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RM after going to Mde. one time i can see why you would take a chance on a Paisa.(they are amazing) !Buena Suerte!

And the best of luck to you, too, Rainman. I sincerely hope that yours is the exception to the rule.

While I was only married for 22 months, I have had several relationships that were "committed" and if I can offer one word of advice: Be stable, consistent and in charge. Tell her "no" often so she gets used to the fact that you are the decision maker and that you are not a chump who will do whatever she suggests. "Love" will only last as long as she continues to respect you and women don't respect weak men.

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but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker

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PAC,

I strongly agree with your comments that women only respect a strong man. Myself and TP have communicated frequently about how not to "ruin"
sweet Paisitas by turning them into bossy, naggy gringas and myself and TP both agree that you cannot spoil them with too many gifts and that the man nedes to remain in charge from day one. I have only had one real argument with my novia this last year and because of the way I handled it there have been no more problems. It is the job of women to test our boundries while it is our job to set/enforce them.

Rainman3

True story, amigo.

Women are searching for men. They may say they want an Alan Alda sensitive man who treats them as an equal but they seem to walk out on that guy for the first "bad boy" with a set of balls that sez the right nasty thing in her ear.

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A gringo can never bring enough gifts with him to Costa Rica.

In Medellin, you must make sure to leave room in your suitcase for the gifts which you will receive from your noiva, her family, and friends, gifts not just for you, but for your family back home as well.

Every relationship is different, but the best advice I can give any gringo looking to meet a novia is.... When in Costa Rica, act like a Tico. When in Medellin, act like a Paisa.

STOP ACTING LIKE GRINGOS!

I've never been married, but I've lived with my fair share of women. None, not one, of the women I was with ever attempted to rob me of my wealth. I'm tight so I never gave it up either and none of the break ups were ever about money so I really don't get it when men complain of women robbing them.

If you've ever used money in anyway to attract women to you then you have no right to complain later about anything related to money.

Some say it is "all about the money," and this is most definitely true if and only if YOU made it "all about the money" from the start. You can have plenty of money and not make the relationship "all about the money" - yes you can do this.

D2864 I think it is obvious if no woman tried to rob you they had true respect for you which obviously has to be earned & can never be bought. From what I have seen in my life so many men believe more in the power of their money with women than the power of themselves. Insecurities really do hurt us in so many ways.

I never had a woman (so far) try to rob me of my wealth either but then again I never left much to chance.

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Spunk glazed Chicas are the building blocks of the universe!

I really sympathize with the guys who willingly overlook the fact that their "novias" are still working girls. I seriously believe that each of us has to be responsible for our own actions, including serious errors in judgement, but I still hate to see someone throw away his life. I will try to counsel for a little while, but if my advice consistently falls on deaf ears...

Let the telenovela begin.

"As the Gulch Turns"

"One Cien to Give"

"The Middle Aged and the Brainless"

"All my Novias"

"The Guiding Forum"

It ain't a train wreck. I sincerely hurt for anyone hurt in a train wreck. A soap opera? Who's bringing the popcorn?

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I like watching the train wreck.... And like to see lots of carnage. Can't work up a lot of sympathy for grown men who believe in the Easter bunny... And the enablers that gather around and console are a hoot too. The only thing I feel bad about is not at least buying one of the suckers a few drinks for the entertainment..

Rainman said

We go down this path of conversation every few months on this board. I guess it always perks up the latest flock of CRTers just discovering the joys of CR and other latin destinations for mongering.

I have always experienced a vast difference between relations that were P4P versus "traditional hunting"/dating. Some of us have been lucky to find the real deal (long term companion, love, true GFE, etc). Actually I dont think it is something you find...it is something that finds you. But it hardly ever happens in a true sense in bordellos or MPs. As has been acknowledged on this thread, the highway is littered with the corpses of formerly macho mongerers who thought they found THE exception at the strip club or bordello.

That being said, there are some trophies in Latin America for the experienced and prepared hunter of true love and companionship. One just has to look a few pegs up the pecking order of educated and moneyed Latinas. And those to me are still MUCH preferred to a hot gringa...of which there are still a few.

Then again...there is nothing wroing with someone choosing to spend time and money on "fantasy" GFE. If someone wants/needs a trophy P4P Latina in their lives just to live up to their fantasies...and can afford it...who are we to criticize or judge? And many on this board have the perfect combo of real GFE at home, and fantasy "affairs" when given the opportunity. Some have open relationships and "swinger" lifestyles. No harm, no foul.

Good luck Rainman in your new endeavor ...

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Good luck Rainman3

Whether it eventually leads to marriage or not (personally, not sure I believe in the institution of marriage either and have yet to "tie the knot" with anybody), I don't think it's healthy for anybody to completely close off the possibility of falling in love with someone. As much fun as a lot of this hobby is, even the best of it eventually rings hollow after a period of time. It doesn't nourish the soul.

I would only advise, decide up front if you want to engage in one pursuit or the other. Above all, when on a mongering venture, don't let yourself become vulnerable to falling in love with a hooker. You can do better.

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This is why rock stars get married and if it wasn't for mongering, I would not have ever known this. Experience is everything!

Great words GetRythm!

perfectly put.

This debate goes on ad nauseum. I read a study awhile back that declared prostitutes in developing countries were often more intelligent women who analyzed their situation. They were simply looking for practical solutions to thier poverty and high on the list was greater opportunity for their lives and their Ch*ldren.

The essence of the article stated that contrary to the stereotypical assumptions that sex workers are "low lifes" determined just the opposite. They would pay any price and sacrifice themselves for the betterment of their Ch*ldren and families. All in all, I find their motivations and decisions admirable. Who is smarter? The cashier at Perimercado making $50 a week and working 50 hours or the young mom's coming to my house and making the same amount for a few hours of good times?

Perhaps I am rationalizing my high regard for my favoritas. I like giving them money and believing I am contributing something to their difficult lives.

I receive 2-3 calls almost everyday from my "special friends" asking for a date. I don't pay much but have managed to uncover quite a few 7 and unders who certainly seem to enjoy working at my house. They wash the dishes, mop the floors, do the laundry, cook, eat, drink, dance and most importantly give and receive pleasure.

My house is clean. My physical desires are met and most importantly, my soul is nourished.

"My cup runneth over! A mi me gusto vivir in Paz!"

FWIW-YMMV