Not rebel....just tell the blunt truth with no trappings.
Chiild Rearing REQUIRES a 24 hours a day; 7 days a week; 52 weeks a year of committment. There is NO time off allowed to "discover and find one's self". NONE. NADA. ZERO. Commit to the infant or expect a defective product.
The "welfare population" BREEDS and from this breeding comes all manner of nonsense. Doing the right thing means SACRIFICE...and that SACRIFICE is more about TIME than MONEY; although MONEY ($$$$) has a lot to do with it if it's available.
Having worked in the industry of not for profit outfits who claim "...but it's for the chilldren....", I saw BULL ROAR. It's the bottom line of the not for profit which is really just a tax dodge for the well to do.......I was the gubment manager who refused to make deals or promises: RESULTS were what I was interested in.....I was a stranger in a strange land, too....trust me....
Dad's to be might want to be in parenting classes.....not bellying up to the bar and telling others about their exploits or the "....proper way to enjoy your experience with a woman....". Jesus Wept upon the Cross.....
PS: I don't have ANY chilldren.....I know I didn't and don't have the bread to support 'em; I'm too selfish with my time; I don't want any; I have a ton of nieces and nephews; and you don't have to jump off a bridge to know it's something you dont' want to do. What you ask is like asking a doctor who informs you how to deal with a disease: "Do you have what I have doctor?" "NO!" "How can you tell me what to do then?" "Fine by me if you don't do what I suggest....it's your life....but, trust me....if you don't do as I have prescribed, you're gonna not only regret it, but get way fuccked up in the mean time.....don't come back....".
Toodles my good friend....
Xpatriot wrote:
Steven1,
I am curious as to just how many K*ds you have? To be able to make this statement I have to assume that you are the voice of experience however, I am sincerely puzzle as to what kind of experience.
I am sure that you are enjoy the banter on this board. As I am equally sure that you have witnessed many things in life around you. I can tell you from experience both personal and witnessed that having a Ch*ld puts a strain on any relationship. Just getting through it is a challenge in itself. Once you get through it then there are the first couple of years.
During those two years you will witness everything through the eyes of you innocent Ch*ld and will be amazed as they learn new things while teaching you new things about yourself. However, nothing in life is free. Neither is the gift of a new Ch*ld. The do bring on responsibility and challenges which also challenge your ability to cope within your relationship(s).
The ideal of the 50's saw the woman at home while the man was out at the bowling alley with his buddies having beers and buying the rounds. This was despite the entry of woman into the workforce as a result of world war 2. In all cultures there seems to be a parody of these roles, even in our own culture today.
To suggest that we now live in a "Donna Reid" society where "New daddys just don't do that" is simply false. I am sure that you own experiences must tell you the same. The only difference I have seen is now that both mom and dad need a break. Sometimes alone with friends and sometime together.
From what I have seen in the past I am sure that you have an unpleasant response. However, I hope that your intellect will overcome an adolescent need to rebel. But, I am not couting on it.
Cheers!
-xp