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You are probably correct Berk; my luck will eventually run out. But until then, the ride has definitely been worth every minute. The women (and fellow mongers) of CRT have put a smile on my face that could only be erased if I am unable to make my trip next month. I have a love for Costa Rica that my wife (or coworkers) could never understand. I feel rejuvenated after every trip and I am able to cope with the riggers of a successful career, family, and other extraneous issues. Pura Vida!

Dapanz1, I did not know that airlines gave out itineraries. This made me curious, so I just got off the phone with Continental Airlines and they said that they do not give out itineraries unless the caller has the confirmation number or credit card information.

Nevertheless, for the sake of argument; let’s say that the airlines do give out that information. If Mrs. Mikey Styles does not trust me and goes to great lengths to “bust me” than she is probably going to be unhappy with the results. I always tell her that if she does things like go through my cell phone or wallet, she will not like what she is going to find. She needs to have trust that her husband of 13 years is on a business trip and that’s it. I try to provide enough documentation, gifts, and trip details to put her mind at ease, but women are so insecure that they are bound to snoop. When I do finally get busted, I will post all of the gory details right here in this thread. In the meantime, I will see everyone in San Jose next month! Cheers!

Mikey, that is some sweet advice. I would hate to be married and having a real affair but I don't think a roll in the hay is such a bad thing. There are million and millions, even billions of creatures and organisms having sex right now as I type. It's not that big a deal. Thanks for the advice.

Counte, those are some excellent questions. I don't really have any witty answers or cynical responses. I guess if she finds out, I will end up getting divorced like many of my fellow CRT members.

I enjoy being married and mongering; I get the best of both worlds. I was single once and did not like it. I have found that while married, I am still able to date, have affairs, and most importantly, travel to Costa Rica. Marriage provides stability for my wife and my Ch*ldren. Costa Rica provides pleasure and bliss. I am going to try to try to balance marriage and Costa Rica. If Mrs. Styles finds out and the marriage crumbles; I will have to "man up" and face the consequences. In the meantime, keep your fingers crossed!

Don't you wish we could all just acknowledge this as a fact of life..???? We'd all have a hell of a lot more fun. I am lucky enough that my wife tolerates (sometimes encourages) my hobby. If I were in your shoes, I'd opt for the risk as well and just be prepared to deal with the consequences.

If we'd all loosen up a little I think marriages would last a lot longer.

Good stuff there Crooked-

I'm not married myself (knock on wood) but I made a vow to myself that when I was old and telling stories on the porch, that they would be stories of the things I experienced and loved doing i.e mongering etc...
Not stories of I wish I had gone to, or done this or that..
If I had to sweat my activities because of my wife, that would eventually do so much harm that I would resented her. Don't miss out on good times just because...


Cujo

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Don't forget - if you get caught, it can prove very expensive - make sure you have a contingency plan beforehand

First, yeah, I think it is a fact of life. But I can really understand a perfectly good and normal spouse not being comfortable with it- "what if he falls in love and leaves me?" etc. Those are very valid thoughts. The "well if you bring something home and give it to me" is less so but understandable. I really don't believe it's their health they are so worried about but that's a strong defense. Understandably, most women don't see it as "just sex" and I can understand, though if married I would still want to have it.

Your type of situation is very interesting to me. I'm interested in, why a woman allows you to step out and enjoy yourself- why is she not uptight about it for all the traditional, somewhat understandable reasons? What makes her different than most women; what does she understand that most women do not; is she doing it to "buy" herself equal freedom; does she just see it as a way to keep you happy; why isn't she afraid you will leave her, etc?

Thanks.

I don't know Mikey. I hate to have to think this way but, eventually the truth will be known.

I've always felt that it is best to be truthful because the truth will always come to light. If you have been living a lie then the truth REALLY hurts when it is finally known.

I can't relate to what you poor married souls have to do to be able to hide your activities. I'm not married. If I was married, I don't think that I would be able to monger. I would live in fear of being discovered.

Also, this is the way that I feel about myself so don't take it as being disrespectful toward you or anyone else, I don't even know you, but I feel that it is kind of chicken $h!t to treat a family like that.

