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Author:  VegasBob [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 1:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Code of ethics amongst mongerers
There was an incident amongst a couple of CRT members last night at the DR, that without using names, needs some discussion here. I have never seen a discussion like this before. Just what type of behavior is to be expected when a chica is involved? If one guy is sitting with a chica that he is known to see on a somewhat regular basis,and he tells her that he can't see her tonight,does she immediately become fair game for another member that overhears the conversation? Is it proper to walk her out the door in front of the other member?We know that the chica is there to work and is available,but is this different? Is a disrespectful thing to do? How about when a member is talking to a chica and going through a decision making period and another member buts in and starts telling her how wonderful HE is. Is is proper behavior to do this whether or not he is a "Brother" of CRT? How about if you see a guy who you don't know talking to a chica at the bar that looks good to you.Is is OK to plant yourself down next to her and either start talking or eye-phucking her?
Author:  Grey Ghost [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 1:31 pm ]
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VB....I have always lived by a no cock-blocking code of ethics. But, if the chicas are released back into the work pool, then I cast my line. But, not in front of the fellow monger or CRT brethren. (unless he is an asshole!)

If he is a close amigo, then I avoid this chica all together!
Author:  Californicationdude [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 1:57 pm ]
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During my first trip last Labor Day, I went into the New York Bar and saw a favorita sitting at one end of the bar in conversation with some other guy.

I sat down at the other end and ordered a drink and paid no attention to her until a moment later she noticed me and approached with a friendly greeting and asked if I wanted her company.

I replied that I did not want to interrupt any conversation/plans she may have been having with the other guy; but she assured me that she was free and was interested in sharing sometime with me.

Personally, I don't like interrupting conversations other guys are having with chicas and do not like other guys interrupting conversations I'm having with other chicas.

Nevertheless, in the mongering activity, I feel there is always potential for real or imagined boorish behavior.

That same New York bar favorita, while we were seated at a booth and enjoying something to eat, was later approached by another little darling with a message from some other guy....I found that offensive.

She did go over and chat with the other guy ( I suppose he was a prior tryst) before returning to the booth and informing me that she was 'all mine' for the evening...."all mine"...hahahaha...till I ran out of dinero
Author:  Travelman [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 2:01 pm ]
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I have deep feelings on this subject. But, I think it is each mongers choice. I will make decisions on the mongers charactor based on what he does.

I personally try not to go with a chica that guys I have come to know are interested in. I would never walk up to a girl when another guy is chatting with her. I have established my own personal code of honor that only I have to abide by. Just last weekend while in SJO I was with a girl at the bar she was with me and the guy she was with previously came up pulled her aside and started to chat with her. I do not know if the guy had something prearranged and she was blowing him off or if after seeing her he wanted her to go with him. I suddenly felt that she was in an uncomfortable situation and I immediately cut her loose. Personally if I was the guy I would have stayed away and let the girl make the decision either way. I do not come to SJO to become jealous over a girl or be macho with a guy.

There is no point trying to inflict a code of ethics on this board. Live by your personal code and decide who you wish to be friends with based on there actions. There is no reason to get upset with anybody over there decisions. Just pick the girls you want as regulars on their actions and pick you friends based on their actions. I do not see us changing anyones morality here. LOL
Author:  Hand-Solo [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 2:03 pm ]
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Interesting topic.

Personally I feel that the ethics referred to here for the most part spill over to non mongering life.

I had a friend from Canada here last week. He was appreciative of the info we all shared, but at the same time did not have any interest in tagging a gal I knew in the biblical sense (MPs the exception). His reasoning is that there are enough fish in the sea. Now he did take LHs Hazel, but LH wasnt here and he doesnt know him.

So my spin on things:

1) If you are buds with someone and the other gal is a favorite dont take her
2) If you need to take her, and he is a friend, ask first. He likely would say when he is not there go for it ... just dont share the details (ie my experience with a fellow Texan and Handy #1 ... no prob, just dont share the gory details with me)
3) If the guy isnt a pal, rather an aquaintance - my take is simply ask if he is taking her. If not, then you could ask if it is ok. This depends how well you know the guy.
4) Regardless if you ask "permission" be discreet if the guy is there. After all we all are here for a fantasy, and that fantasy does not include some other dude taking her and coming back all sweaty.

