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When is the best time to negotiate?
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Author:  ositoDelNorte [ Fri Nov 13, 2015 6:55 pm ]
Post subject:  When is the best time to negotiate?
I will be at SL on Nov 15 for my first time. I am very excited, but a newbie in Costa Rica. My only experience is backpage ******* in the States. But I figure the way things operate are a little different.

My first question is when is the best time to negotiate price and rules of engagement?

After a little flirting at the bar and the discussion moves to "lets go to your room", is it better to discuss and agree on a price at the bar? And discuss the dos and donts there? Or is it better to go to the room first, then discuss the details?

My instinct is to agree to everything upfront at the bar. But my Uncle who has lived in Costa Rica for 20 years and been to the HDR and SL many times over the years says always do it in the room.

Also, any other specific newbie advice that you have I'd love to hear.

Thanks!
Author:  Rover [ Fri Nov 13, 2015 8:19 pm ]
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10/10 rule. In the first few minutes they will ask how many times have u been there and how many days u are staying. Always say 10 or more to both questions.
Author:  Zunbake3 [ Fri Nov 13, 2015 8:24 pm ]
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Like anywhere in the world always negotiate everything upfront and always pay after!
Author:  CRFan [ Fri Nov 13, 2015 9:04 pm ]
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A discussion at the table is a simple negotiation....in the room, the same discussion tends to appear more like an argument. Arguments don't do my little guy any good.

I'm no nooby, but I relearned that lesson this week.
Author:  Rover [ Fri Nov 13, 2015 9:24 pm ]
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If u have to negotiate then ur talking to the wrong one. Use ur senses. U will know when it s right. My error factor is 10 percent and there is usually alcohol involved.
Author:  Orange [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 2:34 am ]
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Always discuss business before leaving the bar. Keep in mind that this is a business transaction afterall. You are not looking for a girlfriend or wife, you are not dating, you are looking for a service, so you should discuss the details of the service and the price. Would you invite a plumber to fix yourt toilet without asking how much he will charge you? Or would you wait till he's done to quote you a price?

Agree on everything over a drink or whatever in the bar, and only then go to the room and if she renegs on the agreement, she gets shown the door with nothing more than taxi fare 2,000 colones. However, if money is the first thing she discusses and it's all that's on her mind, boot her, it will be a crappy session. They all do it for the money but some aren't as obvious as the rest, looks for those.

There will probably be some romeos coming here and telling you that discussing money kills the GFE mood. Those are the guys who negotiate back at the room with their pants around their ankles, when the girl has their johnson (and wallet--figuratively speaking), and all the control in the palm of her hand. You will agree to anything if you or she are naked in the room, and they know that. As for GFE... I have never had a girlfriend who charged me for sex. If she likes you and there's good chemistry, she may put in a better effort and the session will be much better. You can mention that you like to go slow and relax, that will give you a better chance of getting a better session, and hopefully will weed out the clockwatchers and those hurrying to get you off and so they can leave.
Author:  Whitecat [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 6:01 pm ]
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Excellent advice, Orange. It's a business transaction that turns into sex. Make sure ALL is discussed before you go to the room. I do a 30 second recap with the choices right before we leave just to make sure. Make sure you're always ready to just turn around and walk away.
Author:  Mako113 [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 8:50 pm ]
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I agree with the majority here that you discuss before heading to the room but have a tip to add. Get away from the crowd a little before having that discussion. These girls are very conscious of saving face in front of the other girls. She is not going to agree to a less than ideal deal when her friends are listening.

And it doesn't have to be a hardcore contract. Try to be subtle. Ask her what she likes to do most, and when she says things that you are wanting you agree "yeah, that is my favorite!". Like somebody else said, just talk to her a lot first, the more comfortable you are together the more gfe it will be.
I am at the SL as well, I will see you around tomorrow. I am the slightly overweight gringo with the huge shit-eating grin on my face (lol, I just described everybody here)
Author:  bandon843 [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 9:51 pm ]
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Orange wrote:
Always discuss business before leaving the bar. Keep in mind that this is a business transaction afterall. You are not looking for a girlfriend or wife, you are not dating, you are looking for a service, so you should discuss the details of the service and the price. Would you invite a plumber to fix yourt toilet without asking how much he will charge you? Or would you wait till he's done to quote you a price?

Agree on everything over a drink or whatever in the bar, and only then go to the room and if she renegs on the agreement, she gets shown the door with nothing more than taxi fare 2,000 colones. However, if money is the first thing she discusses and it's all that's on her mind, boot her, it will be a crappy session. They all do it for the money but some aren't as obvious as the rest, looks for those.

There will probably be some romeos coming here and telling you that discussing money kills the GFE mood. Those are the guys who negotiate back at the room with their pants around their ankles, when the girl has their johnson (and wallet--figuratively speaking), and all the control in the palm of her hand. You will agree to anything if you or she are naked in the room, and they know that. As for GFE... I have never had a girlfriend who charged me for sex. If she likes you and there's good chemistry, she may put in a better effort and the session will be much better. You can mention that you like to go slow and relax, that will give you a better chance of getting a better session, and hopefully will weed out the clockwatchers and those hurrying to get you off and so they can leave.

A few years ago, I would have argued on some points above, but now that I am well over 50 and with decades "in the business", I have to agree 100% with your posture. Couldn't have been said better! Heed this advice to the T 8)
Author:  Rover [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 10:24 pm ]
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It's just not my style. We can agree to disagree. The advice above is soild and probably best for the majority. I have tried it but it just doesn't work as well for me. Hope u can respect that. As I continue to age I may change my style.
Author:  hotdogg [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 11:29 pm ]
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Thinking about it I might be adjusting my tactics as I get a sense of the chica. If they seem a bit aggressive I start getting more specific.

I always, always, always get duration and price dialed in before heading to the room. I'm also clear that payment happens afterwards. If we can't get those things established... it's next please.

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Author:  Flabuck [ Sun Nov 15, 2015 12:19 pm ]
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Get away from the bar area and find a more quiet place to discuss the details after you have picked the chica. The SL has a few quiet areas to talk before going into your room, one being the sitting area in the clubhouse and a quiet area in the mansion area. If you can not reach an agreement then neither one of you look bad in the eyes and ears of the rest of the bar.
Author:  ositoDelNorte [ Sun Nov 15, 2015 1:26 pm ]
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Thank you all for the great advice! I am leaving on my way to SL now. Anyone there tonight feel free to say hi to the bald guy in the white button up shirt. That's me!

Ben
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