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I know I'm not the only one after reading posts here for a few weeks. Still I wonder about how we old farts are treated and viewed in CR. Are we considered easy marks, a pain in the ass or out of place by the other mongers and most of all by the chicas? If one were to find a young lady willing to travel to other parts of the county would I have trouble with the locals due to my companion? Pretty typical newbie questions I'm sure and I will be most appreciative for any help my brother mongers can give me. Thank You in advance.

Slim
Still horny after all these years!

I have witnessed gringo men at least 85-90 years old with a 40 something Chicas helping them navigate the main avenida. People seem indifferent to it. We are not the first older mongers nor the last. To hell with what people think enjoy life. Like it is like your last day on earth, because we never know!

I think even with the locals you see older men with younger woman. Even if it wasn't accepted who gives a damn!

For many historical reasons, the culture encourages women to pair up and marry with older, established men.

So, what is considered within cultural norms is this: take the man's age, divide it in half, and add seven years.

For example, if the man is 40, marrying a 27 is within cultural norms. If he is 60, a wife of 37 does not raise an eyebrow.

Look at Evita and Juan Peron, the current Argentine president, Christina Kirchner and her former president husband, or even the current Costa Rican president and her husband.

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I wouldn't worry about it. Whether you are old or young, the locals will know the score. As far as what other mongers think... it's like the pot calling the kettle back. Just be a gentleman, respect the woman and her culture, and go enjoy yourself.

Take it from a somewhat "Old Fart". I wouldn't worry about it much either, but, the Costa Rican people, especially those who do not make their money from the Monger's do look down on us, clearly know why we are around downtown San Jose but usually don't say anything in public. I used to believe that Puta's were not looked down on in the CR society....that's what I was told and I thought it was true....but....after having two long term novias in CR I found out this was not the case. Puta's are looked down on much the same as a hooker in the US would be....that being said the family and friends who benefit from the Puta's earnings can ignore the truth and accept the "notion" that "Anna" is working as a waitress or in the tourist industry. LOL.... I for one never wear shorts in the Gulch and try to fit in as a local as much as possible but I doubt I'm really fooling anyone.

Imagine you lived in an economically depressed part of the USA. Businessmen from some foreign nation, say, Japan, built a factory, in your town. They bring all sorts of foremen and middle managers for a few years to set up the factory and run things and train a local cadre. They don't bring their families. However, they do start turning several graduating classes of high school cheerleaders and struggling college students and young single moms into their mistresses.

Now, many would look the other way, because that factory is hiring hundreds, maybe thousands of their older brothers, fathers, uncles, moms, etc. to work in the factory.

The Gulch is a factory. It creates employment for hundreds in the restaurants, hotels, casinos, etc. Costa Rica benefitted from being the safest Central American country twenty years ago, being relatively poor compared to other countries in the hemisphere, being closer to us and less "alien" than Bangkok or the Philippines, and having a population that was not too mestiza and hence having women that were more "American looking" than the other countries, so when the internet met de-regulated air fare prices, "the factory" opened.

However, the chicas ARE the factory workers and all the other jobs are just support staff. The locals know it, they accept it, but deep down, if they thought about it too much, they don't like it. It is not that they don't like P4P....they live in a culture of "marianismo" (the two most important women in the Bible are the virgin Mary and Mary Magdelene) .... but if they had to think about it too much, they don't like it that they have not advanced beyond the post-WWII exchange of chocolate bars and nylon stockings for BBBJ from buxom blondes economy (which really ticks them off, because with all the European socialism they practice, they really wish they were one of those countries by now.)

And, yes, please do NOT wear shorts, sandals, and hawaian shirts away from the pool and expect to be treated seriously.

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"I'm not one those pathetic lietuenant colonels working a silly civilian job, working out two hours a day trying to reclaim a body they lost 20 years ago and four hours a night completing War College by correspondence in a sad attempt at colonel. Tyler Durden told us [i]'Self improvement is masturbation[/i].' My mid-life crisis is going to involve a new sports car, or the zoftig redhead with daddy issues in accounting, or better yet, racking up frequent flyer miles going to Pattaya."

"Old fart" is somewhat of a relative term I think.
There are graying, balding, majorly obese, slovenly 40 year olds, and there are fit, young looking 60 year olds. Which is the "old fart"?
Red

Stop fooling yourselves, it stands out and people notice. Locals and tourists despise it even though they smile to our face. Keep it in the gulch and even there be discreet.

