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Hi, the last thing I want to do is waste anyone's time writing an autobiograpy, but unfortunately, to address some (possibly unusual/uncommon?) questions I have, well..I feel I need to be 100% honest about myself upfront so I can hopefully receive the best advice regarding my somewhat unique situation. If you are pressed for time, please don't feel obligated to even read anymore.

Basically, I am soon to be 30 years old in December and have not experienced 1 minute of intimacy with another person in my life. I was born with a medical condition known as Treacher Collins syndrome, for anyone unfamiliar, it typically consists of craniofacial deformities and in my particular case results in what appears as if my face is "melting" due to the severely deficient bone structure. I hope this doesn't come off like a pity party, because I have for the most part made peace with it, but there are a few things in which I would like to experience in my life, at the very least a few times, that I feel I am very hindered due to my appearance.

Originally I was e-mailing back and forth and actually planning on seeing an escort in my area. We spoke about 2 weeks before we were scheduled to meet and I told her I was a virgin and asked her if she was comfortable being with someone so inexperienced. She said she was and had been with older virgins before, so I felt relieved, but in my final e-mail to her I further explained my situation which didn't turn out as well. Two days before we were to meet she wrote me saying after thinking it over, she wouldn't be comfortable taking my virginity, as "it should be with someone special your first time, and I don't want to take that special moment from you". I appreciate her graciously trying to spare my feelings and I'm not even angry about it, she has every right to see whom she wants to and doesn't want to see..but it just really sucks to imagine she probably googled "treacher collins" and only had a sudden change of heart then, and in reality it had nothing to due with my inexperience. I debated contacting another escort and just not explaining my situation at all, but I am worried upon seeing me she may have second thoughts and my experience may suffer by catching her off-guard. In my case, I still maintain honesty is probably the best policy..maybe I am wrong? I don't know.

Now I am basically in the process of planning a week or so long trip down to CR for November or December (any recommendations? I know to avoid Xmas week). I have done a decent amount of research already and read through a lot of the FAQ threads and the absolutely phenomenal Costa Rica for newbies thread. Almost every question I had was answered, except of course, the obvious concerns I have pertaining to my situation. The idea of something like HDR appeals to me as the girls can make the decision right off the bat if they are not interested in me as a customer and we won't be dancing around the issue in emails for days on end and just wasting one another's time. I suppose I am just asking for brutal/honest advice from more experienced guys here if my appearance will be a problem even there? I am always clean, showered, soft-spoken, well-mannered, etc...if that is all it takes to be able to use the services of a working girl then I'd like to think I would be okay...but I just don't want to waste even more time and money flying down there just to have absolutely zero luck again.

The nice thing about home is I could try to explain my situation to ******* and discuss what I want out of the meeting. I know the language barrier may present somewhat of a problem in CR but, at this point, to be honest, I don't even care anymore, I just want to experience what it is like
to be with another person. I am not delusional, so I would appreciate any brutally honest advice anyone can offer. I am not looking for a perfect fairytale experience, trust me, any hope of anything even slightly resembling that died probably 15 years ago when I came to the realization I would most likely never experience normal dating, relationships, etc...I just want to attempt to make up for some lost time and feel normal for once. Teenagers half my age have already experienced more intimacy than I probably ever will in my life, it is just getting pathetic at this point and I want to just see what I am missing, even if I have to take this route.

I am just trying to make sure this will be as relatively stress-free a trip a possible. I remember reading HDR didn't have the best accommodations but everything seems so convenient that it sounds like what I am looking for. Land at the airport, cab to HDR, food/stores/etc in the area, girls always in the lobby, $10 guest fee...sounds simple enough. I am sure there will be a few bumps in the road but I just hope it is a good experience overall. I really need a trip like this and I can't remember the last time I was this excited about anything...just having something to look forward to really has done a lot of good for my mindset, especially during this time of year when I am pretty depressed/down in dumps.

Thanks in advance if anyone has any input, regarding anything at all, I can't even express how much it is appreciated.

I'll give this a shot...............

The only way that you'll find out if the trip to CR is worth the money and trouble for you is to make the trip.

It seems to me that many of the working girls in SJ are very tolerant of men with physical problems, even when those physical problems are caused by a "mental" problem.

I am amazed that a girl doesn't run the other way - - - - far away from some of the guys who I see who are afflicted with conditions like morbidly obese, bad breath, ugly greasy hair, horrible-looking rotted teeth, skin lesions, speech impediments, tourette ticks, drunken- glazed eyes, missing or deformed limbs, scraggily-nicotain-stained facial hair, 20 fungus infected nails , a wrinkled, smelly old dick, etc, etc.

Many working girls are DESPERATE for money to support their families.......even some good looking, sweet girls. Others are extremely picky about who they'll go with and about what they'll do for the money. It runs the full, wide spectrum. Just like your syndrome runs a wide spectrum.

It seems like your head is screwed on very solidly. I admire your attitude and your ability to accept your unfortunate condition. I believe that your success in our hobby will be influenced in large measure by the degree of your facial deformity - - - - slight deformity, no problem - - - - extreme deformity, greater problem.

Considering your age, your attitude, your history, your syndrome, and the openness of our hobby in SJ, I'd say make the trip and take the gamble if you can afford to gamble with the financial aspect of it. If you don't have much luck at the HDR, you can try the MPs, like Casa Portuguesa on Calle 6 (cleaner than some, 7,500 for 1/2 hour). The girls at the MPs may be more tolerant of deformities than the girls at the hotels.