I'm sorry that I cannot join you in rejoicing your fantasy.

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Women are like beers. I've never had one that I didn't like. Just some that I like more than others! --Western

No problem Western! To each his own. I love my family and I love being in Costa Rica. I guess I am torn; I am trying to have my cake and eat it too. So far, so good.

I don't judge people. Everyone has to live their own life.

I have been divorced. I went through hell trying to maintain a relationship with my daughter. If I had a family and a marriage that I valued, the last thing I would be doing is running down to Costa Rica on mongering trips. The loss is not worth the adventure.

With all due respect, it is not just you that has to live with the consequences. Divorce is a terrible thing to put Ch*ldren through.

Like I said, I do not judge you brother. All I can say is just think about what it is going to do to your Ch*ldren if you phuck up. It is really not worth it.

Mikey I certainly can understand your situation. It can be the best of both worlds but make sure you do it right to conceal it all. The problems I see with most men doing this is they drink & are not real disciplined about it. What starts out as fun becomes an obsession for most.

It is easy to see why this happens as the new young chicas seem better every trip & the old one looks bitchier all the time. Then you just get where you don't care about her at all any more & only think of the fun you are missing down there.

If you are disciplined enough & cover all your bases it should be doable IMHO. For a man that truly loves his wife & sees the working chicas as catch, splat & release it may work. You have to give the wife your true love I feel & spend 95% of your time & effort on her with real enthusiasm. You better send her off with her friends on a cruise or something to keep her mind occupied & happy.

I don't think it means you don't love your wife anymore than always to do a little P4P action. One woman can never fill all a mans needs or rolls is my belief. This can strengthen the relationship I believe if done correctly. Never ever let her find out about any of this if she is a gringa your done. Latinas can deal with this much better but just don't get tangled up in the web you spin.

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Spunk glazed Chicas are the building blocks of the universe!

Speaking of thinking you have all the bases covered and STILL GETTING CAUGHT!! Several years ago while married to my last gringa wife, I would freguent the MPs in Nashville, Tenn. The city finally closed them several years ago Had her convinced I was going for legitimate massages.
Rang the door bell to go in the MP one Sat. afternoon and who opens the door but my wife's niece . We both agreed not to tell, BUT SHE DID oh well, solved my problem of how to get rid of the wife

Point: You never know WHO you may run into when you are where you are not suspose to be.

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Old and retired but still bang, and bang, and bang!!!

Well, I have to respectfully disagree about the airlines. I have been rolled over by AA and Delta. One time, I even did it to her. I called Copa and asked to confirm a reservation. I did not know the reservation number, only the approximate time of departure and date. They looked for the information that way. Found it and confirmed the reservation. Giving full detail on layover and final time of arrival. And, then were kind enough to give me the reservation number for future reference.

I am certainly not one to judge. Hell, I used to do the same things you are doing. It just got old and tiresome. It really started taking away from the fun of the trip. Constantly worrying about checking in, making sure all the i's were dotted and t's crossed. What really did me in was the 2 day delay where I had to stay in CR due to Hurricane Wilma. I had to really work something up for both the homelife and job. At that point, I wasn't foolin' anyone. Might not have known I was in CR but, had to know I wasn't on biz. Every relationship is different. None of us posting know the consequences you will face WHEN you get caught. Only you know that. Could be as lame as "you f*ckin' liar. I'm not talking to you for a week." To as severe as getting served in a week. Only you can judge that. But, again. Good luck.

dapanz1

definately food for thought.....it wears a little thin in CR of a few years (5) of being with differant woman, then going back to the wife and K*ds like nothing has happened......in my case, my wife is truly my best friend, but our sex life sucks, but as stated, if I'm thinking of the next hot tica I'm going to bang in a few months, i'm probably not giving 100%......definately i agree with what divorce does to k*ds, so that is out, sneaking around ( although I have business in CR, but why do you have to go for 10 days for a 1 day meeting????) lays some guilt, but I have it in my blood, and kind of like having my cake and eating it to......hopefully I won't get caught, but.....................