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Author:  Tingwc [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 5:40 pm ]
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Long time lurker, first time poster. This last trip was my 5th trip and my 3rd in the last year.

3 trips ago I met a girl during my last day, after talking to her I found out that she works there part time and is a university student in her real life. I got her email address and we started emailing each other back and forth. Shortly thereafter, the RFM came. I ignored it, and didn´t even acknowledge it. The next time I went to Costa Rica we made plans to meet up. Again we hung out, talked some more, etc. Keep in mind that both of these times I obviously paid her for her time and services.

This last trip I was down there for a week and ended up hanging out wit her yet again. After paying for it the first time, I told her I really enjoyed spending time with her and that I wanted her to be my girlfriend (translation - I don´t want to pay for it anymore). Long story short, we talked about a lot of issues (such as her working at the hotel, which I´m cool with so long as she is honest with me), but ended up taking it to the next level (which sounds completely high school, I know). For the past three days, we´ve hung out without any mention of money whatsoever. I paid for her taxi, obviously, and whatever expenses we had when we went out, but money was never discussed.

Part of me feels like this is a real, genuine thing, and part of me feels like I am just another stupid gringo who fell for a working girl. Anyway, writing this out makes me feel better, and I hope that you all are rooting for me/us.

If it gives you any clearer picture, I am 26 and she is 20, so by no means am I going to be her sugar daddy, and I think I made it quite clear that I´m just another gringo who´s actually poor in the US!

Author:  Diablo [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 5:55 pm ]
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Ting-
I, most certainly, don't want to offend you, but I had a customer from the southeastern U.S. that used a colorful expression that would aptly describe what I feel your long term chances of success would be
" I wouldn't give a bucket of goat piss for your future"
Wish ya luck, but keep your head on straight

Author:  Thirdworld [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 6:15 pm ]
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Deja vu..... We all know the responses that are going to be written, pro and con. Just read a previous thread and we can skip the drama.

Author:  TimBones [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 7:06 pm ]
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Yup, this is about 2-3 weeks from the last would be Romeo passed through the door. Just search on any of the other 20 or 100 other would be Romeos such as my personal favorite, Rolltide, and do some light reading. :roll: :roll:

Author:  Bilko [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 7:17 pm ]
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I won't shoot you because I don't have a gun. At the risk of repeating myself infinitely, unless you LIVE IN COSTA RICA, your chances are about zero. Relationships are difficult in any context. Add thousands of miles of separation. Add cultural and language barriers. Add time apart. Add poverty. Add jealousy and suspicion. Put them all together now and... what's that smell? Hmm, some kind of animal urine...?

Author:  Pacifica55 [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 7:34 pm ]
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Maybe I'm just being obtuse, but I don't see anywhere that he said he was "in love" with her. He seems to have a good handle on RFMs. He didn't ask how to get her a visa to the US. Where is the down side?

I think you did real well. Don't fall in love and don't get complacent about money and ride it as long as you can. Good on ya! 8) :lol:

Author:  Ciaociao32001 [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 8:11 pm ]
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Ting,

Its not clear what sort of advice or feedback you're looking for. IMO, any monger who gets a 20 year old (presumably hot) prostitute to hang out with and screw him for free, has more 'game' than I have. OTOH, if there is a quid pro quo involved that you haven't disclosed, then that could be problematic. What are her expectations? What are your's? The devil is always in the details. :wink:

Ciaociao

Author:  Zebra [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 8:25 pm ]
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Why ruin a good thing? Play along for as long as it lasts. The key to it will be for you to keep your emotions in check. :?

Author:  Jasperhup [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 8:42 pm ]
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nailing a hooker for free is a combination of the best parts of having a girl friend or a hooker.

Author:  Zippy [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 9:05 pm ]
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Hell the good thing with being poor is what do you have to lose :) ?? You could have your emotions hurt but big deal that happens anyway :wink: . I have played many out & it was fun but I never sent money. I only paid for services rentured. Hard to go wrong with this & as long as you learn to perfect things for yourself it is great.

I am very happy to see you found CR so young. This is about the age I started & I feel like I played CR like a Violin. It worked out far better than I could have imagined :D . The best single thing it proved to me was that there are much broader options available with traditional happy type of women than the spoiled brats powered by Prozac I was dating at home :? !!

PS: Believe nothing but what you can prove to be true & then double check that, that is proven one more time :wink: ....

Author:  Phoenix Rising [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 9:49 pm ]
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Zebra wrote:
Why ruin a good thing? Play along for as long as it lasts. The key to it will be for you to keep your emotions in check. :?


Yes

Once you start getting that "twinge" because you know she's getting her booty and mouth stuffed with C*ck a few times a day... all bets are off.

Otherwise it's a great deal. But you'll be giving her a bit of dinero one way or the other. And why not? After all, she IS your girlfriend, right?

PHX

Author:  SurfTown [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 10:07 pm ]
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Sounds OK for you to go forward, you say you dont have much money, so there are not much assets at risk, also the age gap isnt that big, and 20 is a good age, move forward..... what exactly do you have to lose, your not sending her money, just dont get her prego and roll forward with out the rolltide scenario.

Author:  Berk2302 [ Sun Apr 27, 2008 11:40 pm ]
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You're certainly free to do as you wish. Would I follow your same steps? Not a chance in hell. I do have a question though. Since she's a "working" chica and hasn't worked (implied) for 3 days cause she's spending time with you don't you think it's only fair to forward her some cash for the time she has taken off? Not for the sexo... just her time. Nothing is really free. :idea:

Berk.....

Author:  Tman [ Mon Apr 28, 2008 2:21 am ]
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While I have always been one to warn guys not to fall for these girls...this is one case where I might say "go for it". At least they're close to the same age. SHe may now realize he ISNT a sugar daddy...but maybe she DOES find him more attractive than most of her previous clients. I have known a couple very nice working girls in CR who if caught soon enough out of the P4P snare would have made nice GFs or wives to someone close to their age. As long as your eyes are wide open...ride it as long as you can. But if it gets weird because you're not payin...then realize it for what it is also. But also realize in your 20s you tend to be guided more by the little head than the big head. Just because she is great in the sack doesnt mean she will make a great partner for you long term. But who knows...maybe she will.

Good luck.

Author:  Tingwc [ Mon Apr 28, 2008 4:48 am ]
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Guys thanks for all the responses and advise. There is really no purpose in me posting my story, just boredom and a desire for some feedback. I've lurked around here long enough to see how these types of threads go, and I appreciate the warnings.

I'm certainly not in love with this girl, but we have a good time together and the honest truth is perhaps I am a little jaded by the situation. However, I have NO PLANS to send any money anytime soon, nor am I going to have a problem that she's "working" and getting stuffed by other guys several times a week. The way I see it, you can't have your cake and eat it too. Either pony up and have her not work, or don't send any money and deal with the fact that she works.

My only caveat, and I told her this many times, is that she never lies to me regarding her exploits if asked (lying about it is worse than the actual act) and that I never have to pay for the sexo or the time spent with her ever again - both of which she said that she would be fine with.

She also mentioned that she'll be graduating from college in a year, and that she has no plans to continue "working" after that, so we'll see what happens. Hell, I'm still pretty young and we're pretty close to the same age - and don't think I'm really losing anything significant monetarily (yet) nor am I obsessed with the situation (yet), so why not play the game and see where this takes me? Am I missing something here guys?

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