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A question I would have for anyone that wishes they could have the extra bonus of traveling for pleasure is whether or not they really believe they could let her do the same. She would probably be doing it at home.

At least from our perspective there's some insulation from it interfering with a relationship back home because we wouldn't have to travel that often. But what if she were to say "ok, but while you're gone to I get to go out and see what kind of fun I can have?" I'm not too sure I could deal with that because it's less likely to be a sport or distraction, but something she has at home with people she's always in vicinity of.

I don't think I could lie and cover it up very well for long, even though I truly believe it is something I could go do for fun, then leave behind. I do applaud men that have a women who will let them go and who understands men that well and is secure enough in it. It's only good sex, sometimes even great sex and probably vain for either party of a relationship to believe they have to be the best in bed or remain eternally super-sexy to be respected and appreciated.

If the shoe were on the other foot and I was committed not even wanting to travel anymore I'm not sure how I would take it if she had a sit down with me and suggested we let each other have sport-sex with other people... I'd probably have to think about that one long and hard.

TicaFan:

As a lifelong backdoor man I can attest that "they" DO KNOW; "they" are real good at "...not letting on they know...."; and are having a jolly good time when YOU ARE GONE.

Most marriages are a joke and but a business relationship. And it's all good for this old boy.....you guys keep going and playing.....and us back door men will be doing just that.....walking in the unlocked back door to your house and having us a darn good time.....(sometimes we're even provided a key....no BS....)

Frankly, I find myself contemptuous of both sides of this equation....but that doesn't stop me from availing myself of available resources...whenever and sometimes whereever.....

Men are NOTHING special....neither are women....we are ALL wired the same way.....and my experience has been the bitch lies better than the boy. It's pretty darn funny seeing a grown man cry when he "catches" his wife with guys like me AFTER their return from "fishing trips" to San Jose. Funny just doesn't do the experience justice, either.

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- Aldous Huxley, Brave New World, Ch. 16

I submit that there is no equality between the sexes when it comes to the need for sex. For men, sex is an overriding need and will manifest itself in the constant search for sex without emotion. For women, sex without emotion is NOT the normal.

For the horndogs that purposely screw the married women because they can, I place them well below the gentlemen type but understand that their need for sex overcomes any sense of negativity they might feel by doing so. Thus the term, MILF (Mothers, I'd Like to Phuck), for those women that want the added sex. I understand the idea, even though I do not agree, that, if the husband can play, I just am going to help the woman play. The thrill of a MILF can be intoxicating.

Have a Great Day,

Dave

It's funny...I am a backdoor guy myself. The only differece is that when I leave, I make sure to watch my backdoor when I am gone

Now...back to the original Topic. Strategies to go to CR w/ the boys or alone...

1) Bachlor Party..(your buddy is getting married and invited you)
2)Get into some serious sports. etc...Mountain Climbing, scuba diving, bird watching, whatever is an attraction in the country you want to visit. I myself love the bundas in Brazil, so I promised myself I will get into juijitsu one day
3) As Jadcujo suggested...become an Entrepreneur. Learn of new ways to make money in CR. Tell her you have some business ideas you need to explore.
4) Take her on a trip to CR and make sure she has a terrible time, so she doesn't ever question you when you go.
5)Become an affiliate to charitable organization out there.

And remember what Eddie Murphy once said..."it was only sex, Honey!"..."I LOVE YOU!"

I beg to differ. Women are just as horny as men and many, many, many of the college coeds I encounter as well as their older counterparts just want the proverbial "raunchy fuuck". What is good for the goose, is also good for the gander.

I view myself more as a "home keeper-together" than as a "home wrecker". Why? Were that back door not being accessed I assure you a divorce for those married and a "break up" for the "boyfriend/girlfriend relationship would have been in place long before I ever discovered the back door. No lie. And, remember, I am really the one getting the shaft...because I can't call when I think or feel like it....I gotta know you're out of town and that information generally only comes when that phone rings from the party of the first part.....

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- Aldous Huxley, Brave New World, Ch. 16

You're contemptuous?

Dave said:

I agree with what you said. What you didn't say is that men like sex more or have a stronger sex drive than women, which I believe would be incorrect. Women need security to release their sexual selves. They find it in an emotional attachment. When they feel secure that they will not be judged for their wantonness they can be every bit the sexual animal that their male counterpart is.

Also, many women are able to detach their sexuality from their emotion. No, it is not the norm. These women can be an enigma to men because they are sexual creatures without emotional attachment but they revert once an emotional attachment is reached. In other words, they may not do the things with a man they love that they would do with someone they don't care about (or that they did with him before they cared about him). The emotional security must be established before they feel safe to let it out again.

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Individually and with your experience, you may be correct within those parameters. I submit, as a whole, that your assertions are not well supported. Consider the following male situations:

1) Bill Clinton, Craig from Minnesota, Spitzer of New York, and many other high powered men who just had to have sex in spite of the many potential problems that could and did arise.

2) Priest, clergy and other religious men who could not keep their urges from potentially devastating their lives on this earth and in the after life.

