after reading six pages of the "chica invitations" thread, I am, as always, amazed at how cynical some of the guys are.
I've received dozens, if not hundreds, of RFMs from chicas in san jose. And I've sent money to several. And only once have I felt like I was burned on the deal.
Most of the girls to whom I've sent money have paid me back faithfully, either in cash or services, when I saw them again.
No, I don't routinely send money to just any chica who thinks I'm a soft touch. But I've become really close with five or six ladies there, most of whom really are supporting sick mothers, special-needs K*ds, large families, etc., and who need a little help now and then.
There are the occasional gals who get good-paying clients every day or have a special gringo sugar daddy who supports them from afar. But most of these gals often go days without clients, or only getting cheapskate clients who haggle them down to a desperation price.
When I first started going to CR for women (I went there for 25 years only for fishing and tourist stuff before discovering the pleasures of el centro.), I was one of those guys who haggled 'em down and felt studly if I could get a chica for 20 bucks less than you did.
But after I started making friends and getting to know some of these gals, going to their houses for meals and parties, taking day-trips with them to the beaches or just out to new bars and restaurants, to movies, etc., I changed my point of view.
I look at many of these girls much like I look at the people I do business with here at home. I'm buying their services, and if they provide good service and sometimes throw in a little langniape to boot, I pay them well and add a little propina as a reward for doing a good job.
If I've got a few extra bucks in my pocket at home, I don't think twice about buying drinks or dinner for my friends here. And when I'm in CR, I don't hesitate to take the girls out to eat or even to buy a meal or two for some of the SL regulars who aren't having a good week and don't have money for lunch or dinner.
No, I'm not a perro grande (big dog) as some of the girls describe the gringos who like to throw money around to impress everyone,
but I've found that being friendly and just a little bit generous has reallly made my vacations in CR more enjoyable.
The girls take my laundry home and do it for me. They bring me gifts. They've cut my hair, cooked me food, burned CDs for me, etc.
My point is that, while there are those girls who view us as walking ATMs and really don't like us all that much, there are also many with whom you can enjoy a good friendship as well as great sex, and who aren't really trying to con you if they ask for a little help at times.
So an RFM isn't always an automatic red flag. Nor does it always mean that the girl asking is a worthless puta. Hell, they're just people who are working a usually-shitty job and trying to make a living.
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Girls that need to ask for money do so for a reason!
) disease that will cost $300 to cure.