www.CostaRicaTicas.com

First of all, I am a very loyal CRT member. This quoted portion is from a website in Houston that I am a Site Admin. One of my sections is the Central American section. I have also helped out many others on aspd.net and have always steered them over here.

I started off with Redsnake.com and came over here when I found out about this site and after I had my belly full of the Morazan shilling on costaricasex.com. I am a VIP member, even though I waited awhile for the membership, due to the fact I did not know when I would be in CR again to pick up the card. I have been to CR five times since 2000. I consider Ace a close friend, and have met a small amount of others.

Lately I made a post that was a cry for help.

https://costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=9905

I rarely lie when posting, but I did in this one. This thread is about what happened to me last January. I guess I was to embarrassed to tell the truth, but I am not the first nor last to have a condom bust. Yes, I was with a chica, and yes the condom broke. This thread was not about a buddy, it was about me. She is not a regular at the Del Ray. Outside of one member, I had never read nor head from her. If she were with or without Ch*ld, I would have never known. I know chances are very slim, but we will get to that later.

Yes, I use the search function. I am computer literate. Using the word pregnant I came up with two threads that scared me.

https://costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewto ... t=pregnant
https://costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewto ... t=pregnant

If you guys have a condom break and have read these threads, it will scare the living daylights out of you.

After reading these, many scenarios came to mind. I could just imagine having to give up my passport to someone until DNA was tested, or imagine that I was home free when entering CR, but was unable to leave, or was delayed until DNA was tested and things were sorted out. Then having to tell my family that I was delayed in CR.

Going back to the start of this thread, this is the only place to go for CR information. What do I do, go to clubhombre? That would be cool for Tijuana info, but this is the site. Go to costaricasex, don't want to read anything they have to offer. No, I figured my brothers here would know and would be willing to share information.

Several of you live in CR and could have helped. Many of you have buddies that go often, many of you have been there often. Many of you could have helped. This site is about sharing information, and if we don't share information, then the only section of this site should be the roll call section. Here I was, concerned about what the laws were, concerned about what could happen at immigration, concerned about whether the chica could get a lawyer and have records subpeonaed, whether the chica could go through the guest book at the Presidente and get my personal information (say she had a N*no in September, so she needed to find out who she had seen in December-February). When somebody is scared they can imagine many scenarios.

The answers on my thread..........well I felt my thread was crapped on by catty and sophomoric answers. Stuff about using hot sauce and two condoms.

I would like to thank Dapanz1 who was very helpful to me, even sending pm's back and forth.

I would like to suggest that the members think about what they are posting and realize that some threads are meant to be humurous and some postings are just regular postings, but also realize that some postings, especially concerning things such as disease, pregnancy, the laws of CR are very important, maybe even critical, to thread starters.

Now I guess that the chances of getting the chica pregnant with a busted condom are about 1 in 2000. Pretty big odds against the chica having a little Dear Juan. However most of you guys are totally adamant about using condoms to guard against many things, but mostly about guarding about HIV. The chances of getting (according to CDC) HIV from an insertive sexual encounter are also 1 in 2000.

There is always that small chance!

John,
OK, what do you want us to do?

First of all most of the guys who are members of CRT do NOT live in CR.
Most of them have NOT gotten a girl pregnant in Costa Rica.
Most of them are NOT lawyers and even if they are they probably don't practice in Costa Rica.

Therefore the amount of GOOD legal advice from this site is going to be minimum.

That being said, anything you post on the internet is going to be open for humor and ridicule. You yourself said it was a "friend".
You misrepresented the facts but you expect others to take it seriously?
Unless I missed it I don't even remember you saying she is actually pregnant.

This whole story is based on what MIGHT have happened.

I'm sorry I can't be of more help but I've never gotten a girl pregnant (thank whatever higher being controls that). If I did, especially in Costa Rica and I had no intentions of marrying her, I would probably make sure I didn't go there ever again.

But that's just me.
Good luck, however it works out for you.
Wit

INPUT

Sometimes we are blinded by one side of any one story and are unable to think about the other side. So sometimes more ideas are better than none. Whether the responses have much credibility or not, at least having the guys try to help out is more important than silly and childish responses like using two condoms and putting them on before getting off the plane. Yea, wit, thanks for your help.



