GetRhythm wrote:
A double standard, I suppose? Yeap, but that's what works for me...Tman has posted a number of times about having something along this model, and I envy him for it.
My gringa and I have fooled around in the swingers' scene a few times over the past few years. At one point I posted a profile (as a single male) on adultfriendfinder.com, trying to hook up with ladies who needed more attention. There are a lot of fake ads on there but I also had a lot of communications with girls who were sincere. Most of them would say that they were looking for no-strings sex play but in my experience most of them still wanted to have the option of a LTR. In my 30s, decent looking and average physique, I found that had I been single there would have been many options of liberal girls to get with, but too many of them cooled off as soon as I told them I was married - even if I offered for them to meet the wife. Many of these girls were also bi-curious but were afraid to explore with other girls on their own - they want a man involved to help spread out the awkwardness.
Anyway my point is that I think you could find a chick who wants to explore with girls, would let you have your way with others from time to time, and who wouldn't be opposed to you spreading your fun out a little.
I for one have the wife who doesn't want to behave like I do but she has been to the DR and ZB with me and has no problem with me taking my upcoming third and fourth trips to CR this year.
good luck. Having enjoyed this marriage and its flexability, if for some reason I ended up single again I would NEVER be able to have another LTR unless the new girl was as understanding as the current (which I do intent to keep) Right now I have the best of both worlds and my best advice to the single but LTR motivated monger is to find the relationship that allows your hobby or don't even consider it.
-CCR