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Men do the “picking†but women do the “choosingâ€. Women have “veto†power in the game of sex and love, and that’s just the way it is. In this hobby we can bypass that evolutionary reality, and to that end, it’s often said money is the great “equalizerâ€. But in the real world of getting women interested in you, you’ve really got to have knowledge and be willing to work at it, often doing the opposite of what seems natural.
For instance, it’s tempting (and feels natural) to call a woman the same day you get her phone number, or perhaps the day after. In reality, it’s a mistake. Instead you should let several days go by, maybe a week. Why? Because women like a challenge, and even if they say differently, they respond to challenge. That assumes she has a level of interest going in, of course, because without that, no amount of challenge will work. Raising a woman’s level of interest in you is doable, but only if she starts out with a certain amount to begin with.
Another thing a woman will respond to is confidence. Taking risks, being decisive, showing independence – women eat that shit up. I told a girl a week ago when her boyfriend’s circling in the sink, to be sure to call me for some quality back-up. I could see she liked that. Of course, it helps if she gives you some signals - as she did me – that she’s only lukewarm with him to begin with.
The reason bad boys phuck a lot of women is precisely because they’re a challenge and have confidence. Pamela Andersen could have any man, yet she continues to hit it off with that punk, Tommy. Bad boys don’t call when they say they will, can be rude, think about themselves; in short, they have an independent streak, and the chicks all have their tongues out.
Age and looks are way overrated as either helpful or harmful in the dating battle. Young pretty boys can bore women to tears if they act desperate, profess their love on one knee on the second date, call or write incessantly, etc. On the other hand, I’ve seen some amazing women over the years on Miami Beach with some pretty hideous dudes. Something else gets these women’s interest level up, that causes them to see these guys as challenges. Money doesn’t hurt, but more because it gives a man confidence, than because of its buying power.
Another thing I’ve noticed women lap up is a guy being seen with other women. A woman’s interest in you is sure to climb if she sees you with another woman, or even knows you’re dating other women. Just to know you’re not sitting home jerking off, but instead, going out, hanging out and being with other women, can do it. “Wing women†have long been used to make a girlfriend’s interest rise – and rise it will if you have a beauty on your arm.
For the last several months I’ve not looked at the girls at my gym. Now that’s not easy at Crunch on South Beach. The silicone headlights can be blinding – not to mention the tight asses and model looks – but by not looking, the psychology works in your favor. I’ve actually taken it a step farther and wear dark sunglasses and a noise-attenuating headset with my Ipod. I’m in a cocoon of darkness and sound while pumping, which in itself is nice, but the surprising thing is that more women than ever bump into me, cross in front of me, smile, and generally do whatever they can to get me to look. They also initiate conversation by asking if I’m using “this weight†or “that benchâ€, etc. My mind really is not on them because I’m not looking, and wouldn’t you know that’s when they respond?
Getting women to show interest is hard work, and of course, the risk of rejection is great. But my sense is that guys with a lot of phone numbers could not give a shit less about those women who don’t give a number. They just move on and at the end of the month, they have more numbers than they know what to do with.
Prostitutes are always available for easy sex, variety, or for vacations where you don’t have a lot of time. But if you want to “stir†something in a few hometown cuties, don’t call too soon, don’t spill your “gutsâ€, maintain some mystery, and sit back and watch what happens.
You just might be surprised…..
Jazz
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