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I understand where you are coming from.I had those tendencies myself after my divorce.What you have to realize is that she is on a life of her own.She made a decision and is going the best direction for her.You must find your own direction and go that way.It may seem tough, but really put things in the past.

Do whatever you need/want to do.

Clearly you want to, so go ahead. You'll be sorry at some point.......... but you'll eventually get over it and forget about them.

Someday it'll be a blip....................probably one of many. Been there and done that. As have most of us! Doing dumb stuff is part of living.

Don't listen to the macho stuff. Do what you gotta do!

sadly, it took me years to get over an ex of mine and i was foolish to send emails every now and then. nice friendly emails that in the end served no purpose nor gained me anything. i erased the email address and the ability was gone to act on impulse late at night when i was feeling weak and my memories of the bad times were faded and all i could think of were isolated good times.

so, yeah, i'm chiming in with the others and telling you erase the email, throw away the phone number, surround yourself in some new scenery, get some new clothes, eat some different food, watch dr. phil to see some screwed-up people to make you feel better, breathe in fresh air, hold till 10, let go and move on. that will serve you best.

In the spirit of that old saying "Do as I say, not as I do" let it go. I let it go for 2 years and everything was great. I saw her on my last trip and while we are not getting back together, I should have just left it alone.

Yo Patriot!

Been reading this thread for a few days now and though this kinda topic doesn't really suit me I'll try and give you some perspective. Most guys here have been through at least one divorce, including myself. Each person deals with this differently, based on the severity of the split. Things don't end unless they end badly'

Sometimes we miss the memory of the relationship rather than the person. Some either get use to the pain or move on to find someone to quash the memory of the last one. Either way, we move on.

To find closer in this you need to work on you! Delete the Gawd Damn email addy! You will find liberation in this. Get back to the basic principals of Mongering and make trip plans, no matter how far out the dates, keep your head busy. Try to just wish them the best and forget it. Be carefull with the resentment and hate factors that go along with these life experiences, for these emotions take a lot of energy that is wasted in the end. It creates baggage?!?

I've found the best way to get over a woman is get one under you . What's the old saying; If you love someone set them free, if they don't come back, hunt them down and kill'em ...Something like that

PB

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I would rather import a Pit Viper, than marry a Russian.

Phucking KGB is always following me.

Go ahead and run with scissors, I don't care!

Things don’t change unless things change. So change things up and get away from her and do all you can to start a different life without her. Get rid of the emails and phone numbers. Break-ups suck and I do wish you luck. HANG TOUGH!

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Was cleaning out my emails and came across my "goodbye" email to her. I have already said "Buena suerte, larga vida y felicidad" so I'd just be repeating myself.

I'll be concentrating on the other BS in my life these days so I can get to CR in the not to distant future. I have FF miles just no funds for everything else.

A relationship will have to go on hold for a while, independent of her location.

By the way:
I highly recommend cleaning out or at least archiving your email accounts. It took me 3 hours and I had emails from as far back as 2004. Not just from her but from everyone else I know, including some work related.

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Patriot: Ice Road Trucking through the Bearing Sea to recovery

Just another piece of advice. Try going somewhere else. Dominican Republic or maybe even be as adventurous as Medellin. Costa Rica is not the Alpha and Omega of the hobbying world. You might just like it somewhere else. Give it a shot. From your part of the country I know you can get some great flights to the DR.

dapanz1

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Paradise= Sitting outside the Bodega in Panama City about 1 am. Drinking cool Balboas with cool friends and blazin' hot Colombianas. I want to be there..RIGHT NOW!

I second that. He should go some where else for a while.

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"THE TRUTH IS' EVERYBODY IS GOING TO HURT YOU. YOU JUST GOTTA FIND THE ONE WORTH SUFFERING FOR"
Robert Nesta Marley

FYI:
I would love to go anywhere else besides where I am, but it is not possible.

In an other post everyone recommended building my ego back up.

With out getting into the details even that it not possible, so for the time being I am in a no win situation. Eventually everything will change and I'll be able to do what is needed but until then, and I hate to say it, my friends and other people on this board will have to listen to my pointless dribble.

Believe it or not I am remaining optimistic and do know that things will get better for me and others in the same situation. It will take time though.
I do appreciate the responses to my posts and have listened or at least read them. But as stated the work needed can not be done for a while.

I'll switch my posts to the Smack Talk section, some of them are BS or just me spouting off anyway.

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPs political BS not allowed:
O.B.A.M.A.: One Big Ass Mistake America
Still thinking about an acronym for Bush

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Patriot: Ice Road Trucking through the Bearing Sea to recovery

I waited a bit before replying to this:

Even though you hold no ill will toward her, the B/F or the wee one...sending an e-mail "looks" like you're obsessed, hold ill feelings, or are stalking.

Enough is enough, Patriot. Time to walk away. Your absence will be proof enough that you aren't harboring a grudge or bad emotions.

Leave it alone.

Leave it alone.

Leave it alone.

Leave it alone.

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Pura Vulva! Wandering through the dark, I am El Ciego.

Exactly, what else is there to say....


Cujo

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"Pain is the fuel that fans the flames of my pyre. A battle plan is only as good as the general carrying it out on the field. This is my war son, and I have the biggest bombs and the smallest conscience"...

With a little editing Orange wrote:

Sorry had to get sarcastic here with the following:
ADVISE: verb (used with object)
1. to give counsel to; offer an opinion or suggestion as worth following: I advise you to be cautious.
2. to recommend as desirable, wise, prudent, etc.: He advised secrecy.
3. to give (a person, group, etc.) information or notice (often fol. by of): The investors were advised of the risk. They advised him that this was their final notice.

ADVICE:noun
1. an opinion or recommendation offered as a guide to action, conduct, etc.: I shall act on your advice.
2. a communication, esp. from a distance, containing information: Advice from abroad informs us that the government has fallen. Recent diplomatic advices have been ominous.
3. an official notification, esp. one pertaining to a business agreement: an overdue advice.

I'm sure Orange meant to say advice and I'm just busting his balls with these definitions. I know he means well.

Forgetting her will take time How many of you that are divorced have fully forgotten your ex or ex's even if you are not paying alimony or Ch*ld support.
I have no idea whether the guy helped her, went along with it or had no idea what she was doing. And to be honest I don't care.

I have accepted the advice but as far as putting it to use read my other posts.
YES I have plenty of self respect which is why:
I WILL NOT BE SENDING AN EMAIL or RESPONDING TO HER/THEM
and I have already deleted the addresses. Anything short of a "Your presence in court is required on such and such date" WILL BE IGNORED

Besides: How else can I get my post count up if I don't bore everyone on this board with my BS

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Patriot: Ice Road Trucking through the Bearing Sea to recovery

...you're a lucky man!

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Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly!

Yo Pat..

2 cents from an old DOG>Immerse yourself in other women...p4p internet...chics working in town the park wherever you can meet em...nothing makes ya forget a chic like another chic or 2 or 10 0r 100...force yourself to do it...play the game with em ...and one day you will look at your novias picture and say "What was I thinking!!"

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Beware of the DOG!