Berk2302 wrote:
It's about keeping it all in perspective. This isn't a "date" with a non-hooker. You're getting laid because of the cash in your pocket. You're new to CR. You start handing out everything from boozes to smokes and they're gonna see you as an easy pushover. It you want your time in the DR to be that of a first timer with "newbie" tattooed to your forehead that the chicas can see and take advantage of that's up to you. I have taken plenty of chicas to dinner and bought plenty of drinks. I keep it all in perspective though.
I agree with Berk 100% here. As far as I am concerned you should never give a girl anything she has not earned. Gifts of any kind for working girls that have done nothing but look good and smell nice just make them think that you are an easy mark and don't understand the value of money. No need to be cheap, but any gift you give a woman (working or otherwise) needs to be linked to a specific thing she did to earn it or you are well on your way to your "Chump" merit badge, in my humble opinion.
Berk2302 wrote:
There is no love in the DR. There is also a long list of guys here at CRT that will testify to that very fact. Don't get suckered into thinking you have something special. The DR is a world of make-believe.
Here, Berk and I diverge. Berk's observations are correct but I don't agree with his conclusions. I think that what he observed was the same set of skills (or lack thereof) and behaviors that have been ineffective in other relationships are still ineffective. If we continue to repeat the same experiment over and over with the same result it only proves that the experiment won't work using those behaviors.
Men tend to think they have won the prize and relax when they feel they have "won" the girl. You can't relax in a relationship. The true power struggle has just begun. Women do what they do for specific reasons and with a list of goals in mind. Typically, men do not even realize they are playing a game until they have lost. It does not have to be like that.
With all that said, relationships fail. My point is that we have a much better chance of coming out ahead when we are aware of the game and the rules instead of stumbling blindly onward. Just my opinion.

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