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Help need objective advice:

I have been with a non pro for the last four years in a great relationship very little fights...almost none and everything was near perfect. Better than any US relationships in the past.
I rent a place in near Liberia, far away from SJO, in which she lives with me and spend most of my time with my girlfriend there, and go back to the states every 90 days.
Background: She is 27 and had a son before I met her. We have a wonderful daughter together 2 years old. She is very beautiful.

Well I come back from the states this last trip and after a couple weeks with her I'm pissing fire I mean it hurts more than you can imagine Im surprised Im not bleeding it hurts so bad in fact it does one day a little, Im thinking it a urithitis infection so I take my zpak and it goes away. I have been 100% faithful to her so Im thinking she phucked around while I was gone... maybe there is an outside chance I caught it from a towel or gym but I highly doubt it.
Now Im stewing what to do next.
A) Confront her and try to work things out
B) Let it go and do nothing as it may have been a normal urinary tract infection. And she is pretty cool and never pisses me off so the relationship is smooth and in tact.
C) The last option kick the deal to the curb.... which is not really an option since I love our daughter and still love her. I just dont want my health endangered further.

Well there you go.... even the non pros can get you into trouble.

Alright guys flame away but try to give me some constructive advice.
Keep in mind we rarely get into fights and always enjoy eachothers company

D. Go to the doctor and find out what was making you piss fire before you jump to life changing conclusions.

Ciaociao

good luck to you my friend....definitely goto the doctor ASAP.

Don't jump to ANY conclusions just start collecting the facts. That will tell you how to handle it. Even if she did mess around do you want to blow what you have with her for that. NO ONE IS PERFECT!

If I were in a situation like this & found the facts to show she has messed around here is what I would do.

1. Tell her she was infected by her unfaithfulness.
2. Hand her condoms & tell her please protect my health if you do not care about your own.
3. Let her know that now you have your freedom to do the same which you really didn't want but now realize maybe it isn't such a bad idea.

I bet all this would put an end to her playing around. Badgering her would just push her to the other guy.

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man. hard not to want to know if she was phucking around.
but be sure the questions you ask are ones you want to hear the answers
maybe its better to think it was a mistake with a two year old.
could still have conversation on trust and fidelity, maybe showing some article that talks of infection and say it scares you.

Be honest with each other. You've got a lot invested. Don't throw it all away until you get all of the facts. Even then you must weigh all of your options and decide which direction to go. Don't jump to conclusions.

You BOTH need to go to a doctor immediately.

Man, the waiting must be tough. Go to the doctor and have an honest heart to heart. You love her and have Ch*ld together. Have you ever cheated on anyone before? If so, forgive her, do come down hard on her though. But if you forgive her, forgive her and FORGET it, no use bringing it up the rest of your lives. We've all made mistakes. But let her know her free pass is over, if that is your desire, and what her life would be like without you. A cold hard dose of reality could help if she's guilty. And she may not be, who knows, you may have picked up a bacteria somewhere.


Good advice from Zippy about the condoms.


PURA VIDA!

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Many years ago I was dating a real nympho and got a urinary tract infection after a non stop weekend phuck a thon, so it can happen.

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You can find out what you had!!! Go to a clinic and get the blood test for chlamydia and the clap, specifically the one that test for antibodies.

This same thing happened to me and it turned out to be a urinary tract infection. The doctor said that if I ever had a VD in my life, it would have showed up positive, because the antibodies never entirely go away.

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Thank you all very much for the advice.
I stayed calm and kept my mouth shut and temper low and went to the doctor.
Well he did a urine test and that came back clean with nothing in it, although he said the zpak might have suppressed anything bacterial.
Still waiting on the blood test, but my doctor calmed me down and said that it was most likely a normal urinary tract infection and probably not your GF cheating. He also said that since the urine test is clean that the blood test will probably come back clean as well but he wanted to be sure since blood is more thorough however urine is reliable. I was relieved since I have never caught anything not even herpes, better knock on some wood. I pointed that out to my doctor and said hey pretty good I have never caught herpes since 25% of people have it, his response was NO its more like above 40%. Couldnt believe that statistic!

Anyway thank you very much for all your advice it was all spot on and sage. And I avoided an accusatory blunder which could have scarred the relationship. Im glad I didn't act on impulse and instead consulted outside opinions of friends and you all.
Still waiting on the blood test but the doctor said dont worry at all.