Dwarf, good luck on your journey, but I have some questions.
BashfulDwarf wrote:
oh, I should have stated the plan. I am paying for 3 months of classes. This allows her to enter the US 30 days before they start, and remain 60 days after they end. So that gives us 6 months (better than the 90 day K-1) to try out the relationship.
How is this cheaper than a k-1? 3 months of classes plus the visa fee is less than $450?
BashfulDwarf wrote:
I am targeting the F-1 student visa. It’s a non-immigrant visa, they must go home afterwards, and it is similar to the ‘test-drive’ 90 day K-1, but cheaper, faster, and safer (for me, in terms of her deciding to remain as an illegal immigrant).
A k-1 is not a test drive visa. Unlike the way that the show “90 day fiancé” portrays it as a trial visa, it’s not how USCIS views it. It’s for couples who are engaged and ready to marry. The 90 days is time to plan the wedding, not to see if she will like it or if she really wants to marry. Safer? In either case, you are not responsible for her once she goes out of status and decides to stay in country illegally. Only when applying for the greencard, do you sign an I-864 which you agree to support her.
BashfulDwarf wrote:
I can extend the school by getting another I-20 (renewing her student seat), I can marry her and convert her to Immigrant, or she can return home.
Who told you that she can convert an F-1 to an immigrant visa? F-1 doesn't convert to any other type of visa. An F-1 can marry a US citizen and adjust status to permanent resident (green card). However, the key is to convince the immigration officer that she has no intent to emigrate when she arrived in the US. That may be difficult seeing that her boyfriend paid for the entire process. If they determine that she had intent, she will have committed visa fraud and be subject to a lifetime ban from the US. You helping her may also face fines. [/quote]
BashfulDwarf wrote:
I don’t want a woman that’ll put her K*ds first (equality is the goal).
I hope that you don’t actually believe this. Any woman who would choose a man over her K*ds is worthless.
BashfulDwarf wrote:
But as I inferred the baby may not be able to go, she backed out. She would not leave her baby behind.
That’s an expected response.
BashfulDwarf wrote:
She is also 27 years younger than me. Yeah! That ain’t gunna last. But that is the EXACT point. I don’t want it to last. If we stay together and retire to Costa Rica, great. If I do it alone, and she remains in the USA, then more power to her. The age thing isn’t that big a deal, based upon the needs in play.
Huh? Am I missing something? You DON’T want it to last? Then why the Phuck would you go through all the trouble to get her here, so she can get a greencard and meet another guy? That’s either the most altruistic gesture or the most insane, I can’t decide which.
It sounds like you are looking for a live-in nanny and caretaker. Have you discussed your plans with her? Does she know that you plan to still travel to Phuck hookers? Are you planning to co-mingle your finances?
In my opinion, the reason that most of these international relationships fail is due to misguided expectations (on both sides). A lot of the women think that they are coming to the US to live the American dream, but end up in no so dreamy situations (financially, emotionally, etc). And the guys think that they are getting a sex slave, nanny, and a maid.