Just when I thought I was getting the hang of things....bang, another blow to my ability to advance beyond newbie status. It started 2 trips ago in March. On our third nite in San Jose I met a young Dominican at the Key Largo. I tried to politely say no thanks, but she was insistent, which kind of intrigued me. To make a long story short, by the end of the nite, she had me wrapped around her little finger. Took her back to the Prez and spent an amazing nite with her. Great, you say? Well this nite led to the next and when all was said and done I spent my last 3 nites in SJ with the same chica. By the end of the trip she was all lovey dovey, introducing me as her novio to her friends. On our last nite together, she was telling me how much she loved me...."te amo". I accepted this for what it was and left CR feeling confident and rejuvenated. Of course we exchanged phone numbers and emails, and by my third day home she was calling me regularly and telling me how much she missed me, loved me, blah blah blah. Well I fell hook, line and sinker, despite all Ive read here and all I've been warned not to fall for a tica/chica. Too phuckin late. Booked a return trip mid April, headed down solo and ended up spending the entire 4 nites with her again. This time she took me to her home and introduced me to her 3 yo daughter. Needless to say, the feelings started to grow on my end, and I thought hers as well. Damn, when will I learn?
On my last day in San Jose, we talked about her coming to the US for a week or 2. It turns out that she "lost" her passport and needs to go back to DR in order to re-up. Apparently her residency card is about to expire too. All I kept doing was to wait for her to ask for money...that would just wrap it up for me....but at no point did she request anything....until....
So I get home from the April trip and we start emailing and talking on the phone. The issue of her passport came up and at this point she requested cash so that she could purchase a ticket to get back to DR in order to get her passport, so that we could apply for a visa to get her to the US. Even tho I was reluctant I agreed to sending, but kind of dragged my feet in getting anything to her. I got all kinds of love letters from her, e-cards, etc. I read and re read the newbie section as well as anything else that pertained to sending these chicks money. "Just say no!" Spoke to my close friends and wingmen who concurred...."dont send her anything, she's probably playing this same thing on several guys."
She sends me her full name so that I could wire the cash to her. In the email she now also asks for extra money to have while she is in the DR with family, so that she can eat and have spending money until she returns to CR mid May. This was this past Friday nite. By the way, she's also telling me that she hasnt worked since I left CR.
Well, last nite I came to my senses and explained to her that I couldnt send the money, and we would talk about it when I return to CR on May 19th. WOW talk about a change in heart! She got extremely angry at me, telling me that I lied to her and she already told her family how she is coming to DR to visit and how she's in love with this American guy, etc etc etc. There was no reasoning with her anymore. She made it clear that she wasnt going to take my calls anymore, because I hurt her. True to her word, she hasnt answered my calls, nor returned any emails.
So I ask my brothers, when will I learn? How did I slip up and let my feelings run rampid with the girl? Seems like I just continue to make these newbie mistakes one after another. What's a gringo to do????
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