I say this carries over, as from what I have seen from CRT and other pals here are that guys that would swoop up a favorite right in front of you likely would do the same stateside in a bar. Heck they may even tag your wife / GF if able to

The exception would be the swinger duo situation like GR and Ruffy ... I think it was a pre-req for them to swap ;)
Author:  CapoD2TCapo [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 2:08 pm ]
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I don't think a code of ethics is really necessary, but a good topic and lots to discuss though.

If a women is release back into the work pool (I LIKE That line) it would appear Monger X is also going hunting as well. Can he have his cake and Eat it too? Good question.... since she is going back to work, would it make a difference if her next guy is some drunk gringo or some CRT brother... Wow so much to ponder...

I live by the dont snake my wingman code of ethics.

1. If a chica is known to be a regular of a wingman or close friend AVOID ALLTOGETHER, to much can happen to spoil the friendship.

2. If A Chica is known to be a regular of a CRT brother who I know occasionaly or not a all, I would actually politely ask what he thought about me being with the chica.

3. If A Chica is talking to a wingman, fellow brother or anyone, I politely wait my turn before jumping in on a conversaton and never to snake the guy out of his potential catch.

Do onto to others as they say well It may be simple but it works for me.
Author:  Zippy [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 2:51 pm ]
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Travelman,

I think you summed this up best & very well said! 8) Guys after all we are not in a church session here it is a house of ill repute & boys will be boys & drunks will be assholes while prostitutes will be p-ladies & laugh at our little heads all the way to the bank! :shock:

Use common sense here. Everyone is different what pisses them off & by now we should be smart enough to read the people around us I would hope? I don't like to go with some girl in front of a guy when I know he is hung-up on her but if he is a true friend & I think this might help him realize what a true puta she is I might to try & help him snap out of it before he starts sending money! :idea: I have seen guys get in fights over p-ladies & I can not believe men are this stupid. Maybe if it was your wife of girl friend I could understand this but p-ladies get real!! :evil:

You would have to be a true loser in every sense to get in hostilities over these working women I believe especially when so many are all over the place. And what is funny the one we think we want may not turn out to be what we thought we wanted at all so why break a sweat? It is easy for me in this area I let the Chica know I would like to spend time with her now she decides who she wants to leave with because I will have a better sessions if she is happy with her decision. If some other guy steps into the circle which is very rare she has to make up her mind pretty quick or I will pull the old Mikey-B NEXT!! There is one thing I don't like about some men is when they are playing sneaky Pete behind your back or they want the one you are entertaining just because she is with you but hey I really don't care that much after all we are out to have fun & these are p-ladies! :wink:

By the way p-ladies are either putaladies or paidladies how ever you want to look at it, it cumes out the same in the end.
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I suddenly felt that she was in an uncomfortable situation and I immediately cut her loose.
Very wise on your part Travelman & I do the same here. I have never found anything good in trying to force anything in the land of milk & so many honies! :P
Author:  Mucho Gusto [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 3:15 pm ]
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Grey Ghost wrote:
....I have always lived by a no C*ck-blocking code of ethics. But, if the chicas are released back into the work pool, then I cast my line. But, not in front of the fellow monger or CRT brethren. (unless he is an asshole!) If he is a close amigo, then I avoid this chica all together!

VB, Interesting thread!

I concur with GG on this one. The one thing we can always count on is that:

A) ...there's always going to be other chica's available.
B) ...there's always going to be at least one drunk as*hole in the bar.
C) ...there's always going to be other chica's available.

and.....

D) ...there's always going to be other chica's available.

I try to put myself in the other guys' position. I wouldn't want anyone throwing a cock-block on me, and I wouldn't do it to someone else, CRT brother or not. There's no reason to get into a dispute with ANYONE over a P4P girl.

IMHO, as far as ethics go...... ph*ck the ethics! Just use common sense....
Author:  Witling [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 3:18 pm ]
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There are a number of dynamics at work here:

1. If one guy is sitting with a chica that he is known to see on a somewhat regular basis, and he tells her that he can't see her tonight, does she immediately become fair game for another member that overhears the conversation?

If guy #1 is a friend, I think guy #2 should at least ask him how he would feel if he (guy #2) spent time with the girl.
If they aren't good friends that as was mentioned above, she's just working but there is no reason to make a big deal out of it in front of guy #1.

