples to back it up, and ideally not married which is what most of them seem to prefer. So this game works and it works in the states just fine. The cost. Most of these chicks are looking for $800-$2000 on a monthly basis (dependent upon all the various factors above regarding their situation), unless they are models in NYC or LA and then they are looking for $10,000-$20,000 but you get the idea. So in order to play this game you have to have some good disposable income to throw their way because if not they will go away quickly. To the positive, with most of them you will not be hounded with crazy or frequent RFM's. Very very few have Ch*ldren to take care of or worry about. And by making the right deal up front and sweetening the pot just a bit, they are very happy with the deal already. You can see the $$$ going off in their heads and as they run the numbers mentally on how you just dramatically changed their lifestyle and overall situation for the better. And you will have a GFE with ALL the trimmings pretty much at your disposal. Because that is what they also like to consider it; DATING, not whoring around. DATING.

So... long story...this is the type of game, in general, I am looking to play in CR, and ideally of course at a reduced level of expense, although honestly I just want to play the game because this is the game I want. And it doesn't have to be college chicks but their situation of being young and hot, needing money, being busy studying and maybe working also gives YOU more freedom to play this game, other games, work, make money so you can keep paying them, gamble, watch football with the guys or whatever the hell it is you are also into. But as I am learning in CR, the rules are different, the approach is different, the girls are different, ticas, nicas, columbianas, dominicanas, etc. I am decent with the language and committed to continued improvement in that area as I try and just use spanish all the time with everyone at the store, bank, mall, restaurant, whatever. It is not where it needs to be but I realize the importance of the language and continue to work on it each and every day. And I am fortunate to have 4 years of spanish at the secondary and university levels. I am living in the city and working on integration with everything that CR has to offer. As the other posts here before point to, in order to be successful here at this type of level, you really need the total package. So I appreciate the discussion as I am trying to develop the total package that works here for me. I also appreciate all comments, feedback and suggestions. In particular, comparing and contrasting what works in the states with what works down here and what does not.

With my previous game, as I described above, there is very little chase. It is simply not necessary if you want to cut out the chase and instead cut to the chase scene. I used to chase them, they chase me or whatever and then in applying my business experience, it comes back to me -- time kills deals. You chase them back and forth, email, text, phone, and the time passes, they get busy, or distracted, school is out, holidays, or another opportunity comes along for them or whatever. And then you lose them before it even starts. Not good, not good. So over time I cut out the chase and only talk to them for the purpose of setting up the first meeting and then after doing the research, asking the right questions, assessing the situation, I proceed to get right to business at first meeting and I cannot recall a situation where it did not work, except for the ones that I passed on. And I have plenty of situations that demonstrate this all across the country. But in CR ... ?

Also in the states these deals can be advertised in various ways by both sides and are easy to find. I have never had enough time or money to take advantage of every situation and had to pass on as many as were successful because of it. So in CR, I also need to figure out who is advertising so as not to waste time and money with 10 different ones, interviewing and asking the right questions, only to find the 1 or 2 out of 10 who are actually open to the idea and interested in making a deal.

Sorry but if you call them,"columbianas" I can't say your are decent with the language. There is no such thing. You may be thinking of "Colombiananas!"