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Another thread about excuses for cheating morphed into a question about whether to tell one's significant other about the need for sex with others or not. I believe that the more basic question is as below.
Society mostly believes that men have a choice in controlling their sexual needs. Much like a significant part of our society believing that gays and lesbians have a choice in their sexual orientation.
So, is the male condition as it relates to sex and the need for it something that is in our jeans (choice) or genes (trait)???
My belief, just like my belief in the gay/lesbian question, is that it is absolutely in the GENES (TRAITS) category and I submit for your consideration the following information:
1) Bill Clinton, Craig from Minnesota, Spitzer of New York, and many other high powered men who just had to have sex in spite of the many potential problems that could and did arise.
2) Priest, clergy and other religious men who could not keep their urges from potentially devastating their lives on this earth and in the after life.
3) Sexual Predators who simply cannot control the urges and continue to abuse others after knowing of the problem and the backlash to them.
4) Rapist: Yes, studies indicate that rape is not a sex event as much as it is a power event, however, I submit that a rapist sex drive may be driven to rape because they like the rough sex part as many that do not resort to rape pay prostitutes to do.
5) The amount of porn purchased by the males around the world.
6) The millions of men that are on websites such as this to live the sex part of their character out.
7) Helen of Troy and the fact that many wars have been fought over women and sex.
The constant battle for men to show their sexual prowess.
Males are superbly intelligent and have ruled this world in one fashion or another forever. It is illogical and beyond belief that we males would put ourselves through all the negative that society has to offer and the potential of destroying of our lives and our family to have sex and fulfill the need within us.
Back to the original question. Do I believe that you should tell your significant other about the sexual need or experience?? No, absolutely no, and again, no, no, no!!!!! I look at the overall picture. If we have 5000 hidden (from their families) mongerers on here and, if each one told their spouses about their adventures, perhaps 70% would get a divorce. The 70% figure actually came from my wife and is her opinion. If all 5000 continue to keep it secret, perhaps 40% (my wife's figure) will get divorced after having been caught or for other reasons. Perhaps, 1500 marriages would be saved.
Have a Great Day,
Dave