2. How about when a member is talking to a chica and going through a decision making period and another member buts in and starts telling her how wonderful HE is.
If a guy is in conversation with a girl you should stay out of it until it's obvious there are no negotiations going on. If he has bought her a drink there is an "implied" contract until one of them breaks it.

I think this holds true regardless if the other guy is a CRT member or not.

One other item to keep in mind:
If you get "involved" with a working girl you will have to deal with what she does for a living. If you can't deal with it, you need to NOT get emotioinally involved with her. It's not always an easy thing to accept but that is the reality of it all.
Author:  Zippy [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 4:45 pm ]
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another member buts in and starts telling her how wonderful HE is.
This made me really laugh. :lol: Imagine having to do this really pathetic isn't it. All you need is a smile with $50 or more hanging out of your pocket you don't have to make a hard sell at all after all this is CR & these are p-ladies? :wink: Some guys never learn what the score is & carry far to much gringo baggage ideas with them. Oh well maybe it is just me & my phucked up ways? :o
Author:  El Ciego [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 6:43 pm ]
Post subject:  I've done it
Reading this made me kind of queasy, because I remember being the offender once during my last visit to C.R.

We were at Pantera Rosa as part of Nucknfuts' "Drunken Bastards Tour,," the Friday night prior to the Anniversary Party.

I started out by translating between another CRT brother and a little Honduran spinner whose name I forget. Without realizing fully what I was doing, I simply stopped translating and started conversing with her. Soon she was drinking a trago i bought for her, nuzzling and dry-humping...and the CRT bro' was left in the dust.

I've felt badly about it ever since. :oops: Granted, it was alcohol-fueled and unintentional, but i should have been more of a gentleman.

I agree with both Travelman and Zippy on this one. Scooping on another guy's (potential/temporary) chica is lousy, whether she's a p-lady or a non-pro. I also resent it when someone takes a consumer item from my hand and/or steps into the checkout line ahead of me, butts into a line for a bus or theater entry, or aces me out of the last seat at the bar.

No "Code of Ethics" is needed to cover this... how about using the gentlemanly manners that your Mama (hopefully) taught you?
:idea:
Author:  Hazel [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 6:44 pm ]
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Maybe I’m confused, since when do we have to ask permission for a guy CRT or not if we can partake in our own fun. What if he says no. Then you miss your opportunity and may not get another.

If I’m sitting with him at that moment and he talks to her right in front of me then I just see if he is making a move if not the most I can understand asking is for him to introduce us. But if I motion her over before its established thats his favorita then it should be fare game.

If I’m not sitting with him and he lets her loose and I’m feeling her I will just approach and make the deal. If she doesn't leave with me she will with somebody else.

As far as flaunting it, does seeing us walk out together count as flaunting. Or if he brings her up in a conversation and you say "Oh yea she's a great girl" Is this flaunting.

There is no ownership on these girls, they are just working. I am there to fulfill my fantasies too. It seems a little selfish.

What if I take someone favorita and don't realize it, I shouldn’t have to worry about receiving any static from another guy.

To be honest I feel like if you don’t want other guys to be with her give her enough money so that she doesn’t work at the DR. I care about some of these girls too and I have my favorites but I figure she here working and if shes leaving with another guy good for her.

Maybe I’m wrong or misunderstood the post, its only my opinion.

As far as butting into a conversation thats a straight C@ckk block. NO NO. And if a guys in the decision making process I completely respect that and will stay away.
Author:  Travelman [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 8:09 pm ]
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Zippy,

We are on the same page. From what I read most of us seem to be. It is just your own personal ethics and we should choose our woman and our friends based on it.

Oh and I know anyone going to CR like myself has mastered the art of situational ethics. The ethics that all the world lives by whether they admit it or not.
Author:  Solamente [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 8:18 pm ]
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if any 2 guys are both wanting the same girl,
isn't the outcome going to be what SHE wants, in the end?
Author:  WillySP [ Wed Dec 14, 2005 8:56 pm ]
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Interesting topic VB.

I think if you are sitting with your friend and he can't be with the girl then you should at least ask if you find it necessary to go with that girl. To the point of others there are so many others to choose from.

If my friend would rather I not go with a certain girl I don't have a problem with that. Again there are plenty to choose from. I always manage to keep myself entertained without getting hung up on one girl.

I would never knowingly interrupt another monger while they were making a decision. I have had this happen to me and it isn’t a pleasant experience.

As long as VB keeps introducing me to those who have dropped from his rotation I am happy!
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