I wish you good luck.

I think Rac summed it up pretty well. The only thing I would add is that if you don't know any Spanish, definitely learn some before you go. If you can convey that you're a nice guy with a good personality & can make a chica laugh and charm her a little bit, it will go a long way. While some of the girls have decent English skills, your odds would go up exponentially if you could talk to them in their native language.

Good luck!

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Damn dude, I don't envy your predicament...

But I would just like to encourage you to give it a shot...and wish you the best of luck!

You will need a good wing man to show you the ropes. Maybe even approach the girls for you in advance to advise them of your status, speak spanish, etx.

The first girl you should see is Jasmine at Scores. I think she is good to go for anything

I went on line and did a little research - looked at a few pix too.

I think you are gonna be fine - seriously - based on the pix I saw, there are plenty of guys on CRT that look a whole lot worse - and their only excuse is that they are really ugly - gross too.

Its really - again, BASED ON THE PICTURES ON LINE - not that bad

If you make the trip - and I would urge you to do so - I think you will have a good time - from what you wrote, I got the impression you looked like some derivative of the "Elephant Man" - or at least "Fred the Elephant Boy" of the Howard Stern show.........certainly not the case. You really need to work on that infirority complex - you write well and come across as a good guy - For the 3rd time - if you have a case similar to what's posted on line no doubt in my mind you are gonna be phucking shortly after your arrival

Contact EsposodeBarbie via PM - arrainge a tour, and go from there - but do go - from Miami its about a 2.5 hour flight and soon thereafter you will be doing what you should have been doing 12 years ago.

Unless you have a really bad case, I think you are golden - plus many girls in Costa Rica are very nice and have caring personalities - I'm sure your personal hygene is good so you are going to be fine.

To paraphrase the old saying "You get more with a gun and a kind word than a kind word alone" "You will get more sex with a kind personality and a $100 bill than a kind personality alone"!

Best of Luck!

Tyler...first off, know you are NOT alone in this hobby of ours as there are many members with appearance problems in one way or the other. Second, know the girls down here are not real interested in your physical appearance. I personally know at least two gentlemen with a problem similar to yours and they have NO problems finding girls in Costa Rica. Third, facial appearance is probably the least important thing to girls here...weight and bad hygiene are the most frequent complaints I overhear.

I took a look at a few pages of Google pictures of people with your exact problem and really don't think the girls here with have an issue in the least. I tend to think you will have a lot more problems from being a newbie than with your appearance. That being said, keep up the research on the site. I would even suggest getting in touch with Esposo de Barbie here on CRT and having him give you an introductory tour of San Jose. He is a wealth of information and can help smooth the newbie process along.

My advice is just book the trip and get down here. Put the fear aside and know you will have a fantastic time!

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Thank you all for the help, encouragement, etc... again, I really can't express how much I appreciate it (the help and the honesty). Before posting I was really beginning to overthink everything...Imagining all the possible details and less-than-ideal scenarios that could play out isn't doing me any favors and was starting to turn the whole idea of this trip into a very overwhelming (mentally and physically) undertaking. Pretty much the complete opposite of what that trip should be. I suppose I just let my past escort experiences sour me into thinking I wouldn't be able to find one working girl who would be willing to spend some time with me. On the escort forum I used others told me I would have a ball in Thailand but CR is just a whole lot closer than going across the world, especially considering just how inexperienced at this whole thing I am. While in no way, shape or form am I fluent, I do speak some Spanish, enough to get by I'd hope. I'm definitely not well-versed enough or possess the vocabulary to explain my condition, my insecurities, and past the way I could with the escort I wrote here, but I should be able to generally converse I think. I certainly never thought the years of Spanish courses I took in High School and all throughout College would prove most beneficial for me in this regard, but I can definitely say now I am glad I learned.

Thanks again, now that I have some reassurance that I should in fact put the effort into making this trip a reality, I suppose I can move along with my planning. I have some more research and reading to do and this site has already proven to be an invaluable asset. The EsposodeBarbie tour a few mentioned sounds interesting and I can certainly look more into that, as well as other things in general. I just had to have some help getting over the hurdle of "is there any point of even bothering with this trip?" which was killing any motivation I had to further look into anything. If anyone has any other advice to offer, I am all ears. and as always I can't tell you how much I appreciate everyone's honesty...what a lot people (doctors, teachers, family) in my life never understood is that sugarcoating things, even when done with the best intentions, almost always leads to much harder realizations that I could have been spared had people just been upfront with me from the beginning.

Best wishes Tyler. I would venture everybody on CRT is hoping you have a great time in Costa Rica.

when you get to the delray take a seat at the bar order a drink and relax, sooner or later a girl will sit next to you and introduce herself.it's your vacation let them do the work!

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I concur with everyone else. You should DEFINITELY make the trip and experience CR in all it's glory, although, I will suggest staying at either Sportsmens Lodge or La Amistad over the Hotel Del Rey. Just a personal preference. I can pretty much guarantee you'll have a great time, and I'm 99.9% positive your condition will have no effect on most all of the gals. Treat them with respect, try to speak Spanish (no matter how bad, they appreciate an effort,) use google translate if necessary and just relax.

Book the trip!!!

Great advise.

One piece of advise: Dont ever be offended if they wont kiss you. Many of the girls considering kissing more intimate than sticking your dick inside her Go figure!