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ILY Ken Lee

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"Pain is the fuel that fans the flames of my pyre. A battle plan is only as good as the general carrying it out on the field. This is my war son, and I have the biggest bombs and the smallest conscience"...

Interesting take on things, KenLee.

I learned two new words, too: "compersion" and "poliamory".

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Josie asks 'what are the odds of success?' His answer is zero, if I read correctly.

Let me ask a similar question: What are the odds of winning at blackjack? One hand? Three hours? Over a lifetime of playing every night? Can you count cards in your head?

I agree with anyone who says not to fall in love with a hooker. I also agree with those who say don't fall in love with anyone, ever, if you want to 100% avoid failure. I am one of those, in fact.

There are those who K*D themselves that Latinas all make great wives and the reason they are divorced 3 times is because gringas are so fuucked up. I hope they listen to the doomsayers, for their own sakes.

There are those who believe that all girls who have ever taken money for sex are the same, and should be avoided. If that's what you believe, then you are right, in your own case at least.

There are those who believe they can judge a woman's character by getting to know her and will take their chances with a hooker if they feel she is a good choice regardless of her former occupation. As long as they go into things with eyes wide open, more power to them.

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"The only normal people are those you don't know very well." Joe Ancis

And that is the perfect answer to the entire dribble above. I think that everyone’s knows it but will not articulate the 800lb gorilla.

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Hit them fast, Hit them hard and NEXT!
A good chica is like a good carpenter - No wood gets wasted!!!

Great post, KenLee, I think you really nailed it!

You are correct also, IMHO J0sie. And by the way, its "drivel"! Not "dribble".

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but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker

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I've been through this whole thing. It is very difficult, unfortunately, we parted ways, but I was young ( 24 ), and my thoughts got the best of me. I think you have to be a real man to be with a nena. I think it could work, but the hardest part is having a relationship with a nena while you are in the U.S. and she is in CR working. I mean it gets easier putting her line of work out of your mind, but you can't help thinking about it. I would like to read how the guys that are currently in a relationship with them make it successful, what is their mindset? Now would I do it again? I think I would, this chica i was with a few years ago was very sweet, and a poster said it here, they have the ability to separate sex and love. I wasn't able to do that at such a young age. I used to think, why don't you just stop? Get a normal job? I guess now I think of it this way, it's a job, and in every job there are the good and bad, there are nenas with good sentiments, and nenas with bad sentiments, just like there are engineers with good sentiments as well as engineers with bad sentiments.

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I was writing the exact same thing but I got busy at work and KenLee beat me to it. Don't you just hate when someone posts the same thing you were thinking. Jazzbo did it to me one time.




I need the Spanish word so I can explain it to the favoritas when they ask me why am I going with all the other girls. Bebe, un poco compersion aqui, eh, por favor? Tu tiempo es manana.


Very well written and I agree. I would also add that an example of a successful relationship would be the ones that raised me, my parents, 100% commitment and self sacrifice. They were very happy with their choice of spouse. I know for a fact bcs when my father and I went on vacations in Mexico, he had his night to party. After 1/2 a bottle of Bacardi & RC, I had to hear for 3+ hours how much he loved my mother. As much as I went at 24 yrs old, "I think you've had enough pops", it will always be a sweet memory. Unfortunately, I don't think this generation has the fortitude (I, too, have a red SAT vocabulary book ) to endure a successful relationship.

Dean

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my first wingman sent me this, how true

" most of the girls down here, lie as a self defense mechanism and to not have to face the truth, thinking most men couldn't accept them knowing the whole truth. Simpler, they may just want men to think they are as perfect as they want to appear to them, trying to hide what they consider to be the ugly truth about themselves. And I may be reading more into it than is there, but I do believe they consider the basis of the lies to be justified."

