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Some guys seems to ask, "why novias?", but the question that occurs to me is "why sex only?" Now when I was younger I think sex only was more than enough. And surely, if a girl really turns me on, it would be enough now on occasion. But what I seek is some understanding, some "relationship", to go along with the sex. It may be that my understanding is not well-founded, or the relationship is illusory, but notwithstanding these faults, the "pure sex" is not sufficient for me.

The gulch is definitely not the place to fill that need.

Apple58, Zebra, Shawn and Pac55 all make some very good points. Having a relationship with a chica beyond the "por hora" standard can be very rewarding, but needs to be approached with knowledge, experience, and the ability to control your emotions... But this is NOT for newbies. WARNING: advanced mongers only!

I'm sure everyone here agrees that taking the Rolltide/StingRey path is the road to ruin. I saw Rolltide more like a guy who goes skiing for the first time and decides to take the lift to the top of the mountain and just GO FOR IT... Instead of taking his lessons, doing pizza wedges and gradually working his way up to parrallel skiing, etc... (LIKE MANY HERE TOLD HIM TO) he decides he knows it all and hits the top. And predictably he ends up in a snowmobile and a stretcher heading for the the hospital.

On the other hand, with practice and time, one can learn how to glide down from the top in elegant form and control. You can conquer the mountain and develop your unique style. One of the things I have enjoyed in my two years here is watching the growth and development of my CRT brothers' own personal mongering styles. And many enter into relationships not governed by a clock. As Pac55 pointed out, there are many different possiblities. KCCostarica, (now apparently "Casper") wrote this in a recent thread:



I think if I lived full time in CR, this kind of arrangement would be for me. The key, I believe, is to be able to accept that your hooker novia is phucking and sucking other guys all day and every day. If you feel even a twinge of pain over that, be careful. Not easily done, I know. Double diamond territory here.


Rolltide of course never had a chance. Shoulda stuck to the greens. StingRey supposedly mongered for years before his Ingrid disaster. Guess he just wasn't a very good student.

I am one of the guys who has a regularita in CR. She normally will get about 50% of my leche while I'm in town and that's fine. I like the balance between the GFE and the hunt for fresh meat. There was a unique sexual connection between us from the very first session almost two years ago. A couple hundred leches later it is just as good. Why throw that away? On the other hand, the excitement of fresh new lips on my C*ck is only a walking tour away. It is really is having my cake and eating it too. Where else can you have the benefits of a GFE "emotional relationship" and all the hot PSE sex that you can handle with the leche you've got left? It's a routine that's worked for me for over a year now. I didn't jump into this as a newbie though. It took about 10 trips to CR to refine my personal style.

One final thought:

There is much on this board advising newbies on how to play the P4P game "por hora" or "TLN" . Not much here on how to manage a novia correctly. HMMM...

PHX

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I guess Im just paranoid and/ or scared. Ive had a couple of chicas who wanted to have various forms of relationships after doing the p4p thing with them. And even though they have visited my apt., see how I live, and know that I dont have enough to be a mark I still shied away because I knew trouble would come in some form from dating a working girl. Actually, Im more comfortable with them working and being comfortable enough with me not to try to hide that they are working. One even hinted at giving me an allowance out of her weekly earnings for being her regular boyfriend. haha

whoops/double

If you feel even a twinge of pain over that, be careful. Not easily done, I know. Double diamond territory here.

i think that may be the single most valuable nugget i have read regarding the novia experience. Dr. phx rising.
i have thought about that for a while now and it is THAT thought that must be regulated and resolved in your head. KNOWING that she works as opposed to fooling yourself and encountering pain is the key.
no matter what she tells you and how much she wants you to believe it. if you do not buy into the solo para ti gig, you can limit emotional exposure.
and guys who send money...

Phoenix Rising

You've stated very eloquently exactly what I've come to believe in terms of favoritas. I truly enjoy having a girl I connect with and have a 'relationship' with in Costa Rica. My favorita is a prostitute, and has sex with many other guys when I'm not around. When I am with her, however, I am guaranteed a GFE that knocks my socks off. I love going to the beach, going to dinner, drinking, watching movies and just hanging out with her. The fact that she is a prostitute is the very thing that has allowed me to open up and enjoy my time with her; I know that I don't have to worry about jealousy, commitment, and other such things that otherwise prevent me from having a relationship. I'm not saying that this is a "healthy" relationship in the customary sense, but if works for me at this point in my life.

I also partake voluminously in the other female options available in CR. Most of them are sheer fantasy fucks, others are a bit more involved. My favorita doesn't particularly care to hear about them, but is certainly aware of my proclivities.

I realize and respect that my type of arrangement with my favorita doesn't hold any attraction for many of my CRT brethren. For me, however, Costa Rica has opened up a world that satisfies many of my desires that I was unable to satisfy at home.

