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Pat- you qouted me wrong.-I cant take credit for someone else's work.

Accept my apologies Mike 321.
It was MarkL54 who made the post in question and I have corrected my post to show that.

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Patriot: Ice Road Trucking through the Bearing Sea to recovery

Thanks for being honest...

My basic feel is that you don't have a lot of self respect. If you go into a relationship with a puta, then you are wide open to be chewed up. I recommend avoiding the whole scene, until you fix that part of yourself.

Concerning the other side of the argument... a lot of what Josie is saying is real. Its not like you flip a switch and just decide to sell your pu*sy cuz you need cash one day. This is why I always laugh when I hear gringos saying... "this one is special. its her first day or she only does this once a month." They aren't saints, martyrs or anything else for their families. They are typically outcasts.

Another perspective....

Tourists come down here and assume that tica is synonymous with hooker. This is only true when the only place you hang-out in CR is the the Hotel Del Rey. I always say this - look at the stats - less than 1% of all females in Costa Rica are putas. It just happens that the fraction of a percent are the only ones we interact with on daily basis. Thats it!

Recently I was in a argument with a girl at my gym. She claimed that all gringos are assholes, that we are ruining Costa Rica and that we only come down here looking for whores. Now - can you imagine that I was arguing the other side???

Just like we aren't ALL assholes - they aren't all whores. So, why the hell does anyone waste time on them???? Beyond pay for play, I don't understand it!!!

If you need to drop a nut, go find a whore. If you want a date for the movies, get some sack and some patience, and do some shopping.

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In order to write about life, first you must live it! - E. Hemingway.

Any stories out there of guys screwing chicas over in a relationship? Seems odd how we never hear about that or success stories. I personally know of a few amigos on this board who have current successful relationships.

I guess there's no reason to discuss that, but I've seen with my own eyes that it can be done correctly...

Cujo

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"Pain is the fuel that fans the flames of my pyre. A battle plan is only as good as the general carrying it out on the field. This is my war son, and I have the biggest bombs and the smallest conscience"...

Since this is in the newbie section, I thought I would just share a thought about a RFM. She survived before she met you and she will survive after you are done giving her money.

Patriot,

First of all, a mistake. So, we all make them. Is there one gentleman here that can say they haven't made a mistake in life?

Second, You do not need to be critiqued of your past, it is your future that you control. It is in your hands, so to speak (or type).

Third, When you wake up tomorrow, is Patriot #1. If not, then you might as well be #103 or #208. The point, it only matters what you think about yourself. This board, those around you everyday, what I am writing, or the opinion of anybody else is not more important than that mirror you look at everyday. There are sooooo, many insecurities in life. Attack them one by one.

Just don't ever put a beating on my BEARS again. (the past is the past)


Forget the chica, you will have bigger problems if a Pat messes with a Bear .


Dean

I know what I said earlier about it being my last post but I thought everyone might like to know the following:

I was surfing the web and came across some sites where you can post pictures. I searched the sites using the name of my ex novia and some variations and found her.

The site contained pictures of her, the baby and some gentleman who I have now idea who he is. According to dates of some of the pictures they were taken during the past 2 years and showed the gentleman in the hospital room with my ex and both were smiling broadly. There were also pictures of what I have to assume are his family and pictures of what I know are her family. Some of the pictures I even took.

I also received a reply to my request for the DNA test, I read it as a no.

Bottom Line; Which will be good for the board

1) It is over and done with. I sent an email saying goodbye and good luck.
2) I have read and re-read all of the comments in this post and WILL work towards accomplishing them.
3) I was lied to during the past few years so she could get money from me using my guilt to get it. It worked but won't anymore.
4) Thanks to all for the comments ; even JOsie
5) Unless you feel absolutely compelled to do so, post no more comments. Let this post fade to the back pages. At the same time feel free to post or if you prefer PM me.

If you would like to help me get my "game" back PM me and I'll send you the information where to send the money. I have enough FF miles to get to CR or MDE but no $$$ for fun

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Patriot: Ice Road Trucking through the Bearing Sea to recovery

Which would also include arbitrarily surfing the web trying to find pics of her right?

If so, Bravo. You don't have to convince us its over and done with, make sure you believe it.

Good luck moving forward...

Cujo

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"Pain is the fuel that fans the flames of my pyre. A battle plan is only as good as the general carrying it out on the field. This is my war son, and I have the biggest bombs and the smallest conscience"...