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Well put!

Red, I fall into the second category. I have enjoyed the pleasures spoken of here since I was a young buck. Having said that I find that as I age (semi gracefully) I am more concerned with how I am viewed by those sweet young things. While I have had one experience in a border town mostly I have found my connections through the internets and find that I am more inclined toward older providers found there as opposed to what I see pictured on this site. I am looking forward to my first CR experience the first part of March. Thank you all for responding to my post.

Slim
Still horny after all these years.

I believe the monger scene is as much a latin invention as any other. I think it is common (if not expected) in the latin culture for a man of means to have a much younger mistress or even 2. Many of the latinas are raised to believe they don't have much more going on for them than their sex. They know that the way in life is by the good graces of an older man. (That thinking exists in the USA but it certainly more prevalent in latin cultures IMHO).
The pattern I experienced with the putas was to treat them nice, to the point of almost spoiling them and then sit back and wait for them to come after you. Many times the girls will not find a client when they need it most (i.e. rent is due, pay for school, no money for food/bus or phone). That's when they show how much they depend on the man and his assets, regardless of any other factors. That's the time to show a firm hand and not be coy about expectations, prices etc.
I think the putas expect this kind of treatment and respect the mongerer even more.
I wonder if the negative feedback some are getting from Ticos is more about a general dislike of Gringo. Ticos are very upfront about their dislike for Nicos of Colombians. I think there are many Ticos that dont really like Gringos that much either. They might be just using the monger thing to show their disdain for Gringos in general.

slink-good post
agree

That being said, I am still can't believe the number of 5 or lower latinas on these dating sites (marriage agencies) that still expect to get a commitment from a Gringo who is no more than 5 years their senior. Hell, why wouldn't the gringo save himself some major time, cash and hassle and just find a gringa if their is no age or other major advantage. Could it be these dating sites will sign up women even if they have zero chance of finding a guy with any kind of game. I am sure the Gringa has a bad name, but seriously, there are tons of very lonely women in the states. As long as your happy with someone in your demographic, finding a woman is not that hard. Hell, they find you.
In addition, the latina, justified or not, has a bad reputation for being extremely dependent and overly emotional (i.e. have you met a latina that is a drama queen ?).
Yet time and time again I see a 37 year old, with a K*D or 2, average looking latina stating the age requirements of perspective men must be 35-40. Really ? I would like to date Super models without leaving my home.
I believe most reasonable latinas (Ticas), that have even a marginal amount of common sense, who do not have a significant profession or form of income well in excess of average must know that an older gringo that can provide them (and usually their Ch*ldren) with security and a decent life is very much a catch, if not down right winning the lotto. I think some will draw the line if you are not in good shape (i.e. have major health issues) or if you are near the point in life where you need someone to care of you. This makes sense to me, after all they want a husband and not someone they have to take care of in addition to their Ch*ldren and parents.

Ran across my old post just now and thought I should pass on my experience from my last visit in the spring. I spent time with a number of lovely young ladies, most of whom were at least a third of my age. I was treated as a boy friend in most instances and with the exception of one lazy text messaging girl at HLH every experience was fantastic. I spent time with the ladies of HLH, SL, and DR. I met a stunning 6 foot tall lady from Limon at the SL one night who walked back up to LA where I was staying and she rocked my world. We shared a cup of coffee at the bar at SL to get to know each other and she agreed to all of my requests. When I asked for a bbbj she replied "Yes, men's don't like condoms. In the room we went at it like teenagers and after a few minutes of her oral skills I asked for a condom so we could Phuk. I guess she would have done that BB as well, but not me. It took a phone call downstairs and a request that was granted post haste by the excellent staff at LA. Lesson learned, bring your own don't be a dummy like me!! I would encourage my brothers here abouts to grab this beauty if you should be so lucky as to run across her. She goes by the name of Rebecca Sexy and she comes by the name honestly I can assure you. Carla at HL and a lovely young think I found the last night at DR round out my favoritas in the land of milk and honeys. I can't wait to return. Finally, I am here to tell you that my age made absolutely no difference to the ladies. They all treated me like a king and as all my brothers here know, It's good to be king!!