Devo, I think you have hit on something relevant. Just as there are hardcore chicas who are hoes, there are hardcore mongers, BUT, not all hoes are hardcore and not all mongers are hardcore. It seems simple and simplistic, but it's confusing to some CRT members.
Some guys like to be romantic and some guys do not. It matters little whether he is with a ho or a church girl. It's just the way he is......likewise the hardcore hoes typically act the same whether the monger is romantic or not.
The hardcore mongers think being romantic with a ho is just being stupid and the romantic guys are frequently taken advantage of by the hardcore hoes. If you are a romantic, this is why it's so important for being cautious in your selection of the chica based upon her attitude. Leave the hardcore hoes for the hardcore mongers. If it's any comfort to the romantic, just know the hardcore mongers are rarely interested in the same hoes that are of interest to you.

I tend to be the more romantic type than the hardcore type, this makes the initial meeting / interview process even more important and critical to a pleasant experience. Getting a good vibe does not always guarantee a positive outcome but it sure increases the odds in your favor.