OK, so post some pics. and maybe you'll help prevent the next victim falling for her trap

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Cujo's Wrote:
Maybe but in an email I included some of the pics so she knows I know. They'll probably set things to private.

It will take a while but I FINALLY believe it myself and it is getting easier.


Captian Cohiba wrote:
As she turned 29 this year, is with some guy at the beach with her K*ds most of the time(?), might be moving to FLA(?) with the guy, and she appears to be happy I don't think she'll be working anymore (yeah right; if money is tight she probably will). Lastly I need to keep my word that I will not post her name or any pictures of her. If I did I feel I would be no better than her and just posting them for the sake revenge. It wouldn't serve any purpose.

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Patriot: Ice Road Trucking through the Bearing Sea to recovery

Pretty useless- there are going to be a hundred women or more who would love to find such a situation.. The key is to understand yourself and your own vulnerablities, and understand what you need to do to avoid being drawn into situations such as this..

I echo what Cujo said- good luck in being TOTALLY done with it...

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I said hey baby, take a walk on the wild side.
Lou Reed

I don't mean to put another quarter in this marry-go-round but it needs to be pointed out when you don't seem even close to moving forward yet.

In the first quote your response left me feeling like it bothers you that your window of stalking will now be harder if she sets things to private.
And another thing, chances are she doesn't give a shit that you know.

So that leaves you with your second quote/response which clearly is see-thru..

Your not even close and that's ok. The less you compulse over her the better. I don't feel sorry for you, but as a member I would steer you into the direction of moving forward. Because that's what you need, not sympathy..

Time is the cruelest healer of all, but most effective. ...

Reading this thread top to bottom 4 or 5 times a day isn't moving forward...

It would joy me to see you not post in this thread specifically anymore. I'm not here trying to be a jerk, just trying to help you move forward...


Cujo

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"Pain is the fuel that fans the flames of my pyre. A battle plan is only as good as the general carrying it out on the field. This is my war son, and I have the biggest bombs and the smallest conscience"...

1- The problem wasn't her. It was you and the way that you avoid conflict by caving in. Until you fix that, you can expect more of the same, in spades.

2- Analyzing what you did wrong a million times won't help. You need to redefine yourself and how you deal with women. A small tweak here and there will get you no where.

3- Get help in a cohesive and understandable manner. I recommend, "Becoming an Alpha Male" by John Alexander. He is still working on how to close the deal but it is a good read and he is on the right track.

4- Optimize yourself. If you are not your optimal self, fix it! Lose weight, get a decent wardrobe, get a new haircut. You are doing this for you, not for them. The sooner you feel great about yourself the sooner you will stop putting women on pedestals and seeking their approval. They should be seeking your approval.

5- Start meeting women and sorting through them. Don't even try to make them all like you: You are sorting, not seeking attention, validation or acceptance.

Do these things and you will have moved forward.

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"Your love gives me such a thrill
but your love don't pay my bills,
I NEED THE MONEY!" - John Lee Hooker

Disclaimer: The above is merely the opinion of the author unless specific scientific data is included.
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Ok let me see if I can get this out
For one thing besides the drama patriot has been threw (thought?)
I think he had to relocate(pain in the ass) why he moved? I think a job loss may have something to do with that?
So he lost his girl ,job and a house in a year .... I dare anyone on this board to go threw that and not come off a bit jaded
Maybe he should stay away??? Phuck no If I want pizza I go and get it.
Yes patriot got in very deep.... but no cars or houses????
Today I went very deep in trip reports, there some words of advice in there newbies and vets alike
Good old Astro glide had a ride with a girl named Cristal(sp)
Read it

Im sorry you fell for this women......I wish you the best in the future..........

I highly recommend that you start eating some "Wheaties" for breakfast. Start being a champion. I am joking around only to prove a point and not at all at your situation. This goes to all. There is much more to life than a woman, any woman. Humor (or attempts at it ), actual friendships, self-reliance (worth and respect), just to breathe a new day and then we step outside in that pile of sh!t we call life is the task at hand (also some paper in hand to wipe it off helps). If you still have feelings, it is only natural. But, never close your mind to your inner thoughts of right and wrong no matter how you feel. Beat it into your head like a Revolutionary drummer (aside: wouldn't it suck to show up to the war with 2 drumsticks and some cowskin when everybody else has a musket, and you think you have it bad). I think you will be fine, just going through the process.

If I were a psychologist, I would find it interesting that you answer in the color blue! If you answer, "team colors", red was another option.

Always by the drummers side with musket in hand,
Dean