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A Genius Post! Insulate Yourself From Getting Played!
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Author:  GoodToGo [ Sun Jul 11, 2010 1:12 am ]
Post subject:  A Genius Post! Insulate Yourself From Getting Played!

I'd sure like shake the hand of the guy who posted this on ISG:

Quote:
"There is a simple secret to not getting played and that is just don't have any expectations. We all will have the opportunity to "help" one of these girls, sooner or later. How can we be surprised, much less dismayed, when the issue of money is entered into the express or implied agreement: I'm going to do this for you and in return I will get this. Whatever it is: the allowance is to allow her to stop selling herself to anyone but you? Or, you just want to help her out because you are nice guy and expect nothing? Every decision is to fulfill a want or a need.

The Buddha teaches that the cause of all pain is unfulfilled desires. If you give because, as my grandmother taught me, your gifts are given with a cheerful heart, your responsibility ends with the gift. For example, if the working girl continues to ply her trade notwithstanding her protestations of love and fidelity to the foreigner, he hopefully is simply thankful that he was in the position to give the gift of hope of a better life. There is no responsibility for another's choices. People do what people chose to do.

Unfortunately, almost all of these girls, pro, semi-pro or what the chivalrous among us call the "normal" girls. Are liars. What we really "guard against" is the vulnerability of trust. No worthwhile relationship can exist without trust, and you can't buy it. Telling the truth, well it escapes them, sooner or later. And so it follows, liars can't be trusted.

So, I suggest the more reasoned course is to buy their attention by the hour or for the night. If you want to "gift" them an allowance, just don't have any expectations. How could a little more money (or a lot) hurt one of these beautiful Colombian girls? It's better than giving it to the phucking church!

Finally, someone might be sad when you're gone. You might actually be able to create some good karma to offset the ***** of an ex-wife and ungrateful K*ds who see your death as the fulfillment of their entitlement."

Author:  JazzboCR [ Sun Jul 11, 2010 1:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: A Genius Post! Insulate Yourself From Getting Played!

Not to get all kinky here but have the same "no expectations" feeling when I'm sending money to a down-at-the-heels brother of mine. He's trying damn hard but struggling. Do I owe him anything even in a family context?--NO, because I have another brother in worse shape who's given up trying. I'll help the helpless but never the hope-deprived. You could accuse me of trying to buy my way into Heaven--I just don't see it that way. There are no true altruists because one can never truly edit out ego but gain differs radically from individual to individual.
BOTTOM LINE: It makes me feel good to help one; it makes me feel good to ignore the other.

Author:  HR_Juan [ Sun Jul 11, 2010 1:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: A Genius Post! Insulate Yourself From Getting Played!

You are a true character JazzboCR. I couldn't have stated that any better and I fully agree with your take. Getting played is in the eye of the beholder.

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