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I'm putting this in the newbies section, because the first time I got turned down by multiple girls, it nearly ended both my trips to C.R. and even my hobbying. It's sad when it happens, but it is something we can unpack, right here and now.
There's a new anagram or buzzword I've recently heard, and often. INCEL" Involuntarily celibate. The incels are typically guys who, despite the public image they have as losers could in fact get laid/married/connected, were it not for current feminism and media nonsense.
Imagine what it would be like to be an incel....in the midst of Gringo Gulch. Yes, it does happen. It's a fact that working girls, even ones who are hungry still have the right to refuse, and many do. Here are a few circumstances I've seen, where men hopeful to get laid, can't and won't.
* Bad personal hygiene. The girls I've asked about this all have horror stories about guys with bad body odor, rotting teeth, a "greasy" or dirty appearance. For most guys, this is basic junior high hygiene class stuff. Bathe. Shave. Brush your teeth. Dress in clean clothes. It's ridiculous that I even have to mention this.
Of course, there are illnesses and even a specific health condition that can cause horrible body odor. For these sad cases, not even the most industrial strength deodorant works. If that is the case, sadly you might be incel, even in the ambiente.
* Physical deformities and disabilities. As a blind guy, I have been refused on a couple occasions. It's heartbreaking and ego shattering when it happens, but as my good friend Mucho Gusto here on CRT observes, "You always have an option. Next."
* Recent surgeries or medical procedures. I know of one sad case where a guy came down to get some cosmetic surgery done on his face. Partly swabbed in bandages with a drain port on the side of his neck, very few girls would go with him. Sorry, but if your rehab plan after cosmetic surgery in C.R. includes spending time with chicas, you may be disappointed.
* Bad attitude, excessive machista bullshit, etc.
Yes, the Latina culture is far mor man-centric than here in the U.S., but the world is changing, and often guys who step beyond the threshold of "friendly but firm" into the "You'll do anything I say, bitch because I'm paying" zone will often find themselves without company. In small concentrated venues like the SL, where like Cheers "everybody knows your name," a bad attitude, being abusive, being insulting can preclude you from finding company in that venue. Remember, the girls are human beings, they are independent and (hopefully) without a "pimp" in the classic U.S. sense; they can and do say no. Same thing goes if you have a reputation for being volatile while under the influence of booze or dr*gs.
* The "ready to fall in love" monger. 80% of the girls, in hopes of working the gringo for a lot of money, will play "let's pretend" with the heart of the naive man. The other 20% don't want the drama and will shut down the dew-eyed, lovesick gringo faster than one can say, "cara de picha."
* Broke guys. Look, this should be self-evident, but I am amazed at the number of guys I have met who show up with virtually no money, thinking that they have enough game to score with the hookers without paying. Sorry man, you're deluded. You might be good looking, sexually and socially skilled, speak great Spanish...you might even be young enough for the girl to become enamored with you...but you're still a tourist, you're still in a place where sex is currency and vice-versa. Try your game at a local bar...don't waste it in C.R. You'll more often than not end up alone.
* Too damn old. Sorry guys, but if you're over 75 and look it, good luck. Even a nice wad of money might not prevent you from missing the cut with some girls.
Many of the above situations have fairly easy remedies, but some do not. I don't imagine I will suddenly wake up with 20/20 vision, and ugly men will stay ugly, even with corrective surgery. Other things, like cash, attitude, hygiene and treatment of the girls are absolutely in your power to change.
If you get turned down by even 1/4 of the girls, it might be time to do an honest and brutal self-appraisal. Or you might end up... incel. Even in the Belly of the Beast...
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Pura Vulva! Wandering through the dark, I am El Ciego.
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