The pleasure of love lasts but a moment,
but the pain of love can last a life time.
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| Author: | Patriot [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 6:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Letting Go |
First off I admit I am weak when it comes to ladies. I do put them on a pedestal ( saves wear and tear on the back ) I have broken the cardinal rule of not sending money, stupid I know. The issue for me is I have been with my novia for 4 1/2 years and still have feelings for her and want to be with her. Still no results on the DNA test either. We have also been in contact but not face to face. I know it's over and she is playing me for the fool / sucker that I am. I am having a hell of time letting go and can't seem to do it. Any advice ?? I know many members of the board have been through divorces and are legally required to send money and other forms of support. Maybe their insight will help me out. |
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| Author: | TexasNVegas [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 6:40 pm ] |
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Is it over for something she did? Did she break a rule? Is she still a working girl? If so where is the obligation. Look at it like this: You enriched her life for 4 1/2 years. She is better for having known you. RFM? walk away. |
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| Author: | BrownCow [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 8:22 pm ] |
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I feel your pain... I have been in your exact same spot... PM me if you'd like to discuss this... |
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| Author: | El Ornitorrinco [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 8:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Letting Go |
Patriot wrote: First off I admit I am weak when it comes to ladies. I do put them on a pedestal ( saves wear and tear on the back )
I have broken the cardinal rule of not sending money, stupid I know. The issue for me is I have been with my novia for 4 1/2 years and still have feelings for her and want to be with her. Still no results on the DNA test either. We have also been in contact but not face to face. I know it's over and she is playing me for the fool / sucker that I am. I am having a hell of time letting go and can't seem to do it. Any advice ?? I know many members of the board have been through divorces and are legally required to send money and other forms of support. Maybe their insight will help me out. You know that she's playing you for a fool/sucker, but you still want to be with her? C'mon... I understand that you still have feelings for her, but if you're just a walking ATM to her, why would you want to be with her? Bottom line is, she's simply not the person you thought she was, & wishing she was aint gonna make it so. And there's no shame in reading someone wrong or being deceived by them, but now that you're in the know, you have to be strong enough to resist. |
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| Author: | Santas Bro [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 10:10 pm ] |
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Right now you are in your head. You need to move the hardest eighteen inches in a man's life, from his head to his heart. IMHO, you need to look at the part of yourself in which this situation is serving you. There is a part of you that chooses not to let this go, even when it appears that it is not a good choice for you. When in the midst of hurt, recognize that the negative thoughts are not serving you well. The amount of goodness that you have shown to her shows the good man that you really are. Think of that aspect of who you are often, especially when your head wants to think good of her. I spent many years of my life, after my marriage broke up, wondering what I could have done different, and maybe if I made, or would have made, those changes she would actually want me, or want me back. It was all B.S. and my ego not wanting to realize reality, and not wanting to make change. I actually thought that the victim mentality was serving me well. Upon losing the victim aspect of self, my life began to soar again. When I am not thinking the highest thought for self, it is imperative for me to change that thought as soon as I realize it. The only person capable of hurting me, is me when I choose to allow it to happen. I wish that this journey for you will be much faster than it was for me. I wasted way to much time of my life for nothing. Health and happiness to all.... Steve - Santas Bro |
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| Author: | J0sie [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 11:28 pm ] |
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I always say that this sport is not for everyone. They are so many “novios†that actually think that their “novia†is only interested or care about them. And in a sense, this might be true and she might care and be interested on you. But only as many others have stated before, you are a walking and talking ATM. Even if you are 25 and good looking, you are just a nicer ATM model. As you meet the “chicasâ€, she will try to recruit you to her stable of “noviosâ€. If you find yourself in the same position every time, maybe this is not for you. As you said “I am weak when it comes to ladies. I do put them on a pedestalâ€, at least you see your weakness and you might be able to work at it and survive. But YOU need to be true to yourself and recognize that if you do not want to change, then is either a life of pussy-slave or just give up on the sport. We all enjoy our chicas, favoritas and novias. But you need to always see it as what it is P4P because she knows and understands that is only a job for her. Reality is a bitch. Good luck. |
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| Author: | Thirdworld [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 11:39 pm ] |
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But you have to turn the tables and recruit her to YOUR stable... |
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| Author: | J0sie [ Sun Feb 22, 2009 11:39 pm ] |
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Thirdworld wrote: But you have to turn the tables and recruit her to YOUR stable...
Amen, brother! |
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| Author: | Partyanimal1984 [ Mon Feb 23, 2009 2:23 am ] |
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The pleasure of love lasts but a moment, but the pain of love can last a life time. -PA
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| Author: | LAdiablo [ Mon Feb 23, 2009 11:50 am ] |
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the big difference in people is not rich or poor, good or evil. the biggest difference is those that have known pleasure in love and those that have not. paul newman. |
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| Author: | Berk2302 [ Mon Feb 23, 2009 8:44 pm ] |
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Same song... (I guess I am not made that way... http://www.costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=18941&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0)... 2nd verse and it hardly raises an eyebrow. The board has certainly changed...  !
Berk.... |
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| Author: | J0sie [ Mon Feb 23, 2009 9:29 pm ] |
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Berk2302 wrote: Same song... (I guess I am not made that way... http://www.costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=18941&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0)... 2nd verse and it hardly raises an eyebrow. The board has certainly changed...
!Berk.... Everyone has a role in the food chain. Some of us are predators, others are vulture food. Let the bitches feed on his carcass and the rest of us will benefit from his subsidized pu*sy. Like I said before, Reality is a bitch. |
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| Author: | Berk2302 [ Mon Feb 23, 2009 9:35 pm ] |
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J0sie wrote: Berk2302 wrote: Same song... (I guess I am not made that way... http://www.costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=18941&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0)... 2nd verse and it hardly raises an eyebrow. The board has certainly changed... !Berk.... Everyone has a role in the food chain. Some of us are predators, others are vulture food. Let the bitches feed on his carcass and the rest of us will benefit from his subsidized pu*sy. Like I said before, Reality is a bitch. Dammmmmn... I thought I was harsh! 
Berk... |
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| Author: | BrownCow [ Mon Feb 23, 2009 10:02 pm ] |
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J0sie wrote: Berk2302 wrote: Same song... (I guess I am not made that way... http://www.costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=18941&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0)... 2nd verse and it hardly raises an eyebrow. The board has certainly changed... !Berk.... Everyone has a role in the food chain. Some of us are predators, others are vulture food. Let the bitches feed on his carcass and the rest of us will benefit from his subsidized pu*sy. Like I said before, Reality is a bitch. DAAAAM JOSIE!!! I've seen harsh, but DAAAM... |
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| Author: | J0sie [ Mon Feb 23, 2009 11:34 pm ] |
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I’m not trying to be harsh guys but if you going into a multi year BAD relationship and you still want to be with her, then I’m just stating reality. If you guys want to sugar coated and tell him that the train will not hurt when it hit him, then that is on you. I’m just screaming the train is coming and get off the tracks, after that if he doesn’t want to be warned, then I reserve the right to pull up my chair and watch the splatter when the train hits. I wish him well, this is why I advice earlier on my post to give up the sport. It is not for everyone. But if you are ill prepare and you want to go with your eyes closed, do not hear warnings and you know better but you still doing the same thing, then you have made the decision to be a victim. My $.02. |
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