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Author:  Orange [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:17 pm ]
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How do you guys handle PM's from members you have never met?

I ask because occasionally I'll read a trip report or some post and I send the person a PM to ask for something specific or whatever, only to be completely ignored. I know it was read because it's no longer in my outbox. Personally, I have answered a few hundred PM's with all kinds of questions, many from guys I've never met. I don't mind helping, but it irks me when I'm ignored.

I think it's kind of rude to ignore a PM. If you don't want to answer, say so. I would much rather get a reply saying "sorry I can't say" rather than getting dissed.
Author:  Irish Drifter [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:30 pm ]
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Depends on the PM. Have always answered every PM that asks for information. If I have it I give and if I do not know I say so and if possible direct them to someone who might know.

I ignore PM's that are attacks or from people who I never have met but have attacked me numerous times. By attack I do not mean strong disagreement with something I have posted but rather personnel attacks.
Author:  Cujo's [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:32 pm ]
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I answer all PM's unless it deals with price, session quality etc...




Cujo
Author:  Orange [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:32 pm ]
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I agree about the attacking PM's. I meant more like a question about a certain chica or certain bar.
Author:  Icantstayaway [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 4:47 pm ]
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The challenge is that people that ignore PMs probably are the same people that won't take a second to participate in a poll. So by that logic, all the guys that ignore polls and PMs won't respond here. Right ?
Author:  Bktuna [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 5:28 pm ]
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I definitely always answer. I remember many vets answering my newbie questions and offering to help in any way. I say pay it forward.
Author:  Don Rico [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 6:55 pm ]
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I always answer and try to be helpful. What is annoying is guys asking for contact information for a particular chica. I never give out the contact information without first getting some means of identifying them to the chica and getting their permission. Got one PM recently from a guy I am pretty sure had bad intentions with a chica who had played him. Asked the chica and she confirmed she did not want to hear from the guy.

Peace,

Don Rico
Author:  Thirdworld [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:23 pm ]
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I'm happy to answer and have met some great guys and had interesting conversations by pm. Sometime I forget one and don't get it for a couple of days.
Author:  Thirdworld [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 7:25 pm ]
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PS. Except for one experience. Had a guy PM me because he didn't like something I posted. He was pushing my buttons and threatened me. He missed getting a beer bottle in his mouth by one day. I was flying back to the States the day before he arrived. Almost changed flights. Other than that, all good guys and not a bother at all.
Author:  BlueDevil [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 8:35 pm ]
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It depends upon the question. If I think it is a violation of someone's trust or privacy, I will politely decline to answer.
Author:  JazzboCR [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 9:40 pm ]
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Icantstayaway wrote:
The challenge is that people that ignore PMs probably are the same people that won't take a second to participate in a poll. So by that logic, all the guys that ignore polls and PMs won't respond here. Right ?

Impeccable logic and doubtless correct.
Personally, I've never sent a PM that was ignored nor received one I failed to answer if it was a request or question, but I have no doubt there are some doozies in the Brotherhood. They say a whole lot about themselves with that behavior. Don't know though how the system handles the sender's end if the receiver's inbox is full--it lingers in limbo until some PMs are deleted.
Author:  Del Rey Dave [ Wed Nov 03, 2010 10:14 pm ]
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I'm always glad to help others.
Author:  TimBones [ Thu Nov 04, 2010 10:08 am ]
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Thirdworld wrote:
PS. Except for one experience. Had a guy PM me because he didn't like something I posted. He was pushing my buttons and threatened me. He missed getting a beer bottle in his mouth by one day. I was flying back to the States the day before he arrived. Almost changed flights. Other than that, all good guys and not a bother at all.



Yeah, had some nasty ones from one person some time ago (you know who you are :lol: ) but I will normally try and reason the situation out as long as the guy is not downright profane; in the last case Admin intervened and I thank him for that. I think everyone, me included, gets carried away with the anonymousness of PMs and boards in general and say things that we would not say to the person verbally. I think that it should be a good rule of thumb that if you would not be comfortable saying something to someone in person, don't say it in writing; now I just have to see if I can abide by it. :D
Author:  Thirdworld [ Thu Nov 04, 2010 10:12 am ]
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The internet has taken civility out of life to a good extent. Good rule of thumb. :D
Author:  Orange [ Thu Nov 04, 2010 10:28 am ]
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Very true, everybody's a tough guy behind the keyboard. Unfortunately, sometimes people aren't as anonymous as they think they are. :lol:
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