Lenny-
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Well, I’m back in the saddle after a 2½ year hiatus. Rejoined CRT as a VIP after a very short but expensive marriage to a gal from Venezuela, not Costa Rica. Turns out she just wanted a green card after all, and most things went to downhill after she got it.
Jeez, she was really patient for all those months BEFORE receiving it. (and I thought I was easy going and patient) Fortunately, all?? it cost me was the bucks to get her here, the trips and all associated money, the gifts etc. but no more than that. But hey, I went in with my eyes wide open. I actually watched for all the signs of a trickster. She was a sweetheart from a relatively small town in VZ, so I though MAYBE she wouldn’t or hadn’t been corrupted too badly. I met her at the museum in downtown SJ. Yep, even visited her twice in VZ as well and two other trips, one to CR and one to Panama. She was consistently the same each and every time as well as when she was here as well for all the months before she got her card. Am I in love with her, nahhhhh. Not any more, my wake up call came and went. I don’t wish her badly, but realize what’s done is done. I feel good that I could care like that again after so many years, but too old to hold on to things that will have no value in my life anymore.
Well, now she has a right to be here, but NOT with me. Turns out, she has relatives in Florida Bitter?? Nah. That wastes way too much energy and is mostly unproductive. Pissed off? Yeah a little. Disappointed? Yep, absolutely, big time. But I have to be philosophical about it, it really ain’t the end of the world and could have been FAR worse
I know that I should never say NEVER, but hopefully you guys will kick me, beat me, and make me write bad checks if I ever say the M word again in a serious context. Enough is eeeee f**** nough.
SOOOOO……. I’ll be booking to CR in June to start live la pura vida una vez mas..
I wrote this back in Apr-07. Although I didn't go to CR to actually live, much of what you experienced is pretty much of what I did also. My ex was a non-pro and it still didn't work out after only 6 months here and she was 47. She had graduated from high school in Venezuela. As it turned out, she was just lazy and just wanted the good life, or certainly a better one, as long as I kept spending money. I bought her 3 different English courses but she never completed
any of them. Even showed her where the DMV site was in Spanish so she could take her driving test since she wanted to drive here. Fortunately I told her I would not buy her a car UNTIL she studied the course and I had tested her on her knowledge. Simply put, she was too lazy to study English or for the driving test. (A BIG wake-up call here). When she said she wanted to go visit her mom after only six months here in the States, I said sure (even though I did not understand it after only six months here). But the ringing in my head got a LOT louder. LOL When I said sure, maybe a two week vacation would be fine, she exploded that she wanted to be gone for 2½ - 3 months, after all it IS her family. I knew at exactly that moment I would be filing for divorce as soon as she left. End of story.
As my quote above states, I really wish her no animus at all. I assumed, obviously incorrectly, that since she was 47(well past the age of major illusions in life), her ki** were grown(27 & 29), no living father, a mother but no abuelos in town, and at least had a modicum of common sense, never was in the biz (knowing her view on it I seriously doubt it, but then you really NEVER know for sure, but I still doubt it), I was mostly in the clear as far as this marriage lasting. WRONG !!!! But she did keep my ring. The good thing is she has no rights to my pension, my SS, or any of my property after only 6 months, so I did get out fairly well unscathed except for a bunch of money on clothes, trips to VZ, CR, Columbia, and the normal sort of stuff we tend to buy for them. Really no regrets though but it has let me know most definitively that the M word is simply not for me. I certainly enjoy the GFE experience more for sure and like quickies as well, but renting is the only way to go for me at my tender young age of 62, even though I may only look 46!! HA!! Best of luck to ya and I'll buy the first if we ever meet.
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