Yea monday morning qb, now, a few days later, I mentioned it was me, not a friend. So whether I misrepresented the facts or not was not known till this thread was started. It had no bearing on the original thread. Try again, this dog won't hunt.

Dear John,

You got a Xanax in the house calm down, you are worrying too much??

Wilting makes some good points but I understand your concern. You are obviously a very caring soul but relax I think you are worrying about this way too much. Don't make a problem for yourself that most likely doesn't even exist??? Why I think you don't have anything to worry about is you know how many guys this chica has been with before, during & after you & many of the locals she has been with probably don't use condoms at all. I bet she wouldn't have any idea it was you so she probably would make no effort this way anyway. I know several that were so called not big time workers & they ended up pregnant & they seemed quit happy about it (go figure but true). One thought it was a friend of mine but she said don't tell him. The little girl is so cute with big blue eyes etc. I don't think she knows who is the dad but she said my buddy never used a condom with her. YIKES!!

Most of these Chicas are so lazy if it takes much effort like in your case they are not going to bother from what I have seen. What is your big worry here that she is Sherlock Holmes?? If she went to all the trouble to run down your name at the Presidente you would have heard about it by now. I don't think the Presidente would likely give up info on clients easy anyway plus their record keeping has somethings to be desired. When I was there last the computer crashed & they couldn't even print a receipt so who knows.

Are you worried that she will have your little one & it will not be properly cared for? If so track her down & do a DNA test but worrying is not going to help you is what I see. Just let it die the odds are next to none unless there is more to this story than what has been told?

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Thanks Zippy, this is the type of posting I was wanting to see!

More input and thoughts.

Dear_John,
Im all sincerity, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I hate to hear about this type of thing happening to anybody. Hopefully it will all work out for you. Something like this could happen to any one of us, so we shouldn't joke about it. Good luck to you.
Mikey-B

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You ALWAYS have an option ....... "NEXT" !!!

I agree with this statement. I have posted before that even the most serious topics get sent down the "humor highway." Once it is beaten up and ridiculed it usually dies because the dialogue is so far from the original post. Reminds me of playing "telephone" in grade school. The teacher whispers in the first childs ear, then that Ch*ld whispers in the next ear and when it has made it's way around the classroom the dialogue is a mere shadow of the original conversation.

I would love to post alot of my stories but I know about three responses into the thread it would get ridiculous so why bother. I think alot of guys on here might suffer from arrested development. Including me. Whenever, you feel pain beat it with humor. Whenever you are angry you are really fearful. Keep this in mind CRT'ers. Think about it and you'll know I am right.

I appreciate posts of the serious nature. Many other websites for humor. Speaking of serious posts..where is Prolijo?

Anyway, bro, if I can help you anymore let me know. I have many, many, many resources.

dapanz1

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DJ, My first trip down I was with a non-working girl. I in playing put it there. She smiled and said it's your problem not mine. [ women ] I did the catholic thing. pulling out. I to was worried. Saw Her freind about 4 months latter and nothing said. Was down a few days ago and saw another freind. Nothing said. The bullet has passed. I to went and got a vasectomey. 2-1-06 I am to do the cup thing for proof it worked.

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At a point in my life I wanted K*ds. I have two living daughters and a son with Jesus. I am 50 and that part of my life has passed.

I agree with everything the other guys have said. And I can tell you from experince that humour is a way to deal with alot of situations. I persoanly have been siiting in the holding tank behind the bench and have cracked jokes. like the judge gave me 20 years and I told him I couldn't do 20. And I said to the guy next to me. Do you know what that SOB said. And of course he asked, What? Well He said, Just do as much as you can Son, As much as you can.

DJ thats a true storey. Some people would say whats so damm funny.

I am not going to comment on the merits of Dear_John's complaint on how his previous post was responded to. What I do want to comment about is.

Witling wrote:



That statement is right on the mark. I have seen posts here asking for medical advice, legal advice, real estate advice, etc. I have had to shake my head at some of the "advice" that was posted. The result of anyone following some of that advice could be catastrophic.

