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Thanks for the kudos, Dave. I didn't mean to diss your previous poll, but rather only to offer some alternative ideas. As it is, this new poll certainly incorporates some of those ideas, but still doesn't exactly match what I myself would ask either. But you know what? That doesn't really matter either, nor does what any of the rest of us would answer. I think this latest poll reflects some of your OWN concerns about where you see YOURSELF possibly heading at some point, so maybe you answered your own question.
That said, our own personal insights on this (tailored to our own individual situations) might be of some relevance to your own. So, I'll offer some more ideas. In a way ALL of your options could become factors in my quitting mongering and I might have included an option like that. OTOH. while it is certainly possible one of those scenarios by themselves might lead me to quit, it is more likely it would take several or all of those collectively or even some other factors you haven't even listed working together to get me to quit. So, looking at them individually, I could also see myself answering somewhat though not exactly like Pacifica - None of the above by themselves would cause me to quit. Beyond that, to most of the guys who jokingly have been suggesting that ABSOLUTELY NOTHING would make them quit, I'd submit that they probably don't really know what they're talking about because they probably haven't been doing it for more than just a few years, let alone the 38 years like you.
However these are the options you've provided so I'll try to pick the one that would be most likely to be the final straw. So let's look at them individually.
Call me jaded or warped, but as a never married and probably never to be married guy I just don't see enough advantage to becoming involved in a committed relationship. Why should a woman feel she needs to restrict me to seeing only her? Okay, nearly all women (your wife excepted) don't see it that way and probably most men (at least when it comes to letting their wife screw around), but that is the way I see. We could get into a whole philosophical discussion about the issues surrounding this, but suffice it to say that I just can't see myself becoming involved in a committed relationship at this point in my life unless I lost my mind or had a gun held to my head. I'm past the point of having K*ds, so wouldn't commit for that reason. I can simply "rent" sex at any time and with a wide range of physically appealing partners so why would I sugmit to all the complications and restricts of buying into one women. And most other aspects of relationships such as companionship, intellectual stimulation, etc. I can get from a variety of sources, so why would I restrict myself by requiring I get them all in one person? I'd rate this option the lowest, but I can see why it might be different for someone else with different priorities.
Changing sex drive? Viagra and other "miracle" drugs can help you get it up when that becomes an issue, but these have their limits. They're not safe to use when you're taking nitro for your heart and heart problems could become an issue for any of us when we get older. Plus the sex act itself might become difficult or even dangerous if one's heart condition is serious enough. Another problem with these drugs is that they don't help you produce any more leche. At some point one might become what I liken to a dog marking his territory, lifting his leg to squirt long after he's run out of piss. Finally, our testosterone levels can start to decline as we get older leading to less urge to have sex. Of course there is always hormone replacement but what's the point. In many ways, I'd be relieved to have less urges when I think back on how much time, effort and expense I have incurred over my life in the pursuit of pu*sy. Of course, in most respects that has been very enjoyable too, but that might be a chicken or egg situation. Do I have the urges because it is ebjoyable or has it been enjoyable because that is where I have been driven to? If I had pursued other interests, wouldn't those have been enjoyable too and mightn't I now have more to show for it? So, for me I could definitely see a point where there were other things I rather be doing with my time.
A quick side point, for the several guys who say that not getting it up wouldn't matter because its not just about the sex, I'd say "yes, but is just hanging out with chicas still mongering?". I concede just making out and cuddling with a soft frim supple young body could continue to be pleasureable, but the idea of just hanging out with hookers with out the sex (or making out) as the ultimate reward would not have nearly as much appeal. I'd have little in common even with young gringa chicks due to generational differences (in terms of things like life experiences, maturity levels, etc. eg having come of age in the disco vs. the MTV eras) and those issues are just exacerbated by the vast cultural educational and socioeconomic gulf that seperate us from 3rd world chicas. From an intellectual non-sexual level I have far more in common with my fellow mongers than I do with any of these chicas. So if you remove the sex (including any level of physical intimacy), I'd much sooner choose to hang out with other sorts of people than chica hookers. I think I'd rate this option very high.
I didn't interpret the "can't see myself with young ones" quite the same way as D2864. I don't think it would be so much a matter of being self-consious undressing in front of a 22 year old. After all, I'm paying her for the sex. If she doesn't like what she sees, she can charge me more if its that much of an issue (and then I'll have to decide whether it is still worth it). Besides, I plan to be one of those fit, urbane and distinguished looking older gentlemen. For me it is less an issue of how I seem to the chica back in the room as how I seem to everyone else out on the street. At this point I can still delude myself into believing I'm in pretty good shape and would still appeal at least a little bit to a younger woman even if it weren't for the money. So I don't feel too far out of place. At some point however it will become painfully apparent to everyone including myself that the hot chick on the arm of this decrepit and perverted old coot, who is more than young enough to be this old coot's grandaughter, is only having sex with this disgusting guy because he has to pay her lots of cash and then I'll look really silly and pathetic. It is sort of a variation of the classic "walk of shame". OTOH, I got over that hangup and I'm pretty sure I'll manage to deal with this one. After all, screw what other people think.
Getting burned by bad experiences. I think Pacifica unfairly gives this one shortshrift too. Yes, its true that bad things sometimes happen due to our own stupidity and that we shou;d just learn from our mistakes. But its also true that bad things can also happen through no fault of our own. Sometimes we just slip up, but often its a matter of assuming calculated risks and sometimes we lose on that gamble.
For example, "certain people who will go nameless" seem willing to write off ALL muggings as the result of someone having done something they shouldn't have (such as walking home drunk with lots of cash). I think a LOT of those muggins can be explained that way but certainly not ALL. Sometimes things happen in spite of taking all the precautions. What did DG do wrong to get mugged within 30 feet of his apartment in a quiet neighborhood on a Sunday morning? So what do you do? Learn from your "mistake" and never ever walk anywhere day or night? Probably not now but perhaps at some point if things get crazy enough.
Another example, most of us go for BBBJ's and DATY. For us it is a calculated risk. Also, sometimes despite taking reasonable precautions condoms break or slip off. What if one then gets a raging case of Herpes or, god-forbid, HIV? Would you be so sure you'd continue mongering then?
Things can really change or with a bad experience ones own estimation of what risks were really out there all along could change as well. Crime could get much worse in our favorite playgrounds not to mention the incidence of STD's, pu*sy prices could become ridiculously inflated, a higher and higher percentage of chicas could become hardened scammers to the point that one can not really relax and let down one's guard with any of them. Any number of external things could change whether we personally experience them ourselves or not.
In conclusion, my own predictions for why I might eventually quit mongering is most closely related to option #2. Not so much, absolute inability to perform but declining desire to do so. After having mongered for so many years, I think I'd probably be a little bored with the whole scene if not the sex itself. Add that boredom to declining urges and I think I'd just find new and more interesting things at some point for me to spend my limited retirement funds on. I suspect you don't have to worry about the money aspect at all, but even you may reach a point where you see more value in giving your money to some much more worthier causes than a bunch of scheming greedy hookers even if most of them still try to get you off in exchange for it.
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