Steven1, thank you for such a candid response. I sincerely mean that.
Steven1 wrote:
I am. 40+ years in Chilld Welfare programming for various states, the Feds, and a couple of British Crown colonies.
OK so then you have no professional or personal parenting qualifications or experience. However, I do now understand what **seems** to be a disapproval for anything other than the traditional relationship with regards to Ch*ldren. It sounds like you have seen a lot in your 40 years on the job. It also sounds like you see more of the darker side as well. Is this true? Just curious. Do you think it is possible that your job has jaded your perception? I am just throwing that out there.
Steven1 wrote:
The chief out from the errant parent was always "Do you have chiildren"? When the honest answer was supplied, the knife to stab with was also given. "What do you know then? Get the fucck out of my house....".
I have no idea about the circumstances surrounding such a comment. I will not even begin to imagine what such a situation could be like. However, if a person is asking the question and the answer is unknown to them then perhaps there is more to the question. What I am trying to say is perhaps unless you have walked in their shoes then you are not a person that can understand their mistakes or even help. Maybe that is why there is such a negative response?
Steven1 wrote:
Ok by me....trust me....I have never lost a night of sleep over some little kidd because of rotten parents or parenting....there are just too many of them.
You might not be loosing any sleep. Perhaps you are just another government employee who is not passionate about his job and just takes the paycheck from the taxpayer and goes on their way. However, it does sound like that to me from at least the posts you have made lately, it seems that you are extremely passionate about these issues. You might not be loosing sleep but, my uneducated eye sees you releasing your disapproval in your writing and very personal attacks.
Steven1 wrote:
It's a policy issue that has to be addressed. Hell...the USA and the states license people to drive cars and fish....but anyone who can screw can have a kiid....go figure....why fight City Hall, huh?

Agreed. However, I would not like to live in a country who decides who will breed and who will not. Therefore, what is the alternative?
It kind of reminds me of Germany. By the age of 12 (or thereabouts) they decide for life if you are university material or not. There are exceptions and ways around it as with anything but, that is the norm. When I was living there I just could not get by this idea and the fact that most Germans I talked with did not agree but just accepted it as the way it is.
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