Pops wrote:
Can't marry her because I have a wife in the states, but have a relationship that has worked for almost four years. I'm 60 she is 25. Here is the secret. I don't need her to feel good about myself. She is not a trophy. I don't have any desire to own her. I don't want that responsibility. If I own it I have to try to keep it happy. I can't make anyone else be happy. If I own it, I have to worry about someone else trying to take it away from me. What is she doing when I am not watching her? Worry is something I don't want or need. I have done all of this I wish to do in life. I took her out of Zona Blue almost 4 years ago. She stays at home, takes care of the K*ds, and is going to school. I pay the bills. I do this not to control her but as a gift to her and the K*ds. I do not care if she has relationships on the side as long as she takes care of my needs. The appreciation she shows and the love the K*ds give in return are enough reward for my efforts. My life has meaning at a time when I could be on cruise control headed for a lonely end. I take responsibility for my own happiness. If I want to do something, I do it. This means, if I want to see someone else, I do it. I am not afraid to loose my novia. I can replace her. She would have a hard time replacing me. Most men do not have this attitude. If you find yourself in a relationship with one of these girls, understand that her attraction to you to begin with is the money. You didn't suddenly become 28, fit and handsome. She is the same as the middle aged gringa. She is looking for security for herself, her family and her Ch*ldren. She will put up with alot to get security. Remember she was selling herself to men she could never have been physically or psychologically attacted to. Women will do alot of things men will not to take care of their families. Picture you trying to have sex with a fat, 60 year old, cigar smoking, half drunk, Gringa when you were 22. How much money would it take for her to get you hard. Understanding this, be careful of what you get yourself into. Before you let it progress to the point in the relationship where you get and need more than just sex from her, try to get to know if this is really a quality person or a fantasy generated in your mind. Little keys should give you a hint. How important is her family to her? You could be part of that family? How readily does she spend your money? If she is high maintance before you get really involved it will get worse. Does she have any skills besides being a great lay that you see as necessary to a relationship? Can she cook, will she clean, will she do some other type of work, is she a good mother? What are her dreams? Are they realistic and achievable? Another thought. Her family is more important to her than you are. They were there before you. She trusts them more than she does you. You have to earn the trust. If she has to choose between you and them, she will pick them. She will do whatever she thinks she has to do to do to help them. If that means lying to you or stealing from you, she will do it. That means, you should know what is the quality of the family she comes from. Are they good people, just poor, or are they manipulative trash? There will be times when they call on her for help and you will be in the middle. Until you earn it, her loyalty will be with them. LuisMD is right about enjoying what you have with her today. Today is all we have. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. Enjoy what she can give to you. Give what you can to her. If you do not get what you need in the relationship, it is time for next. It all starts with knowing and liking yourself.
Six years later, still with her, not novia anymore, now my wife. I married her to give her and the K*ds benefits. Not because I felt it was necessary in the relationship, but because I love her and the K*ds and it was the best thing I could do for them. I still have the same opinion of what I wrote earlier. The relationship now is better in many ways. She shows much more appreciation. We have great times together and I get to be a father to two great K*ds. The sex is incredible and my being a monger is not a problem to her. I have relationships with several other women whom I treasure and my sex life has never been better. At 68 this is the best time of my life. I enjoy every day and look forward for Monday to come when I have a date with an exceptionally hot 19year old bartender from a local bar that I met the other day. Life is what you make it. If you love beautiful young women this is paradise.