This board often reflects a sense of "black and white" when it comes to mongering in CR. Its either the Rolltide or Prostoner (no disrespect intended to Prostoner) model, where a goodfella gets sucked in and regrets it, or the QBF model (also no disrespect intended) where a guy comes in for a couple of days, screws as many chicas as he can and then gets the hell out. However, I've seen a continuum of chica experiences, as varied as the guys themselves. The trick is to make it work for you and to be careful not to get hurt too bad in the process.

Of course, PR and I both drink white russians and enjoy American Idol, so you are well advised to take what we say with a grain of salt.


Ciaociao

Well said, Ciaociao! It is what you make it and we don't have to all like the same things. The possibilities are endless as long as one can control their emotions.

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from other men, that is the hard thing to take, as a gringo who thinks they have a relationship. you hit it on the head!!!
I read that in Nica land, it is not uncommon for the sister to bang the brother if he cannot afford a girlfriend. it is common practice.
they bang their neighbor for a ride into town. they sell themselves cheap..that is something in america we don't get.

yup my novia sucks other C*ck, I just don't ask. I like to think that she is telling me the truth when she says "no phucking" unless she is in a bad situation. i.e gringo drunk in room and threatening her.

funny thing about her, she does not like to suck my C*ck. she says it is too much like being with a client. i allow that transgression, i actually believe her.

but, it does sting every now and then knowing that while you are watching tv back home that she is in the del rey on her knees swallowing leche.
but, she is a greta sex partner, asks for little money and actually is a lady I could marry. it will never happen, not for me not asking but rather for her refusing to do so.
I do not know if that says a lot for her, or if it means I am egor and not worthy. she says she wants to give it time.
heck she speaks like a regular all american woman..let us give it time. maybe maybe just maybe there are a few women that are actually proud of their sexo work and still want something in the future.
we all knew sluts back home that sucked off the white on rice.
I like to think my girl is special. i figure if my hearts pumps faster when I see her, I C*m more than ever and I like her underarm odor then I am hooked on something.

Seems like Apple likes the appletinis

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Buen dicho! Follow your own path. We all look at at life differentlly!Pura Vida!

Even the most experienced monger can fall for one of these girls. It's easy... They're loving, caring human beings. The ones that don't have TOO much baggage are even viable novias.

It's impossible to say, until you've tried, whether it will work, BUT...


Given the needs of a woman, and especially a Tica, it's hard to see a novia/novio relationship working from a distance without a GIGANTIC bit of work from both...

If this is not there, and you're paying for her to not work, you're really just paying for your own private puta, who gets pissed if you find other putas...

Here's how it works...

You are in the states now for a few weeks. You speak to her every day. Plenty of te amos and te extranos. She says things like, "Papi, yo necesito su pene en mi culo y un vibrador en mi panocha..." Now you are jonesing for your novia big time. One day you call her and you get voice mail. When does a chica NOT answer her phone? Yeah, you know, when her BOCA IS OCCUPADO

So the next time you tell her, baby, I really don't like that you work at the hotel..it's killing me! Why don't you get another job. She responds, correctly, that she cannot make enough money to support herself and her ninyos at the tienda or the factory. And yes she HATES going to the REY and she wants to give it ALL to you..., and she says, "Saca mi Del Rey!" "Ayudame!" and tells you all she needs is 500 dollars a month to pay the rent, luz y aqua y poquito comida para su ninyos...she will stay at home and she will not suck another man's dick. No mas Del Rey! Very simple! What's 500 dollars to a guy like you? And you start to think...hmmmm...

C U I D A D O

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Very good synopsis of adult male reasoning, PR. If she only needs $500 a month not to work the Del Rey why not pay it and she will no longer be a puta! WRONG...

Now, she is a fulltime puta only her client base is down to one (that you know of). Of course, she "needs" more than $500 a month and if you are not on-site, she knows where and how to get it. The important part is that, in her mind, she is still a 'ho.

Looks to me like there are two options:

(1) Stop paying her for sex so she is no longer a 'ho and find something for her to do that gives her worth aside from being a life support system for a vagina. Since you can't pay her bills without her being a 'ho, you incorporate her in your household and absorb her bills (they become your bills). Put her in charge of the household and Voila! she is now in the role of "housewife" not 'ho (and your 'ho'ing days are over). OR,

(2) You tell her that you will be her novio and you don't mind if she works. In fact, you expect her to bring you women. You don't expect her to be exclusively yours and you are not going to be exclusively hers. She can hang with you when she can and work when she has to. Since she is your novia, you won't pay her for sex but will pick up expenses for your time together.

What are the odds of either relationship becoming a "happily everafter" scenario? Probably close to nil so hang on and enjoy the ride but don't lose your heart or your life savings. There will be more...

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"Your love gives me such a thrill
but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker

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and she just added another 500 a month to her bottom line.
they use sex and emotion to access pin numbers.