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Djnecessiter wrote:


OK: Your an idiotic pu*sy but so was I.
https://costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/vi ... 633#318633

At least we both admit it.

If you truly mean as much to her as she says, she may be willing to try to salvage the relationship. If she is willing to talk and try again you may have something worthwhile. Give it one shot and one shot only, whether by email or phone call: whatever you do do not show weakness or insecurity. And most importantly KEEP MONEY OUT OF IT. If she brings it up tell her it is off the table and see what she does. If she continues talking you may have something.

If she says NO she does not want to talk drop it immediately and say goodbye.

Was this lady a P4P, whether semi-pro, part timer, or pro ??

I learned my lessons the hard way.
Been There, PM me if you'd like.

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Patriot: Ice Road Trucking through the Bearing Sea to recovery

sob.sob..... ....buy and buy and then she told you bye,bye.....

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I hope this thread is a joke,......... no one can be this pathetic

CR wrote:


Look in the mirror! Your lack of empathy makes you pretty pathetic! IMHO

WTF??? How long have you known her? How many K*ds do you have together?

I am neither going to flame nor mock you.

Two questions: How is your Spanish? Can you fully communicate with her in her own language/? If not, you have a problem.

If you do, you might explain to her your reasons for being suspicious, not of her but of working girls in general. If she says, "But if you loved me, you'd know that I am different," you can kindly smile and tell her, "Ojala que si, pero necesitamos mas tiempo para saber").

I am not so cynical as to believe that they are ALL mercenary bitches who are only interested in your wallet. I do believe that in in very rare circumstances, it can work...at least as a long-term friendship if nothing else. I am not so jaded as to believe that working girls become so dehumanized that they no longer have feelings. You may very well have hurt hers.

Now, most guys will disagree here, but consider the source. Most (certainly not all) have suffered a string of bad or false relationships. Some have so little going for them that without the pay aspect, they'd never hook up. Sad but true...and I find it is often these guys who try to characterize all women as emotionless whores. Yours might well be different.

My second question would be, "What do you really want?" Are you ready to completely turn your own life inside-out to be with her and her daughter? Are you able and willing to move to Costa Rica to be with her? If you cannot honestly answer yes, condemn any future love relationship to failure, because it is incredibly rare to be able to maintain a long-distance relationship, whether here or there.

My friend, I don't doubt that your love is real, but be sure that you understand the roots of that love and your own heart and mind before going any further.

PM me. I will be in C.R. in 11 days from today. If I can talk to her, I could be your Cyrano and pass along your message of love in Spanish, if you so desire.

You see, I believe that even putas need and want love. Shit, we all do, even those of us who are so emotionally crippled that we can find it in no other places than San Jose, Pataya, Angeles City, Rio, Buenos Aires, Prage or German FKK clubs.

Peace. ANd BTW, I am wearing asbestos underwear boys. Flame away.

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Pura Vulva! Wandering through the dark, I am El Ciego.

I'm confused about something -- was this your first or second trip, or have you been going down there for a while and gradually fell in love with her over a series of trips?

mh

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Djnecessiter

I am not going to comment until some more details are presented..

1st off it can happen to anyone, regardless of thier past p4p situations, street knowlege sense, edcuation whatever. Sometimes there is a chemical reaction could be emotional or physical that sends the unsuspecting monger over the edge...

NOW:
Details
Where did you meet her
Details of how, or if you paid her the 1st time, etc.
As El Ciego said, can you communicate with her
Time spent with her a few days? Week? etc.

An informed response will be forthcoming with the some more details.

I agree with Phoenix Rising: "Take the Vegas Bob cure". And if this doesn't work, read my tag line!

BTW... where's Berk2302 when you need him ?!?!?!

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You ALWAYS have an option ....... "NEXT" !!!

No intent to flame, but..............

Who do you see when you look in your minds eye? From the words that you have written, about you and women, it may not be not a pretty sight for you. Two divorces (what were the causes, your weakness?), and now madly in "love" with a woman that you really don't even know. A lovely scenario for another failure. Are you sure your psyche doesn't really want another failure? The "See I'm not really worthy", but a very safe place for you since you may know it so well. Is this one of your deepest shadows? While you may feel safe in that shadow (now no one can touch, or hurt me), it is not a good place for you.

IMJ, your psyche is calling out to be loved, by women, since it is not being loved by you. Is it possible that because you don't supply enough "self love" that your psyche is looking for it elsewhere? Look into your past to see what facilitates that need. Who did you want love from in the past that didn't give it to you? What in your past lives experiences has made you believe that you need the love of another to be complete?

My lack of trusting people came from my father who would never play with me one-on-one, but would always be out front (coach, Boy Scout Leader, etc.) when he could get the glory from my athletic achievements. It took me years to get to that shadow, because my ego was so comfortable with my safety in lack of trust, and had buried it very deep. If I didn't allow people in, I could not be hurt. When in actuality I was hurting by not letting people in. This took me many years of self examination to finally realize. I still fight it to this day as my ego doesn't want me to change from something it had so many years invested in.

Change you judgments about self from negative, to positive, especially about women. All else will fall into place.

Until you can become happy with who you really are, I would suggest maybe staying away trying for a relationship with any woman, P4P or not.

Some of this may be true, or none of this may be true (except for what I said about my lack of trust). Just the ramblings of an old f*rt who is finally at ease within myself.

Health & happiness to all...........

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It's not the size of the wand that put the rabbit in the hat, it's the magic in it!!!

This is a post of his from June 2009.
First trip, in town 3 days... falls in love and has a ring already, but the girl freaks out and now what???

Que desesperado...

Holy crap!

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mh

And what's with the ring with their K*ds' names on it? What K*ds, her K*ds?

I'll be the first to call bullshit on this thread...

Too many women, and not enough time. It may be tough, but I'd say just pull up your boot straps and get back on the horse. Plenty more out there to steal your heart!

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You ALWAYS have an option ....... "NEXT" !!!

Yeah. It happened ridiculously fast. I had no desire to settle down or get married. Yes, I'm embarrassed. The ring has her name, her daughters name, mine and my sons.
We've emailed and talked every day on the phone.. And I came back and spent 4 days with her almost immediately. The whole time she's been telling me we aren't "normal" so normal rules don't apply.

Anyway.. Thanks for the advice. I'm going to go crawl under a rock and get a membership under a different name or something. The sad thing is - I'm not really desperate. I am very successful and have opportunities with plenty of gringas.. This woman just hit my crazy button, I guess.

How embarassing.