Estebanh wrote:
Seriously, anyone who lives full time in SJO or MDE and is involved in the P4P scene should question themselves. It truly is shooting-fish-in-a-barrel, especially MDE. For the rest of us (especially the older guys), its a fantasy and a convenience.
Just to explain, and you should know this by now considering 1000+ posts on a monger forum, the reasons why men do this can be outlined in 8 neat categories :
1. Wish to have sex with women outside your age group : Most common reason and even you mentioned this one a little. You're 50 and you don't want to copulate with women who are 50 or even 40. You still want women in their 20's. Paying them is the easiest and simplest option.
2. Sexless or undersexed marriage : You may still be relatively young but you're in a sexless or undersexed marriage and you're staying together because the marriage works for you and/or your K*ds. This is the second most common reason. The definition of "sexless or undexed" varies according to your sexual appetite. Even if your wife is willing to do it with you once every week or 2 weeks if your sexual appetite demands sex 3 times a week that is still categorized as a "sexless or undersexed marriage".
3. Need for variety : Some men just can't be satisfied with having one, two, or even three women at the same time even if they could achieve that for free (most can't anyway). They need a different broad every day/week. If you want this level of variety in your sexual partners hookers is the only feasible option for you. This is likely the third most common reason.
4. Need to date up AKA Need to fulfill the fantasy of dating a whole different class of broad : Our fourth category is made up of men who may not be particularly attractive or interesting and need to date the 5'10 blonde they could never hope to attract socially. These are the guys who are the hooker's dream. They pay for 4 hour "dinner dates" all on golden time and finish real quickly when the time comes because they've been sort of having an orgasm all night by being out on a date with the gorgeous girl of everyone's dreams while everyone watched.
5. Need to feel intimacy : While mongering is not the right venue to seek intimacy there are many men in this world who are incapable or unwilling to make a relationship work or are in a loveless marriage they can't get out of without ruining their lives financially and socially. They may also remain with their spouse for the K*ds. It should be noted that a loveless marriage is different from a sexless marriage as defined in #2. These mongers seek intimacy in the arms of chicas sometimes even falling in love with them trying to forget/ignore they are paying these girls for their time. These mongers are the ones that are most likely to have a "favorite" and always try and visit the same chica as if they were in a relationship.
6. Excitement : The excitement of picking up a broad and having your way with her especially while your wife is out having lunch with her gal pals (but this is not a necessity) can't be underestimated. The "fear of getting caught" enhances the sexual pleasure for men. This particular reason is #1 or #2 on the list for "why men cheat" though it has to make an appearance in the mongering reasons list too. Whether it is your wife that'll catch you or someone else. Sex that feels wrong feels just right!
7. Sexual requests that your partner won't engage in : While this may come as a surprise to people who only know about mongering from episodes of Law & Order this is a pretty uncommon reason for mongering and yet women like to point to it as the only reason because it makes them seem like they are on higher moral ground. Our seventh category is made up by those gents who can't live without anal, want to use toys, want the ultimate deep throat BJ, want their ass licked and we can keep going on here. Miss Goody Two-Shoes simply can't handle all the requests some men come up with. For some stuff you just need a Del Rey hooker.
8. The "Lazy" Monger : Some men monger when they are between committed relationships and paying for sex is the easiest option available. This is the rarest breed amongst all 8 categories of mongers. Having said that, considering the amount of mongers in the world, they are still all over the place.*
*Credit for category : VinceThePrince
And there you have it. Those are the 8 reasons that cover 95% of the reasoning behind mongering. Most mongers fit neatly into any one or several of these categories. Anything else is lies spread by women who don't want men to monger because it takes away one of the most powerful tools they have to control men.
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