Azsunnydaze wrote:
All I am asking is has anybody has had success in relationship with working girl.
It all depends on how one defines "success" in a relationship whether it be a working chica or a non pro.
There are so many factors, opinions, ideas, needs, desires involved that, YES, one can say they have/had a successful relationship, but to someone else it might not seem like a successful relationship.
How much time does it take to be a successful relationship?? a month, 3 months, 6, a year, a life time? both parties being fateful? true love or lust? stc. etc. etc.
Personally, when I first moved here, I had a relationship with a working chica for over a year. Yes we had a ball together; yes we thought we were in love; yes almost everything was great most of the time. Yes she worked during most of the time; yes I did other chicas (with her knowledge); yes we did 3somes - she was very very BI (infact she has lived with her "girlfriend" who supports her for the last 3 years); Yes I spent a lot of money on her (and her K*ds); would I do it again? I honestly do not know!! Does this a successful relationship make??? Depends on who and how you look at it.
I have a good friend who has been in a relationship with a former working chica for over a year now. He still spends a lot of his time in the states but has a place here (she lives in their apartment). She no longer works at all, she seems to really love him, worries constantly about how much money (his) she spends, and seems to really appreciate all he does for her but never takes advantage of him. And she is also BI and they do 3somes (she almost always picks the chica). Is this a succesful relationship? Sure seems to me that it is, but only time will tell for sure.
BUT; for every one like this, there are a 100 that did not last hardly anytime, were filled with constant fighting, jealousy, and distrust. With the chica expecting the gringo to take care of(fianically) her entire family; lying, cheating, fighting, even stealing. One of the most common problems seems to be the gringos inability to look at things the way she does (and the way all latinos look at things) Even what may seem like a little thing like 'sense of humor', can cause a mountain of problems.
The language barrior can be, and usually is, the biggest problem. I will never understand how any gringo can think he can have a relationship with someone he can not communicate with. To ALL working chicas (and non-pros here also), if you are a gringo, you are 'rich'; and based on their standards, all gringos are "rich'; and as a result, if she wants something and you say "no" because of money, she will never understand because you are "rich'- to her it will be a sign that you do not love her. Even if you are living here on nothing but SS, that will still be over 3 times the average income in CR, therefore, you have a lot of money compared to what she is more than likely use to. And working chicas especially are notorious for not knowing how to manage money, nor save for a rainy day.
The one common factor I have noticed in almost every relationship that has lasted for any length of time and has seemed to be successful: AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP!! meaning , no jealously, no demands of fidelity, no lies, no secrets.
One other thing; Most of us (mongers) are middle aged (or over), over weight, past our prime sexually, set in our ways, trying to keep (or recover) our youth, and are use to the "American way of live". The ONLY thing we really have going for us is the idea that we are 'rich'!!! Thinking a 20-25 year old latina hottie is going to be happy with all that when she could have a hot blooded young latino stud, especially when the newness of the "money" wears off (and it will), is not very smart on a gringo's part!!!!
JMHO and remember, there are exceptions to everything, and every case is different.
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