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I don't know of anyone or anywhere else I could solicit advice, especially given the irony of the whole mess

There are those situations that you walk away from wondering how in the world that just happened... then in retrospect you see just how many opportunities you had to avoid it all together. This was one of those situations.....

There is a beautiful regular female customer of mine, who other than a smile or brief pleasantry I have never really spoken with, though sometime the looks last a little too long... Anyways last friday she and I actually spoke, and I found out that this dark haired, dark eyed knockout with the great legs and easy smile is, to my surprise, a native Tica... having recently married a wealthy gringo and having only lived here just over a year. When I told her that in just over a week that I would be going to CR for my vacation, her eyes lit up, and in the most beautifully accented english she told me about her home country... more bashful smiles, more looks....

She would become excited, then as if she realized her place, her voice would get soft and she would look down. There was a connection, but nothing that could be acted on, her being a married woman and me being in a working environment. After an awkward silence I excused myself.

She was in my head the rest of the day, and after work I stopped in the nearby grocery store, and to my suprise who did I run into.... we must have walked up and down each aisle three times talking.. Her husband was very wealthy, and had total control over her life, she had chores and errands she was expected to do daily(although they were nothing a normal housewife wouldn't do, and she drove a new Acura) She was grateful and admited she was fortunate, but still she had no friends except a few people he had over regularly, a cell phone that was to be used only to call him, and restriction on the house line.

I helped her load her groceries in her car, and we talked in the parking lot for another 20 minutes before a light rain forced a decision. He was out of the country(not CR) for two weeks, and she had to be home to receive his calls.

I should have said goodbye and gotten in my car, I should have shaken her hand and walked away... But during the typical latin goodbye kiss she paused and asked softly in my ear if I wanted to come over. I found myself following her home... my mind racing too much to really grasp the concept of what I was doing...

What happens next doesn't need much elaboration, although i will say that it was nothing short of incredible. She had all the poise of a woman with all the playfulness of a girl... an old soul with young heart... like a caged bird. I woke up the next morning in another man's bed, with another man's wife curled up naked beside me. Any other man's first instinct would be to bolt.... but i didn't want to leave her... she woke up and looked at me and smiled, putting her head back down on my chest and going back to sleep. We woke up, showered, back to bed.... then she and I both knew I had to leave.

My feet still haven't touched the ground

I crossed the line on so many levels I don't know where to begin.... but when I think about her, it's like I don't feel the slightest bit of remorse. I guess I'm just waiting for this to somehow bite me in the ass and snap back to reality. I haven't seen her since, but it's inevitable that I run into her again... but if i do, and he's still gone... i don't know if i'll be able to say no

I must say that is quite an interesting story.I don't know I would have had any more willpower not to get involved in the same situation.I sounds as if she has many convieniences in life but maybe not true happiness.I would be curious to know if she is a former working girl from San jose or just a tica girl freind.
I made a decision early on I would never get involved with a tica working girl in a novia type relationship but have meet one exception who is tempting.I have not bit that bullet and most likely won't as my big head says that is not a good idea.rbc100

I say "Phuck the over controlling prick!" Well, not literally. Screw his wife instead. I don't know if she was a former working girl like RBC suggested, although if she was that might explain why the husband feels he has to be so controlling. If in fact she was, Caveat emptor, the husband should have known what he was getting into.

Think about it though. She invited you over, not the other way around. Obviously, by treating her like a slave (albeit in a velvet cage), he's not providing her the thing she needs the most, and I'm not talking about the Acura. She seems to be willing to take the risk and she's the one who is cheating and has the most to lose, not you. Just be careful you don't get caught. He may not see things the same way and you never know how he might react. You also should consider any potential blowback to your place of employment if the fit hits the shan.

Actually, in some ways you have the best of all worlds. Hot chica sex without having to worry about her hitting you up for funds to pay her sick mother's hospital bills or her trying to trick you into matrimony.

Sounds like a wild encounter. I really try to respect marriage, but find it difficult at times. This probably would be one of those times.

