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The tico novio...who the phuck is this guy??

We’ve all heard that a majority of the young ladies we find available for fun & games in our favorite little banana republic have husbands or boyfriends. And the majority of these probably know and accept what their girlfriends/wives do or a living. I’m kinda curious to know a little more about these guys and what kind of mind-set they have that permits accepting the fact that their women are having sex with strangers many times over every day. And further, that maybe, just maybe, there is something to be learned from them.

In our culture, sexual activity outside of a relationship is usually the death knell for the arrangement. Sure there are the swingers, and I even have a good friend in the US who has been married for 17 years to a stripper/escort and the marriage has been a success. But obviously, monogamy and fidelity is the expectation in the overwhelming majority of men and women who engage in a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife arrangement.

In my brief immersion into Costa Rican culture I am finding that monogamy and fidelity, while still desirable, are not absolute requisites for lasting relationships. Men and women alike will always find themselves sexually aroused on a regular basis, through their daily routines, and here in Costa Rica it seems, when that sex actually happens, it’s understood that it’s a part of normal life. Sure the other party might get pissed off, throw a fit, but life gets back to normal pretty quickly. It's not a cause for divorce and financial ruin like here in the good ole USA.

Case in point. I was in a local bar in one of the outer barrios of Heredia the other night. I was introduced to a woman at the bar. A few minutes later the person who introduced us whispered in my ear that the husband of the woman I was introduced to was here (in the same establishment) with another woman. I found this kinda strange. The woman obviously knew her husband was a few tables away, but she drank, danced, and wasn’t throwing a fit. Didn’t here of any consequences many days later. Pura vida. Definitely a different world here….but my question is…can we learn something?

Could you accept your novia going to work at Zona Blue, Idem or the DR/KL and banging our sorry asses every night? Sure the money's great. There will always be a few idiots that will send her Western Union too. Or would you prefer she had trabajo onesto and work in a POPS ice cream store for 10 bucks a day?

And of course these girls have feelings for their novios just like any girl…and you know that the Del Rey girls need to learn how to separate their emotions from the sex they have with us just like physicians need to set aside their feeling for their dying patients…so what’s the big deal if your girlfriend works at the Rey? As long as they have enough energy to take your leche when they get home.

Well, many chicos are OK with this deal. And I can’t believe they are all culo – boludo lazy ass alcoholics who mooch off their women… Who are these guys?

PHX

Nice post and good thread idea, bro. Your longest post ever on CRT???

As usual, the answer to such quandries is "it all depends". That is, what are my true feelings for this girl? Is she just someone whose company I enjoy and want to have a little fun with, knowing what her real stock-in-trade is? Then fine - she can make her dinero any way she well pleases.

But if I truly love the girl, then no freaking way would I tolerate her phucking other guys for money. End of story.

Which begs the question - do most of these Tico novios truly love their hooker girlfriends? I'm not gonna touch that one...

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Some yes, some no. It's only sex.

I can't comment on Tico bfs, but I did have a fairly unique relationship with an HDR Nica for 18 months. Many of my frequent trips while I was with her (4-5 weeks in CR, 3 weeks home) were spent staying in her apt. with 2 k*ds, Mom, sometimes brother, various primas, and stray animals that were always welcome in the casa.
I think I am very qualified to express the following opinion. These girls live a completely different life outside the HDR. They are not putas when they are home. The clothes they wear does not give a clue. Maybe the Colombianas might look like a working girl because they dress in expensive clothes and have the hair, make-up, and accessories that money buys but the Nicas and Ticas don't show it off when they are not working.
Of course there are Ticos that abuse the chicas while spending the money, but most probably think of it as a high paying job. I imagine a lot of the fuglies are probably desperate and their boyfriends are praying that someone will phuck their GF.

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Most of these Tico/Novios/Esposos are very happy living off the earnings of their hooker wives. They nor the wife would ever dream of similar wages/lifestyle without this mutually consenting lifestyle choice. If you came from their roots...you'd probably understand and admire their position...jealous even.

And yes, most of these TIcos are dogs as well and when their hooker wife/GF catches them with someone else...there is the typical drama for a while until everything calms down again. But...normally doesnt lead to divorce court. There wouldnt be any support either way in divorce anyways accept for minor Ch*ldren.

Of course, personally I wouldnt want a hooker wife. I'm not that open

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Speaking of jealousy, it occurs to me that the husband might enjoy the money but be concerned the wife meets and ends up leaving him for a man that has the means to keep her in the same lifestyle(or far better) where she doesn't have to "work". That to me seems like the real dilemma for the Tico.

and the reason a guy might give a crap about his wife leaving for somebody else, is

PR my friend, a very good thread idea, especially considering "some guys" situations!!!!