3) Sexual Predators who simply cannot control the urges and continue to abuse others after knowing of the problem and the backlash to them.

4) Rapist: Yes, studies indicate that rape is not a sex event as much as it is a power event, however, I submit that a rapist sex drive may be driven to rape because they like the rough sex part as many that do not resort to rape pay prostitutes to do.

5) The amount of porn purchased by the males around the world.

6) The millions of men that are on websites such as this to live the sex part of their character out.

7) Helen of Troy and the fact that many wars have been fought over women and sex.

The constant battle for men to show their sexual prowess

I just do not see the females doing the above items because of their horniness. I am speaking generally that the above items seem to indicate that males and what they MUST do in sex to be well beyond anything that the vast majority of females would consider.

Have a Great Day,

Dave

Dave, I have to counter a few of those. Rape and sexual predation are not rooted in the sex drive. They are generated from feelings of powerlessness.

Pornographic images work for men while women are much more likely to be aroused by prose. Men pleasure themselves while watching porn, women relive the images they read while fantasizing, often in the tub. Soap operas and "romance novels" are women's "porn". The media used for arousal is different but the effect is the same.

As for public figures and sex, I submit that women would be as likely to partake except for the fact that society is much more likely to accept a man's dalliances than a woman's. I believe that women are as sexual and more discreet.

As for sexual activity far beyond the point of stupidity, how about the string of female teachers who can't seem to keep their mitts off their teenage male students even after they have been jailed, disgraced, impregnated, etc!

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That one is pretty hard to explain. I wonder why grown women would seek gratification or approval literally from boys? Then again, I wonder why the idea of women doing it seems so surprising if unfortunately men do it. Funny that it seems more odd than criminal.

This just hit me
Tal vez there are some gringas sniffing around as do the chicas???
Loose lips sink ships

NH

Please excuse the delayed reply, Dave. I'll go point by point:

1. Pure arrogance and a sense of entitlement is what got those boys in trouble.

2. Same with the "clergy"...arrogance and along with unbriddled piousness. Mostly arrogance.

4. I concur with Pacifica55....rape is not a sexual act so much as it is an act of control or rather an expression of inepteness on the part of the rapist. (sorry...that is out of order...)

3. Sexual predators simply have poor impulse control and CHOOSE to not keep it in check. There are just as many women with this poor impulse control, but our society is set up to NOT allow boys to be "victims"...."Lucky K*D....he got his first piece of tail when he was 10 from his teacher no less....". WRONG>>>That K*D is as marred as the 10 year old girl who is molested by the teacher...male or female.

5. Women buy a different type of porn that may not be as explict but is every bit as "satisfying"....all those trashy "romance novels"; the "soap operas" on daytime tv; Jerry Springer and Maury Povich "television" shows, etc., etc., etc. Heck, even Redbook or Ladies Home Journal got them "sections" that address "problems". Let's not leave out Fabio or the Chippendales also...

6. Oodles of women are screwing cyberlike all day long. These days, marriages are terminated due to "on line" romances. Want some online poon? Play with dolls....I'm not jiving.....the Sims online is packed with a largely female client base.....it's a target rich environment and you CAN get laid if you just take some time.....and that's just one example of on line "play". My avatar states "I'm only here for the sex."

7. What about Aristophanes' play, Lysistrata?? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lysistrata ("You boys want to keep fussing? Fine. No poon until you stop."

You may very well be correct that I am in a totally different environment due to it being a large "University". I will say that PC'ism really mucks with my mojo....really. I mean really.....I can't even say cu*t (rhymes with punt) when I want! I do....but these silly women try to correct my language. What's funny is the reality I have NEVER ONCE been told it's a bad word during the act of coitus. These crazy women....

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- Aldous Huxley, Brave New World, Ch. 16

Pac55/Stevens1,

I probably agree to varying degrees with each and every point that you both make considering each separate item. I believe that the more that we discuss each and every point, we lose the overall picture. If we play it backwards to see what fits all, we find that it all surrounds men and their libido. If we play it backwards, we see that the vast majority of women do not endanger their futures in such consistent and outrageous manners as males do.

If we take as a given that a man has a gene or trait that makes it impossible to control his sexual urges, I believe that we can figure man out better than what have been able to do in the past. Much like what has happened in the gay/lesbian community. It has taken them years for the society as a whole to accept that the belief that being gay/lesbian is not a choice but is in the genes.

Perhaps, if we ever get enlightened enough to study this we may find out that men are no more able to change their mongering ways than a gay/lesbian can change their sexual orientation.

This is food for thought and I appreciate the views of all. I just find it difficult to believe that the answer is not that mongering is in our genes because of the consistent, historical extent to which the males screw their lives up due to sexual drive.

Have a Great Day,

Dave

That is the truth...as long as man walks this earth our sexual drive will always get us into trouble. So, it vital to have a back-up plan gentlemen. I think we should come up with some type of written disaster recovery plan. Maybe this call for a new topic.

Care to explain? Please share your plan.

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