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I have long been an advocate of not getting too involved with chicas (putas or not) here in C.R. I still feel that way HOWEVER,,, Saturday night an interesting thing happened to me. I had dinner with two friends who were in relationships (one live-in and the other not) Both were happy after many years. In thinking about it for a while I realised that we had also invited two other guys who couldn't come. They were also in committed relationships and appeared happy. Maybe I should think about it. If I did get a novia what would I do with the other 4 chicas in my rotation. Then again who would have me? jaja

Recently I was told that another close friend and a friend of his and going to Miami soon to marry their Costa Rican live-in novias here in CR in a double ceremony. HELP...What is going on here? Is it possible that I am missing something here? All we hear about are the Gringos who wind up giving their novias houses and cars only to be thrown out. In thinking about all this I just realised that I have another good friend who left CR to live with his Dominican novia. Oh oh...I also have another one who moved to Panama to marry his novia.

Let's see what the ever-wise ORANGE has to say. He knows wassup.

I have a 72 year-old friend who married a Nica half his age seven plus years ago. All his friends warned him of the disastrous mistake he was making. They are still together and both appear to have a true, deep love and affection for each other. He treats her well but doesn't spoil her; at the same time she knows she and her Ch*ldren have a secure future even when he passes away. They both seem to be winners.

You just never know how things are going to turn out and, every once in awhile, bucking the odds pays off.

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I agree with Bob. I have been noticing a rise in the number of guys that are taking Latinas (not just from CR) back to the states. I think the gringas are becoming exponentially more fat and bitchy.

Working girl or not, it usually doesn't work out for various reasons (age difference, communication-no español, working girl still wants to work, monger can't stop mongering, etc). I know only a couple of gringos who imported and it worked out long-term; the rest went down in flames.

In my opinion, the most common reason that they fail is that once they arrive in the US, the latinas realize that life in the US is not as peachy as they thought. And it goes down from there. Obviously, there's the other reason where the women are only using the guys for a greencard. The real feelings come out pretty quickly and then it's just a matter of time.

I would not get into a relationship with a latina unless she accepts you for what you are. If you have a 5 or 10 chica rotation like (Bob) , you gotta find a chica that will be cool with you seeing the others, unless you want to become monogamous.

I happened to find a good one. Great wife, great mom, great cook, married 5+ years, and she recently became a US citizen. They always miss family and friends, and will get bored quickly unless they find something to do (mine belongs to a Latino church). She hasn't worked yet, but she wants to find a job because she's bored at home when the K*ds are in school. I didn't pressure her either way.

My friends and some family too were predicting at it would be a disaster. My friends goofed on me calling her my greencard wife. Well, she got her GC and now citizenship and she's still here. I guess they were wrong.

Orange.......your success has as much to do with you as with her. Good luck to both of you.

Like I usually say in these type things... It all hits the shitter cos chica never (really) likes/loves the monger to begin with. Not wanting to believe that, monger is easily fooled. Chica plays the role till she has to, or can't take it anymore...period.

All other excuses, influences etc..just don't matter. You can't explain away falling in love with someone who doesn't love you back.
Now is it possible to have a relationship or for a chica to have genuine feelings etc.. sure, but don't expect to see it often between chica and gringo..

If there's decades between the two or if chica is noticably better looking then the gringo, then you can sure bet it's like %99 of all latina gringo relationships.

Believe or take what you want, but it is what it is....ever since human nature was discovered..


Cujo

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I met a beautiful paisa in Medellin 6 years ago, married her in 2010, and we now live in Colombia 95% of the time. The relationship between us gets better every day. If you can find someone who truly cares for you... go for it. If you can't, then stick with the putas... they are very good at what they do. If possible, I recommend living with her in her natural habitat. Both of you will be happier. I no longer had a desire to live in the US, I liked Colombia a lot, I retired (no need to work), so the move down here was a no-brainer.

Having served 20+ years in the military, I've seen plenty of cross-cultural relationships that stand the test of time. I've had plenty of long-term relationships, live-in girlfriends, etc myself with women from outside my country (USA). I've also seen more than a few go down in flames.

A universal truth I've found in the relationships that last is they all have the following:

1. Both partners share the same fundamental values. Fidelity, honesty, respect are crucial and have to go both ways. Guys who marry working girls have issues because the girl sees sex like a kiss on the cheek, not a sacred and special expression of love. Same for mongers who can't be satisfied with monogamy. The way I see it, if you want to spread your skeet around to different chicks, why the Phuck would you get married anyway? But I digress...

2. Communication, in a language you both speak. If you don't speak Spanish and she doesn't speak English, seriously wtf do you do when you're not fuckin??

3. You have to love her for more than her pu*sy and her looks, and she has to love you for more than your wallet and your passport.

4. There has to be genuine, mutual friendship and profound affection for one another. Seems like a no-brainier but I've seen a lot of marriages happen without this and they are not happy ones.

5. You both need to be on the same page as to your lifestyle needs and desires. If you don't want K*ds and she does (or already has a couple from a previous baby daddy) or if you have zero interest in her culture or family traditions, vice versa, look the Phuck out.

Lots of conditions I know, but these universally apply.

And I agree with BlueDevil that the probability of success is higher when you live together in her homeland near her family. Homesickness destroys lots of otherwise happy relationships and Latin cultures are far more family-oriented and communal than most Anglo cultures.

Vince, very, very sound advice. Thanks.

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OMG, First you bought and that was not suppose to happen. I thinking my self smart said all you need now is to wife up and you would have broke all the rules. Damm Bob, Our hero's are going to the way side. I too am engaged. hoped to be married before the end of the year. Yes a big age difference. Yes the family calls are endless. I am happy for you Orange.

But Bob, did you ask Hoppy what he thought. Better check with your Sponsor. hahaha Go with God Bob.

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Sounds like I moved operations to Panama just in time to avoid a major outbreak of the love bug.

Mr. Bob please tell me you're joking and that my idol has not fallen.

Lee

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What part of "maybe I should think about it" don't you guys understand. Also "what would I do with the other 4 in my rotation?" OK I thought about it......NO I'M NOT GETTING INVOLVED However you guys should see my current lineup. jajaja

I'd have bet VB would NEVER talk about getting involved in a relationship in Costa Rica

But seriously, listen to this man. He gave me a ton of good advice back in the first year of my relationship. I took a lot of it (like getting her to quit drinking so much) but ignored a good bit as well. Yes, I beat the odds and yes mine is different but the times sitting with VB made me really think and have to take the opportunity to say thank you Vegas Bob!!

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Having a successful relationship with a Tica is a lot like shitting a bowling ball. It takes a lot of effort, it's extremely painful, lots of shit is involved, but the payoff can be amazing. I guess it really isn't that much different than trying to build a relationship with a gringa, a Dominicana, or a Chinese girl. They're all the same, really. Once you figure that out you can demystify the LATINA and make a legitimate run at a real relationship.

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Life would be so simple if we were all the same. One size fit's all would be so easy. But reality is that we all have different needs and different "assets" to bring to the table. Lots of guys want what they can't realistically get and others have plenty to offer and don't demand very much. The second group are much more likely to succeed. I've met some pretty lame dudes who think they can get a supermodel just because. They're doomed but don't ever try to explain that or you'll run into a buzz saw. In CR there are wonderful women, decent women, passable women and holy-F*ck what a nightmare women. It's your job to tell the difference. This recording will self-destruct in 15 seconds.

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