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I had a great first time monster monger trip planned 042307-040307 to celebrate my seperation. Now my wife found out, demanded I take her and discuss reconciliation. Hours and hours of research and planning down the drain. Does anybody have recommendations on some couples activities (we are late 50's). I am plannig to see a volcano and go up the hill for a pork chop. I've got restuarants covered. Need info/recommendtions on both coasts, beaches, romantic get aways (yuk).

Caribbean coast: Puerto Viejo, Manzanillo, Cahueta. Bitch of a drive from San Jose but doable. Romantic, primitive resorts. Extraordinary national parks, dangerous snakes, bullet ants, tarantulas, crocodiles (in case the Mrs. would enjoy a nature walk or swim).

Pacific Coast: Romantic Guanacaste' the whole freaking peninsula. Malpais for a surfer-dude yet still romantic getaway. Dangerous snakes, really bad rip tides/undertow in case the Mrs. would like to take a nature walk or a swim.

Arenel Volcano is active. Does Mrs. like mountain climbing?

All-inclusive resorts: The Mrs. can spend the day at the spa, getting pampered, massaged, manicured, pedicured, coiffed... while you take a fast taxi to Zona Blue and get your rocks off with a woman 1/3 your wife's age. Sounds like a good way for you to pamper yourself! Why should Mrs. have all the fun?

Remember, street crime against gringos can be bad in San Jose. Do send Mrs. for a long late-night hike to buy you an English-language newspaper and six pack.

(I hope everyone reading this nonsense understands that I am not urging anyone to commit any criminal or violent act, no matter how badly said spouse might deserve it).

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Pura Vulva! Wandering through the dark, I am El Ciego.

Wow, almost 3 weeks. I'll give you a short answer, buy Lonely Planet Costa Rica and read, read, read. There is enough to see and do to fill 3 weeks. I have no idea what will please your wife, but most women seem to like lying on the beaches. If your budget allows, try Tamarindo and Manuel Antonio. Try Tabacon resort. Monteverde reserve, Tortugero, all standard tourist destinations. Good luck.

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"The only normal people are those you don't know very well." Joe Ancis

Take her to the BM and tell her that if she wants to discuss a reconciliation, she has to participate a 4-some with two Colombianas of your choice.

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"....Now my wife found out, demanded I take her and discuss reconciliation."

Sounds like maybe she did some research on Costa Rica herself. Afraid that after you go to Costa Rica by yourself.......there would be no reconciliation.

Zebra

What a waste of a trip. just kidding.

Nah, you can have a lot of fun. A different kind of fun, but fun nonetheless.

I you like the beach, go to Flamingo, it's on the Pacific coast, in the Guanacaste region. The Flamingo Beach Resort and Flamingo Marina Resort are both very nice. And right about now, it's changing to off-season, so the rates should be dropping. You can do all kinds of activities there. There are some great restaurants there, especially for fresh seafood.

www.resortflamingobeach.com
www.flamingomarina.com

*Contact Mucho Gusto, he can set you up on all kinds of recreational activities/tours you can think of. His business is based out of Flamingo Beach Resort. He can even get you a discount at the resort.

Oh, and if you are serious about this reconciliation, STAY OUT OF THE GULCH!!!!

That sucks - postpone the tickets (if possible) and see if the reconciliation takes!

On the other side - Arenal is wonderful. Worth a 2-4 day trip. If the volcano is active - it is quite a sight. Also visit the hot springs (Baldi or Tabacon) Both are very nice. The zip line tour in Arenal is not to be missed. They have one with a tram that takes you up to the top and (verrry fast) zip lines to the bottom (or you could hike or ride the tram back) but the zip lines are worth it. Zip lines and the hot springs are great couples activities.

There are also gardens/falls near Paos - you could spend a whole day there (La Fortuna I think) Entrance $ is steep but they have pretty nice facilities.

Even if you loose the tickets, I wouldn't come with your gringa until the situation is resolved. Waste of money. Sounds like a typical gringa trick to leverage a trip for her. If you are separated, you should be able to go where you want. Discussing reconciliation is not a good reason to go to CR. Clear the air with her first or come by yourself. If the reconciliation is successful, go and celebrate, if it is unsuccessful go and celebrate.

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Play Safe

I think Zebra has hit this one on the head

As other brothers have said as well, reconcile first or cancel,
Or go alone

Lelaco,
IMHO, I think Green Giant has the best advice here.

You can bring the "wife" to CR, but at this point....WHY????? You're already set to leave in 6 days......ALONE !!!!!!!!!!! I hope I'm wrong here, but it looks like she's got you by the short hairs. Just sit her ass down, and explain the facts of life to her. You're going, and she's not!

Look, you're already seperated, right??? Don't you have any "say" in the matter? If you go alone, what's the worst that could happen? You stay seperated ?!?!?!? To me, it looks like (maybe) you need a little "space" to figure out things. And a trip to a beautiful, eco-friendly Central American Country might be just what the doctor ordered!

My thoughts - Either cancel the trip totally, or go alone. I don't think that anything good could come from both of you going on such short notice, especially considering your present set of circumstances. And, personally, since you've never been to CR, I think you OWE IT TO YOURSELF to check it out, spend some time away from the gringa "wife" and clear your head (pun intended). Then, upon your return, you'll be in a better position (mentally / emotionally) to make a better decision about your future with (or without) her.

Whatever route you choose, best of luck in your decision.

Mucho Gusto

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You ALWAYS have an option ....... "NEXT" !!!

Thanks you guys are great!!! Appreciate all the advice. Wife overheard me tell my mother today I was going out of town. I originally told wife trip was to Mexico. We have always wanted to go to CR. Since I know I'm not a 1 woman man and a monger, I've tried to convince her to allow me to divorce her. She says she wants to stay together and will do what ever it takes. I'm gonna tell her, I can watch porn, go to strip clubs, see and have sex with other women but I'll limit mongering to once a week for 45 to 50 weeks a year. I'll keep you posted on how well this goes over.

You've tried to convince her to ALLOW you do divorce her ? ? ?
Oh man. You need this trip more than you realize!!!

Ok. So, at this point....
- Since your original trip was not to Mexico, she already knows that you're a liar.
- Plus she already knows that you're not a "1 woman man".
- AND she's willing to do whatever it takes.

Well, congratulations. It looks like you've solved your own problem. Enjoy your trip, and keep us posted!

MG

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You ALWAYS have an option ....... "NEXT" !!!

Problem solved.

Wow...just reading this gives me the shakes. I went through basically the same kind of ultimatum 4 years ago and....

I'm now single (4 years, do the math )

I travel alot and am now going to costa rica...

I bought the boat I've been wanting for years....

I have a 27 year old gringa girlfriend who's great...

Get the picture? It's a pain in the ass going through a divorce, but this is TEMPORARY and after a few months, it's definitely worth it! Make the decision based on what you want (unless you have young ones still at home IMHO) and don't be cuckolded into anything.

Do not do this this will negate any negotiation leverage you would have had if you do get divorced. You need to find a buddy that sport fishes and take him down with you, if you do not fish then.... he is teaching you to fish this trip... its something he has been planning for you a long time.
The only senario where your plans would work is if she is extremely open and even then she might resent you in the future, lot o downside the way you are proceeding.