ElGamin

This definitely puts a damper on thinking about marrying a tica and bringing her over here. You can take the tica out of Costa Rica, but you can't take Costa Rica out of the Tica. I can see why he doesn't let her out much. I hope for your sake she doesn't start feeling guilty and decide to come clean with her husband.
Whether he's rich or not, he could do you some serious hurt.
I'm sure it was wonderful but to me such pleasure is never worth the risk.
I would end it off and try to forget about it.

Just my take on the situation, but to me, married women are forbidden fruit, especially with a whole country down south full of single latinas.

Buena Suerte........

Why is it wrong for a single guy to take advantage of one man's wife who came to HIM (ie not seduced or lured into infidelity) and who at worst for all you know may already be or have been cheating with other guys and who at best may be mistreated by the husband (ie he deserves it) and yet somehow its okay for so many married guys around here to go down to CR and screw literally dozens of other women?

LB,
I don't think you can draw any generalizations about marrying ticas from this. Generally I don't think cross-cultural cross generational marriages are a good idea but you don't know anything about the particulars of this case with absolute certainty. Was she a former pro? That could explain things and then you couldn't generalize to marriages to non-working girls. Was her husband a dickhead as it appears he might be? That doesn't mean you would be such a bad husband as to drive your wife to cheat.

In all fairness to the husband, none of us have any knowledge of the true situation. We only have what the girl said. It may be true or it may not be. If he is so bad, why did she marry him in the first place? Why doesn't she leave him? She's been here a year so should know enough to take care of herself or could easily return to Costa Rica. If she fell that easily it's probably not the first time and probably won't be the last. How do we know she didn't con the husband from the beginning just to marry money and be comfortable? Is she willing to give up the money for happiness? If not she's just an undercover hooker and will use whomever she can to her own ends. Regardless, she is playing a very foolish and dangerous game taking you to her place while he is out of town. If he is that controlling and suspicious, there is a good chance he might come back unannounced or have a detective watching her. You, she, and probably he have no idea what might happen if he does return and catch you there with her. There is a high probability you could get one or both of your heads as well as hers blown off. It is absolutely not worth the chance. If you do wish to pursue it, do it on neutral ground and be extremely careful and discreet. I wouldn't chance it unless she leaves him. I can almost guarantee he will know what she has done sooner than later and the consequences could be disastrous for all involved Believe me, when you are on his side of the trigger, it takes all the self control you can muster not to squeeze twice. Consider yourself lucky and move on to safer pastures.

Just my advice from someone who has been on both sides of that fence.

Goetz

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Some people want to "swing"? let em Swing. The only risk in this story is being at someone elses house. How would you know if she was really telling the truth or not? What if the guy returned unexpectedly...maybe suspecting "the slut" of this behavior? You would have really had a potentially dangerous situation on your hands. Why not take her back to YOUR place instead? Or a hotel room? Is that any more or less kinky?

SOund like a great adventure, but of the dangerous kind...

sounds like the whole thing is a fantasy....Sure you are not dreamin of these ticas, and the possibilities, like i do???

Well said LB. Ticas are known to be very promiscuos.

SubAtomic, a buddy from Miami also had an "encounter" with a latina who was married to a Gringo. She was Colombian!

Dildo Man

Subatomic always remember the man with the most info and accruate info controls the situation. I suggest if you want to continue the relationship that you do some serious detective work. Who is her husband? what does he do? Is her story true? you need the answer to these and many more questions while you can still think with your big head. The way it sounds a few more secessions with her and you will only be thinking with the little head. Good Luck.

PS Remember her husband may be a member of this board and reading your post now.

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Get a room and enjoy!!!

I second that idea!

Yeah..what he said. I have slept in another mans bed with his spouse. Am I proud? HELL NO. As I look back I can only say that I am lowlife. (I am not passing judgement on you Sub. I'm only saying how I felt.) Not only did I do that, her young K*ds were asleep in the next room. Also, what does that make her?
Someone on another thread posted that Latinas make great "whores" but lousy wives. The more I have learned about the latinas through my own experience and those of others I am forced to agree.

dapanz1

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