The Tico looks at it as a great free ride as long as it lasts. And when its over its over. His only problem is: Until he hooks up with another puta, who is going to pay for his beer, HIS putas, and his other novia? And the puta that is supporting him knows he is spending her working hours dranking beer and chasing other chicas or plucking his other novia. And in atleast one case, one novia works a MP in the day and the other works the REY at night Hell some of us gringos night even be able to get use to that lifestyle

The mindset here is totally different from the States. My first novia here was from a very prominent and wealthy family in CR. She did not divorce her, even richer, husband until after she found out about his 3rd novia, and even then the desiding factor was not "3 novias" but that 2 of them were living in nicer, much larger casas and driving newer, more expensive cars than what she and her K*ds had.

And I guess maybe I have spent toooo much time here. I use to tell my exKL/BM novia "NO WAY DO I WANT YOU WORKING AND PLUCKING OTHER GUYS" even if, as she says, "Es solomente un negocio". Now I wish to hell she would go back to work

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some funny shit is we think our country is very advanced
and CR have to follow when in reality our advancement is in technology
not in human relationship.

Very true!!!!!!!! We are the perverted country if the truth is to be known. They are doing what is Natural !!!

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A couple more thoughts...

I brought up this subject with my amigovia and she gave me a little intel. She doesn't believe there are all that many "regular" ticos who would allow their wives to work at the hotel, but there are a number of "novios"...hot, handsome, and joven, who are essentisally pursued by the working girls and are getting free pu*sy on our dime. These guys don't really consider the chicas their "novias" in the classic sense, and don't really care what they do. It seems it is the chicas who wear the pants in this set-up and it is they who are in control. They have the money. It is they who chose, pursue, and capture their hot stud chivos. The guys, beig guys, wear a big shit-eating grin and are happy to ride the wave as long as it lasts. I've always presumed that the chivos were all pimp-like characters who bullied the girls into working and kept them in line through violence and threats of violence. That may be the case in some instances, maybe with Colombianos, but apparently not the norm.

Another phenomenon the amigovia brought up is that there a host of girls who work the hotel with no one knowing about it... including their husbands.

Case in point: There's a girl in her barrio, married with Ch*ldren, who knows she works at the Rey. She's always pestering my amigovia to take her there, but my amigovia refuses. Why? Because she knows the husband and he's a really good guy, she says. So why does this girl want to go to the hotel? Is it only the money? Or is it more? The excitement? The attention? The wining and dining? Getting out of the barrio drudgery and being pursued by wealthy gringos where the possibilities are endless has to have a hell of an appeal to the tica MILFs.

PHX

I have met a number of married Ticas at the Delrey. In some cases it was a secret thing...in others the hubbys were in on it.

It is definitely ladys choice for this arrangement. I have seen some of the nicest ones...at least to me...hanging with loser/fugugly Tico guys. In one case I actually asked the chica if she was really attracted to her novio. She said they were great friends and that he was very dependable for her in her "normal" life...whatever that was.

Come on guys...a number of you would go for this arrangement any day. Your favorita at wherever says "I want you to be my Novio and live with me. I pay you just help take care of the house and we sleep together. OK?" Sign up here guys...

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How are we the perverted country Zippy, I don't follow.

And in a lot of cases, if it is the chica telling the story, I don't believe a word she says.

Also, a question, when they say "married" do they really mean "married with a piece of paper" or common law marriage? I'm not sure about CR, but in Belize many will say "married" when they've actually never been married, they just had a few K*ds with a guy so they are "married" to him in their mind. I think this applies true in a lot of "developing nations."

There are chicas who say they are married or are in "love' with their novio just to avoid a confrontation with a romantic gringo that "falls in love"" with her.

There are chicas that have a live in novia and maybe they have a K*D or two, or 3 or 4 or more. In almost every latin country this relation is refered to as marido (husband) and mujer or esposa (wife).Thou mi novia and I do not live together, Tico friends call us marido y mujer .

Then there are a few chicas who really do have a legal husband that may or may not know what she is doing. I met one chica working in Ekono dept. store. Ask her for a date; said she was married but that did not matter. That night, and before we had the date, I ran into her in the REY. My question was "When were you going to tell me I had to PAY for our date?" Since then we have actually become friends (yes I have "seen" here a few time) and I have met her husband (very awkward). He knows what she does; even brings her to work.

BUT, in my opinion, maybe right or wrong; for every chica with a novio or marido, there are 2 or 3 without. BUT, most important, what differenca should it make to a monger? You just want to pluck her and be gone, RIGHT?

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