Sometimes you just have to call things for what they are. I noticed apprehension among members when discussing rfm's because (as a whole) it carry's such a negative connotation.
And because of that and ego, some don't learn from the experience but rather play it off as a "latina" thing or a "they all do it" attitude. Giving resistance to that causes a riff to say the least. I learn what I can over the years from those more experienced than me, but this has always been a subject I've stood firm on. I have never mentioned the fact I've never been rfm'd because (conversely) it carries a cocky or braggart connotation with it. It shouldn't...
Chicas do have shame and when the dust settles, exchanging email or contact information is fine the question is how do you know if she will rfm you?
Trust, if (she cares) what you think...it simply won't happen.
Cujo
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"Pain is the fuel that fans the flames of my pyre. A battle plan is only as good as the general carrying it out on the field. This is my war son,
and I have the biggest bombs and the smallest conscience"...
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