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We all know that, for the most part, its a different type of person who not only works at the DR vs. the SL but also stays at the DR vs. the SL. That is why I'd like to think that we spread the word around (for BOTH locations) that some common courtesy just might keep you from having your face beat in. I wouldn't expect any discourtesy at the SL, but might be a little more expecting of it at the DR. However, you could be playing with fire at either location.

Case in point:

I'm sitting with my fav and some of her friends all having some drinks, but I don't think there was ANY question I was with my fav (or at least that I was sitting and buying drinks, engaging in conversation with a chica to the untrained eye).

Then, one of my fav's occasional guys comes over and WHILE I'M TALKING TO HER, invites her to have a drink with him over at the other bar.

Excuse me? Did that just happen?

I have NO problem (nor should any of us) with someone saying "hi" or a pleasantry to a chica while she's otherwise "taken." I even accept the polite inquiry about "are you busy right now?" Where at LEAST the person is trying to NOT butt in.

But asking a chica AWAY from another guy is so disrespectful (not only to the guy, but ESPECIALLY to the girl - I would doubt he would ever do that at a regular bar to a non-pro) that it crosses a line. Lucky for him, he didn't push the issue when she declined.

However, what would YOU do if someone did that to YOU and then tried to insist that she go?

AO’s are everywhere but she is neither your wife nor your girlfriend. It is a business transaction. Your ego my get hurt but there are hundreds of other girls to take her place. No sense on getting your face punch in over a chica.

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I would find it hilarious

Seriously, that's just low class on any guys part. I don't care if your in mongering central, or in church. I've long generalized talking about chicas "acting right", well for a guy this is an example of not acting right..


Cujo

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J0sie knows.

The amount of times I've seen gents buy drinks, kiss and paw the girls at their tables and NOT session with them because a price couldn't be agreed upon is rather frequent

The guy showed no class sticking his nose in for sure, but I'll be damned if I'm tossing the knuckles, risking a beating and possibly being unwelcomed in a place I like for a working girl.

If she goes with the guy, she never goes with me again. But these are working girls, they're for a buck not to "hang out". The guy put her in an awkward spot as well, she had to be confident you were going to come through

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El Ciego posted a very similar thread.

https://costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewto ... highlight=

Don't tell me, no way, he couldn't have, it not like him, he never would, he's not even supposed to be down there, not my El Ciego, it's completely out of character, did he?

In this case, I wouldn't create a stir with the guy. Since the girl would know me enough and how I can play around with people, I'd probably tell her what I want to drink, have her go over to him and order it like it was for her, then have her bring it to me in front of him, she can go back and talk with him, and have a signal with her when I am ready for another. If he was ignorant enough to intrude then he would be dumb enough to buy me a few rounds. Then, thank him on the way out when I go to bop my honey.

Dean

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" most of the girls down here, lie as a self defense mechanism and to not have to face the truth, thinking most men couldn't accept them knowing the whole truth. Simpler, they may just want men to think they are as perfect as they want to appear to them, trying to hide what they consider to be the ugly truth about themselves. And I may be reading more into it than is there, but I do believe they consider the basis of the lies to be justified."

Mysnoatb:

My take on the matter is that the behavior occurs more than one might expect and said behavior takes place not only at the Del Rey. It also is not uncommon at the SL. It's just a different form of cockblocking. When it happens, just sit back and watch the show....both shows in fact: the first show from the dweedlbob who's cooler than you (Obviously, right? Or else the guy wouldn't have thought he could come over and vamp)....and the other show is how the woman responds. Sometimes you get blown off and the business takes over....other times....and this has happened to me.....the little darling will tell the oof "I'm talking to him right now (meaning you) and you're interrupting us...." and things only get better from that point forward. It ain't nothing but a party....

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- Aldous Huxley, Brave New World, Ch. 16

Fav (looking at me): "What's the correct play here?"

Me: "Go with the assmeg. Charge him cien MINIMUM. As soon as he leches, take his money and say you have to go. Come look for me. If I'm not already occupied, we'll spend his money buying shots."