Very interesting post and opinions.All sides have legetimate pros and cons.When josie puts the sucess rate at 0% i dont think he is knocking anyone in current successful relationships just pointing out they could still fail.I pesonally would define success as 6 months or more and if it ends both parties remain friendly and there are no financial demands(Ch*ldren would be the exception).A long term relationship is hard weather the girl is p4p or gen. pop..Starting a LTR with a p4p girl has to be tougher.IMHO

A couple of things have been glossed over that are significant and I thought since I have time on my hands, I will try and call attention to them:

1)If you live in CR or Thailand P.I. or whatever monger paradise, it is easy to have an ongoing relationship with a working girl as you are viewed differently. She isn’t going to look at you as a one time mark, but rather as a long time client and perhaps as a bankable asset, therefore it is in my mind, perfectly feasible to have a long term relationship with a working girl. The question that eludes me is; why would you want to? I mean if you live there and have the requisite skills to meet regular women, I for one, would certainly date regular women rather than a “working girl.” I think for some of the guys living in CR working girls are just easier to meet; more user friendly if you will.

2)If you are a short time visitor and you are going to try to have the same type relationship it isn’t going to work. Why? Because, you aren’t there. Simple as that. No one is there “watching the store” Most of the grievous train wrecks “relationships” have all been between a monger who was a short time visitor and a working girl. Please check it out and tell me whether that is correct or not, but I believe it is. And the cause of the conflict was always money, infidelity, etc.

Oh yeah and defining success; I think it means you spend a certain significant amount of time with the person, most of it is happy and when it ends, it does not result in serious financial, emotional or legal repercussions and most importantly; You don’t find the need or compulsion to come to this forum and detail every unseemly detail of the train wreck that you got caught up in!!

Just my opinion, I could be wrong.

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“Good people sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.” And we are the guys that keep them in Eggs & Grits

Isn't this thread and the ones concerning RFM's just an exercise in futility. They are rehashed constantly and no minds are ever changed. If you were to take a day and go through old threads, you would find almost identical threads many times over that just have said the same things, probably since the beginning of the site....

In matters of the heart, words have no meanings.

Health & happiness to all.........

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I am sitting on a base camp in Iraq. There are about 12 things I could do, having done most of them, I will endeavor to engage in some futile debate, then go to bed (no. 12) Your tax dollars at work. No wonder this war is taking so long.

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“Good people sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.” And we are the guys that keep them in Eggs & Grits

Tim, you definitely have one reason identified... working girls are easier to meet. But as far as 'regular' girls go, it depends to a large extent on how old you are. From what you posted about being in the military, I am guessing you are under 50, perhaps under 40. The 'regular' girls here under 30 don't want a doddering old fart as a boyfriend any more than a gringa under 30. I am on a popular 'social networking' site that is very popular in Costa Rica. One of my CRT friends has had great success pulling regular girls off the site, but he's 20 years younger than I am. The women that are interested in me are grandmotherly types. They are looking for somebody to 'grow old with.'

Chicas that are appealing to me, respectable, and well educated, are flat not interested. I might find, with lots of work, a 'regular' girl who was reasonably attractive, but what is her motivation to be with an old gringo? Is it really that different than a prostitute? When she's out with the geezer in public, she knows that other Ticos will assume she's a prostitute, even if she's dressed like a nun.

Having said all that, I am not looking for a 'partner' among either 'regular' or 'professional' girls. Having lived here for 5 years, I can say that there are sweethearts and nightmares among both groups. Most fall in between the extremes. If I were looking, I would not make the Del Rey my first stop. But speaking just for myself, a girl who has sold her body to pay the rent isn't necessarily off my radar. Mileages vary and one size does not fit all.

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"The only normal people are those you don't know very well." Joe Ancis

Why indeed, would a man who can meet women in "normal"situations want to pay for sex? Why? We pay them to leave, when we want, how we want, after the desired experiences we want. This is a selfish game, mongering, and that is the joy of it....

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Nope, I just turned 50 and am a Reservist retread. I get the same treatment. Old age is all they say it is. Still and all I was banging a regular chick in Guate who was in her 30s. Crazy as a shithouse rat, but was good in the sack.

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“Good people sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.” And we are the guys that keep them in Eggs & Grits