There's an old saying that women decide when, and men decide how. I always thought there was wisdom there, which is why I've remembered it all these years. After being on the planet for a half-century, I believe it to be true.
Women, simply put, do not act whimsically on their sexual desires. How they can be so disciplined is a thing of beauty in its own right, although that doesn't stop me from being perplexed. Women can take it slow. That's not to say they won't deviate if just the right opportunity presents itself but as a rule, especially if they really like you and see potential for something a little more substantial, women will always make you wait a little longer than is pleasant. Sort of makes you loosen your tie with annoyance.
Women take intimacy seriously, especially the 25-35 crowd. It's not a game or "experience" as in "gfe." 18-24 y.o.'s are good sport phucking but at my age, getting to that next level of not just beauty, but also a challenging and sexy female mind, requires an "older" young woman. By then they've learned how to keep a man's interest with fierce coolness.
Women will risk losing you over consummating prematurely, a relationship they deem worthy. They will take the time they need, whether to lose 5 lbs before you see them naked or to pass a course they're taking after work. They'll likely drop hints along the way during this cat and mouse ritual that can be tantalizing, letting you know they're going to phuck your brains out, but on their timetable. It may be as simple as her telling you that she recently started back at the gym, or that she stayed at a girlfriend's last Saturday night after clubbing, just to let you know she can make arrangements for her Ch*ld and you could be next for an over-nighter. Or she won't quickly return your calls but when she does, recalls vividly, details of things you said or did. Or you might be on your way out of town and want to see her even for a drink before you go, but she'll say no, when you return. It's good business, because guys often lose interest if it's a quick jump in the hay.
Women assess pretty quickly if they can see themselves naked in your arms. Guys do as well, but that's where the similarity ends. Men immediately want to act on it, for fear it (she) will get away. Women have all the time in the world, and the smart ones throw you just enough crumbs to keep you guessing. Your aggravation is secondary to their instincts, hard-wired by evolution.
It's not easy to keep a man's attention, but the smart women have figured out how. The "nice" smart women do it with grace that, in itself, is alluring. I'm enjoying this phase right now with a 29-y.o. nica here at home. She told me to have a nice trip to Rio and will see me when I return. I said come over for just an hour tonight, the eve of my trip. She said no, when I return.
I loosened my tie.
Jazz
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. Of course, right now I'm 17 days in gringaland, and it's a much more expensive sophisticated hunt from here...and quite sad to be honest. Cant wait to get home to CR...