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Trust me I don't think anyone would try to do that to me again. One look and it would be over for that Phucker; he would definitely know where he stands with me. It has happen with me already; and just the look I gave that Phucker he actually came over and apologize to me later. I make sure I make eye contact with him and then; he knows I just don't want to Phuck with this guy right now. Some people just don't have any class or home training. They have forgotten everything their mama has ever told them about manners and not to interrupt people when they are talking.

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Ok, J0sie, let's look at it from your perspective as purely a business transaction (as it often is, but not always, as in this instance here).

Change the word "chica" to "plumber" (but not THAT way!).

So I'm there talking to a plumber about a leaky pipe I need fixed (heh heh). I really like this plumber's work (and you know a good one is hard to find!) so I'm there paying the estimate and discussing what needs to be done, and some other guy comes over and tries to take the plumber away from me to do HIS work.

I could be talking to a car dealer about the Pontiac GTO I want to buy and be interrupted. I could be talking to a bartender about the drink I want to have and be interrupted. I could be asking "how much is that doggie in the window" and it just doesn't matter.

In any transaction, business or not, its completely uncool. Putting the chica in the situation is doubly uncool because you've now MADE her into ONLY a business transaction and these chicas are NOT just pieces of meat (no matter what any of the more jaded members may say). If that IS someone's viewpoint, I'd liken it to a slot machine - if I'm there putting in all my quarters, waiting for the payoff, and someone pushes me off my chair to pull the lever and take over, I WOULD punch them in the face.

from the other guys POV it's not about you it's about her...many times guys but dinner and drinks but never put out the hundres or 50 or whatever to pay her bills.

she now has the option to stick it out with you or jump the fence to the old tried and true...her call not yours

Mysnoatb, I agree with you that you are dealing with AO’s and is totally uncool. But what you do after that is what differentiates YOU from them. On all others business examples that you presented, I would leave it at the “professional” discretion how he reacts to it. After all some will go with another customer, because of a higher payday, repeated business with that customer, etc. This is true for plumbers or chicas. Like the republicans said, “Business is business”.

On the slot machine example, you changing the parameters of the initial question asked. You will be defending yourself and property and some force, as last resort, might be necessary.

But a physical confrontation in the middle of the HDR is a no-win situation for all parties including the chica. She could be ban from the HDR, such impacting her livelihood. You get ban from the HDR. Police gets called and everyone arrested. Etc, etc.

I do have a question about this remark “let's look at it from your perspective as purely a business transaction (as it often is, but not always, as in this instance here).” Why you see it at anything else but a business transaction? Am I missing something here?

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I think you're missing the human element here. Just how I try and normalize these chicas and take the business right out of them, that would be in order here as well.

Again, just because we are in CR and there's this p4p thing going on doesn't mean you can't act right. Its like a guy using the urinal right next to you when there's several others available. Its just not right...

The fact there's many chicas available and guys can hook up on a whim doesn't excuse the behavior in my opinion. More then likely this guy wouldn't do this back in the states, so why do it here? Yea man, just act right, we expect the chicas too....

Cujo

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"Pain is the fuel that fans the flames of my pyre. A battle plan is only as good as the general carrying it out on the field. This is my war son, and I have the biggest bombs and the smallest conscience"...

Why do you automatically assume it would lead to a fight? You can handle it like an adult, you don't have to necessarily threaten a guy or challenge him to a fight.

There are ways to stand up for yourself without acting like a tough guy. Maybe the guy didn't know she was "taken" (even though it may have been obvious to most), or he didn't know the proper monger ettiquette (even though it's the same as non-pro etiquette). A simple "She's with me" will usually be enough. This happened to me on one of the first couple of trips at HDR. I was talking to a chica and some drunk idiot starts trying to get her to turn away from me and towards him. Just saying "excuse me, she talking with me" worked, he got the message.

Yes, you are missing the "favorita" and "I am not mongering, I'm here with my favorita" messages Mysnoatb is putting out.

Cujo - assmegs are assmegs everywhere. A leopard doesn't change his spots because he's in the States versus Costa Rica. I can't count the number of times I've seen the exact same behavior here in Miami. Probably because Miami has such a large proportion of assmegs in the male population.

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