If you want to post about CR, chicas, having fun, where to eat, where to stay and other light subjects this is the place for you.

Want professional advice? Hire a professional.

Just my dos colones

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Only Irish coffee provides in a single glass all four
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alcohol, caffeine, sugar and fat.
Alex Levine

Dear John,

Your original post sounded much more like a hypothetical "what if" scenario and I think that's the reason it wasn't viewed as a plea for help.

Very few of us want to have Ch*ldren with a provider. However, "you pay your money and take your chances." If you end up being a father then you have responsibilites to act like one. I can't imagine fathering a Ch*ld and not providing financial support and at least trying to be involved.

A lawyer friend of mine fathered a Ch*ld with his secretary about 25 years ago. He weasled out of his responsibilities and has been tormented by it ever since. He was not involved with his son and did absolutley nothing to help him. He has paid a huge price in self esteem. He could have saved himself a lot of grief by "doing the right thing" in the first place.

This certainly is a new context for "YMMV" but depending on your personal ethics you may want to proactively find out:

1 If she is pregnant. (long shot by the way)

2 What it will cost you if she is.

3 What price you will pay in self esteem if she is and you don't step to the window.

You may end up loving your Ch*ld and deriving great satisfaction from making a positive differance in your Ch*ld's life.

FWIW,

Rocco

DJ....you misrepresented yourself and had a lot of what ifs in there. You opened yourself up for the humorous responses.

I suggest you take that xanax, relax and seek real legal advice if you are so worried about this.

If you have not heard from this chica, then A) she is probably not pregnant, B) she does not know who the daddy is!

So, I wish you the best of luck in finding peace of mind. There are also many other countries to visit if it really bothers you!

Pura Vida!

Colombia baby colombia!

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"Last time I said no......I misunderstood the question!"

No offense to anyone on the board, but I agree with what Ding Dong is saying 100%. Lots of other places for heavy issues.

Dear_John,
I have my own problems. I try to face them with a touch of humor. It helps keep me from going insane. I'm sorry you don't have that ability.

I've been using the joke about wearing two condoms for years. I didn't just make it up for your benefit.

Many of us here have had heartbreak in our lives and it's turned us cynical but it also makes us stronger in the end. If you changed your story in subsequent posts the chances of the same guys reading it would be slim.

I'm glad you found solice in Zippy's post. I read it three times and all I got out of it was some hand patting and kind words. If that's what you wanted I'm sorry I couldn't help. I reserve those services for females.

I'm also glad to see that some guys understood what I was trying to say. If you look at the positive elements of my post, instead of just the ones you selected, you'll see that I was trying to say the same thing Ding Dong pointed out:
CRT is NOT the place to depend on for serious information.

You can ask but that doesn't mean you're going to get what you want.
Yes, you might get something to follow up on but that's seldom going to be the complete answers to your questions or solve your problems.

If you indeed find out you've gotten a girl pregnant then my heartfelt symptathies go out to HER and you. I hope your situation works out for you and someone here can help but don't come on here complaining because you didn't get what you were seeking.

John,
I've helped untold number of guys (and girls) over the years with information. If I offended you I sincerely apologize. That would NEVER be my intention.

Unfortunately life and the internet doesn't always work out the way we want.

Best of luck to you.
Wit

I just want to add this statement to clarify in the event anyone may have misconstrued my intention. I gave some advice to DJ through PM. I am not, nor ever will be an attorney. However, I have had a similar scare. I did my due diligence to investigate possible ramifications. I passed this on to DJ. I got not only 1 but 2 opinions. Amazingly, both abogados told me the same thing. Virtually word for word. In CR, that in itself is virtually miraculous.

I happen to agree with DJ on one thing. If this board was created to pass on information about ALL things CR, then that's what it should be. If not, then roll calls and activities outside the gulch would really be all that is needed. If that were the case I would have absolutely no need to be a member. I don't post on either thread and usually don't even look in roll calls unless I know I'm going to be down. Just as curiosity to see who will be in same time as me.

Ever notice the threads that get the most play? Draw the most interest? Easy to see how the so called "cliques" form.

dapanz1

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Perhaps a new section for "serious topics"

Xman